He wants to... i do too, but....

[lovecognac]

I have been together with my DH for many years, we love each other. He has mentioned anal sex in the past and i often think about it too. I just do not know how we can start it ? I know i need lubrication, but i am tense about it hurting. Has anyone advice/ experience they can share with me please.

ffs it's saturday today, not friday! i'm afraid yo'll have to wait a week, everyone knows tha friday is bumsex night on MN!

You're a night too late, love

I think you might be on the wrong site. Nobody ever talks about that here.

Can't believe you've opened the bumsex floodgates on a Saturday.

Lots of lube and take it really slow ime.

You can watch X Factor on catch-up instead

Shit! (oh, soz.....) thought I'd lost a whole day. My teenager's upstairs wireless-less so it's not him - time for a headcount mummys?

Glass or two of wine, tons of lube, and you be in control, not him.

Your post is definitely one for nethuns and, after the deed is done, it'll be obligatory for you to create a ticker showing 'x hours, x minutes, x seconds since I had bumsex'.

However, abeit it's the wrong night, since you're here I'll go so far as to tell you that I suspect the hunnies will suggest you relax and make sure he uses plenty of Anchor butter lube. I also suspect they'll advise him to curb his enthusiasm in favour of a 'gently does it' approach - and to use a condom that he can remove should bumsex leads to penetration of the more favoured hole without allowing for a bidet break.

Of course, I could be entirely wrong and a couple of caring hunnies may invite you round in RL so that you and dh can be shown the right and wrong way to do it. If you arrive to find pampas grass growing in the front garden, you're best advised to make your excuses and head for the hills home - and if you drop anything on the floor before you leave the premises fgs don't bend down to pick it up

You lot are not helping her are you?! (well, except for stretch & I spat my name out at the irony of that!)

Try doing an Active Search - there should be plenty of info in there!

If you are tense at the thought of it, it's not going to go very well is it - you need to either embrace the idea & relax or decide it's not for you.

Oh yes, v. important: use a condom and no switching holes without taking it off first.

No A to M either cos that's just gross.

Dirty bastard

You don't exactly live up to your name then, Rebel?

I'm all mouth and no trousers izzy!

woohoo bumsex!! no it doesnt hurt aslong as you take it slow and make sure you relax.
Good luck its good to try new things.

I would say almost all men ask for it.... almost every one of them fully expects the answer to end with "off" and the first words are not normally "get em"..... :)

You're ideally dressed for the occasion then, Rebel

Thanks to those who replied with helpful advice. I never thought we would need a condom, is that only incase we reverted to vaginal sex or some other reason ? I am researching the options but by now DH is probably fast asleep!

A skilled lover has no need to 'ask'... squeaky

Lovecognac, i would recommend a condom. Personally, the feeling of semen in your..erm....bumhole is not pleasant!

And thanks chippingIn! May have to change my name

Have to agree with ChippingIn, wrt stretch's name/post, although I'm still trying to work out how she spat her name out

If he doesn't use a condom, he can get a nasty UTI. And so could you if he went straight from the back door to the front door without having a good wash in between.

Yes, that too. Don't wear white trousers afterwards, put it that way!

Why on earth do you want a cock up your arse? Ewwwwwwww!

I always think there is something not quite right with a man that wants anal sex ... not sure why you would want it either?!