Plenty of Fish, yes, but where are the men? Dating chat thread #4

[lubeybooby]

A new one (again)

Dating, internet dating, all kinds of dating.... chat about it here.

Off you go! :o

Oh charlottes dearie me. I wouldn't be happy with that AT ALL as a topic of conversation on a first date... or well, ever! frankly putting it the way he did smacks of manipulation, and it's working because you are considering it. Only do it if you really really want to. Sorry I just really have a problem with that as it reminds me of my exdh who would pressure me over that kind of thing, and it is an unreasonable kind of pressure.

I would probably say something sarky about doing it only if he was happy to have a regular back sack and crack wax and see what he said to that. But that's me.

Putting that with talking about his cock as well, FFS! and I'm afraid think he is a smarmy git and not a gentleman.

that would be TWO red flags to me.

Does he want a relationship? i'd be inclined not to believe him if he says he does...

O dear, cm - he sounds very much like a legover merchant and not very subtle with it.

If I were you, I run a few checks on him. Finance Director? Have you got the name of the company whose finances he directs?

I'd say he might well be a finance director and he might well have money but he has NO class. My hard up stubbly window cleaner had more class and grace in his little finger tbh

God I can't believe what I'm saying here... this just shows how much I've changed the last few years. I'd have been impressed with that shit once upon a time and would have immediately gone out and waxed my poor fanjo to death. Not any more. Fuck that. As it happens I always have half a brazillian now but I do it because that's the way I like it and I wouldn't change it and take more off or leave more behind for anyone. My fanjo my rules, love it or fuck off.

Nothing quite so sweet as dining at the Y in Hollywood! It's up to you CM. He wants a root and he may or not be planning on hanging around for a longer haul. Work out what you want and decide from there... only you can know what you want and what sits right with you.

The 8" cock may well be an exaggeration. 8" is industrial sized manhood! I think some guys measure from somewhere behind their balls... or maybe they use the centimetres side of their rulers by mistake... or maybe they are that well endowed... but 8" is bigger than most porn actors can manage. You're a clever woman CM, you'll be able to judge before his pants come off. Given his specification of the wax job you'd have to be more interested in what his tongue can do than his willy surely?

I'd be willing to bet both would be mediocre at best Poppa :o

I work on the principle of talking down my skills and assets - that way if I do get the chance to trot them out the worst that can happen is satisfaction but hopefully they elicit a pleasant surprise. Of course the old principle of shaving off all the pubes and finding a woman with small hands to make your dick look bigger never goes astray.

CM I'm with Lubey on this one, he sounds dodgy.
Lubey I'm glad the date was a B+ (I love the grading idea)
Morning all!

CM eh?

This man's a dick! Who on earth talks about the size of their cock and specifies which wax job they prefer on the first date?

You need to hone your BS radar lovely.

charlottes - just 'gak!' at boasting about his cock-size and leave your bits alone unless you want to defluff. sounds like he has watched far too much porn.

lubey :)

You are so right ladies and poppa. I've been mulling it over and had come to the same conclusion before I logged on. I mean wtf??!! Surely a decent man would be interested in me as a person, not how much pubic hair I've got?? Ffs!! And he talked about himself all night, I hardly got a word in... And he is extremely negative and cynical against women. Pah back to the drawing board... Anyway I have a plan b and a plan c already lined up

Definitely made the right choice there CM

A man who makes it perfectly clear on the first date that he doesn't like women is not a man you want to go on a second date with.

And I bet he would have been a crap shag too. Men who don't like women don't care about their sexual pleasure.

Best of luck with plan B and C!

Morning folks!

Phew, so glad you girls got home safe, some mother hen I am though, I fell asleep half way through Xfactor.

Lubey your date sounds lovely. I like him A Lot. I want one just like that!

Charlotte Your date sounds like a knob in a suit and I wouldn't give him the time of day. Which I see you aren't going to do anyway so that's fine.

I don't do waxing I just keep it neat and tidy with a lady razor and that's about it. I couldn't be doing with the expense of regular waxing never mind the pain embarrassment. I'm just going to have to make sure that whoever earns the right to go to places no man has been for a while is so in love with what's above the knickers that he doesn't mind so much what is in em!

samhaircin Are you sure you really want to go for a second date with this guy feeling about him as you do? I'm a bit worried that you don't trust yourself not to go against what you really want in order to accommodate him. That in itself will make you miserable. If a second date isn't what you want then don't feel guilty pulling the plug, the decision as to whether to see each other s as much yours as his, you don't have to do it just to keep him happy or because you don't want to offend him. If he is upset then it's his problem to deal with, not yours.

You should have told him you lent your bushhedgetrimmer to Mr Warty, cm. [hgrin]

Ask him for a photo of said 8" dick, cm so we can check it for warts in the interests of science, of course

Charlottesmum, thank god you've reached the right conclusion. What a prick! and I don't care if it is 8 inches. An ex of mine would have measured that and he was a bit too large tbh, although that was the only complaint I had. Don't these men realise that it's what you do with it that counts. I bet he struggles to get a shag with those chat up lines and has to spend his time self pleasuring with the tape measure by his side.

Btw, where is this one from, POF? Can we have a nosy at his profile.

Looks like I could do with taking some of my own advice re bullshit radar honing .

I don't know if you can remember but a couple of threads ago I posted about a man I had been in contact with for ages (since January) who I had been having some real virtual chemistry with. There was definitely something there between us but he was reluctant to get involved due to distance and the fact that I didn't want any more children (he would like a family.) We had arranged several dates and he had always backed out at the last minute for these reasons. We had also agreed a couple of times to leave each other alone but always seemed to come back to viewing each others profiles and chatting.

I then posted more recently on how we had now definitely decided to meet up. My attitude is we may have some fundamental differences but meeting up is just meeting up, we don't have to get married right? If the feeling is there it's worth exploring. I have been so ridiculously excited - I have gone out and bought new things, gone for beauty treatments e.c.t. and we've been flirting and talking about where we're going to go and it's been lovely.

But... he's done it again. Disappeared and stopped writing. I've sent a message asking whether our date is still going to happen and... nothing.

I don't need anyone to tell me I'm better off leaving it be - I know that. But what I don't know is why? Why does he do this? If he's not interested then why doesn't he just say so? Why view my profile and write and flirt? Why does he say he wants us to meet and then disappear repeatedly?

I'm so confused and disappointed. I've made arrangements, juggled work stuff around, looked forward to it, and what's worse, as soon as I make a date with him I tend to lose interest in other people I'm communicating with therefore scuppering any plans I might have made with them.

Just can't believe he's done this again.

Oh Make, what a total arsehole. Don't have any further contact with him now. He is obviously just a timewaster. Sadly that's all some people ever do, and they seem genuine but the actions prove otherwise. Block him on everything possible and forget it now. Find someone who won't piss you about and waste your time and efforts [sneaks in a quick hug]

make time izzy adam LMAO!! I never even got a chance to tell him about my warty hedgetrimmer experience because he was too busy talking about himself. I've just thought about another thing he said which is a red flag....he has a 5 yo dd who he hasn't seen in 2 years because the mum did a flit (they were together for 10 yrs) and he doesn't know where they are. He is going through the courts to get access and a petition has been served but he is not allowed to know their address - hmmmm i know what I'm thinking...sounds like dv possibly?

Oh... should say that's the why. The reason why he has done this is because he is a classic timewaster. I've known one or two. They love all the chat and planning but never have any intention of going through with it. A form of dating trolling I suppose, with a few mh issues thrown in.

Definite red flag there CM, it's either that or he is just saying that he is going after contact but isn't really bothering with anything about it. Both options of course are very very bad. NEXT!

Yep, dv - and he's probably got sti too.

Never mind cm, you'll get to dine out at Mr Warty's expense one of these days and what a story you've got to tell your grandchildren.

Actually, add mum in the freezer while Mr W was in Shagaluf and you should be able to dine out for some considerable time

Make absolutely everything lubey said. Block him. Now! Right now! Go on, come back and tell us when you have done it!! Nasty, horrible man. We are having none of that on this thread!

Charlotte you don't have much luck with your dates do you love Have a read of this www.dailymail.co.uk/home/you/article-2047902/Relationships-Beware-charming-man.html