Porn

[EmpireBiscuit]

Looking for some sense to be talked into me...(and you all seem like a pretty honest bunch!)

I discovered on Saturday night that dh sometimes watches porn online when alone in the house. He says he doesn't do it often.

Now, I think I'm maybe overreacting but I feel disgusted. He knows I have strong feelings against strip clubs etc and I am at a loss to how he thought this wouldn't bother me.

I am massively insecure and can't get the thought of him pleasuring himself looking at prettier, thinner woman and comparing us. We are still talking etc but I feel odd about him seeing me naked, or even touching (let alone being intimate). I feel sad thinking about it all.

What do you all think? Huge over reaction or would you have similar feelings?

Thanks!

The majority of males masturbate over porn, whether they get sex weekly, fortnightly, monthly or even every other day.

Women shouldn't be concerned about this; men and women are different; IMO blokes just see a cock fucking a wet pussy, wank over it, something that enables them to move on to their next 'task' of the day. It clears the mind and means NOTHING. In fact, it makes me want even more sex with my wife (not weird shit), so in fact, in my opinion, as long as the porn isn't abusive, and just home made porn or clearly girls who are really into it, then what's the harm? Unless, of course, you are a girl/wife with a complex who can't stand the thought of their partner pulling off to a girl who may be more attractive than they are. I guess i'm lucky I have a hot wife.

By the way, tbis was posted by 2010Dad on my wifes account.

fucks sake op get a life! You said it all your insecure about that sort of thing, thats your problem not his. john39 your completely right sorry but women can be so naive sometimes.

I agree with BillySolloxx and john39
some women are niave when it comes to porn. Its not as if he is leaving the house to actually go and shag these women!

I couldn't care less if DH decides to 'treat himself' to a little self-enjoyment and uses porn to acheive the result. I can also say he has never attempted to throw my leg around my neck, attempt an american accent or spunk on my face. I may not be the prettiest lady around, but I don't feel at all inferior to the ladies he may watch. He's with me. He gets amazing sex from me, however whilst the quality is all good, the quantity has reduced with me being heavily pg: I would imagine he has turned to porn in those times he needed and I coudnt be arsed to deliver

If he needs a release, and Im not there to help or not in the mood, he can take care of it himself, porn or no porn.

I walked in one day unexpectedly and saw a bottle of baby oil that was next to his bed, took one look at his face and burst out laughing at him. Took him a while to look my in the eye he was that mortified I'd "caught him out" but later told me he told a couple of his pals who were equally embarassed on his behalf. I just said "ill leave you two alone "

Actually, decent intelligent men see women as full human beings, not just wet pussies on a screen.

But as I said earlier, porn users always think all other men use porn too, just as all rapists think all other men are rapists too.

There are lots of men out there who are actually decent people and see women as people - they just tend not to associate with skanks who see women as not real people.

LikeACandle
LMAO! @ 'I'll leave you two alone'

Likeacandle, is your man circumsised?

erm...why is that relevant, urgh, is it to do with the oil getting places?

fwiw, no.

What a daft question to ask?

im actually waiting for the 'punch line'

me too M0na....am rather at the question

Nope after some thinking cannot even imagine why that was asked lol

I was at that question as well!

Just came on to say I agree with madonnawhore's first post on this thread and thank you for putting it so eloquently.

maybe justasmallglass wanted some tips? He might be planning a "romantic night in for one"?

Uppity: get with the real world - i'm quite sure rapists don't think all men are rapists too. Perhaps you've had experience of this, Perhaps not, but i can tell you straight, if my wife isn't up for it, then nor am I. My wife not up for it = me not interested either.

Actually, decent intelligent men see women as full human beings, not just wet pussies on a screen.

Actually, decent intelligent people don't fall for false dichotomies.

Justasmallglass, what would what you think have any bearing on what rapists think?

Circumsised men tend to need lubricant to masterbate as they have no foreskin so their 'gland' is de-sensitised and needs some kind of mousture to make it feel wet. Sorry if TMI.

Not TMI, just glad you finally anwered, we were rather confused. No he's not, think he just thought it would feel nicer

Lots of people look at porn, but not everyone does. Some people have ethical objections to it (some of which are valid), some people are simply not interested in it, just as some people are really not interested in sex at all.
Most of the people who look at porn from time to time are not mad rapists or obsessives. They have a look, have a wank, get busy with a wet wipe and get on with the rest of their day.

There is a fair amount of 'ethical/fair trade' porn to be found, and in general I think more people should choose that as the more people buy the good stuff, the less room there is for the bad stuff (ie that which is produced with performers who are coerced, misled or desperate).

I think it's interesting how many people rock up on these threads to spout information about "all men needing sex all the time or their cocks will fall off." Some people have an incredibly low opinion of men in general. How much do you need to hate men to propogate the lies that men are ruled by their penises?

The problem with this, apart from the blatant and deliberate misrepresentation of the view itself, is that the moral judgment is all yours. It's not implicit in the acknowledgment that many men have a very high and very promiscuous sex drive, and those of us acknowledging the fact don't actually have a "low" opinion of men at all. There's nothing "low" about having such a drive - unless you've got some wierd religious idea that simple physical sexual desire is evil or something.

In fact it mystifies me how you could equate saying that somebody needs a lot of sex, with having a low opinion of them.

Bertiebotts: I have no ideas on the general thoughts of rapists. I can only imagine they are warped individuals who have no respect for women and get off in some way by degrading women on an ongoing basis with zero respect. Does that help? Having a wank over two consenting adults either with your partner or alone, or if it's the time of the month. This is very different, surely you agree?