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He wants to... i do too, but....

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lovecognac · 01/10/2011 22:09

I have been together with my DH for many years, we love each other. He has mentioned anal sex in the past and i often think about it too. I just do not know how we can start it ? I know i need lubrication, but i am tense about it hurting. Has anyone advice/ experience they can share with me please.

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AbbyAbsinthe · 02/10/2011 19:22

Really Annie? It's just a bit of experimentation, surely? You can't say you don;t like it if you've never tried it, can you?

BumgrapesofWrath · 02/10/2011 19:26

I find using a butt plug beforehand helps to relax your sphincter

Annie421 · 02/10/2011 19:26

Yes I can ... i would be horrified if my husband suggested it and i am in no way a prude ... i'd be wondering why he wanted anal sex!!

madonnawhore · 02/10/2011 19:29

Annie421 what do you mean 'wondering why'?

It's a different sensation is all. And a bit naughty, if that's your thing.

Some men like to put their willies in all sorts of places. And some women like all sorts of things up 'em.

No need to be 'horrified'.

AbbyAbsinthe · 02/10/2011 19:32

I don't understand why you would be wondering.... It's taboo, isn't it? That's why he would ask, I'm sure. Everything's a bit tight and a bit naughty. And believe it or not, it can be very enjoyable!

iklboo · 02/10/2011 19:33

Annie - I hope you're not going to trot out the old chestnut that if a bloke wants anal sex he must be gay?

fit2drop · 02/10/2011 19:40

Abby
I think there are some things that you don't NEED to try before deciding you don't like it and anal sex is one of them.

OP forgive the pun but, if there,s a but in your answer , [sorry childish giggle] maybe you need to reconsider

ChippingIn · 02/10/2011 19:41

See - I was still laughing so much I typed 'name' I meant 'wine' of course!!

Stretch - I'm never going to forget you around these boards

Lovecongnac....??? Any, um, updates??

iklboo - I suspect so ^^

Grockle · 02/10/2011 19:49

I always used to be in the 'no way' camp but am a relatively recent convert... It's different.

Lots of lube, a condom in case you change your mind and want to revert to the usual way without a bathroom break and I think you need to be really in the mood and to really really want it. Go slowly.

AbbyAbsinthe · 02/10/2011 20:41

Fit2drop

ArtyFartyPants · 02/10/2011 21:17

Tried it once with my DP........fucking hurt not matter how much lube I put on. Gave up after about 10mins....I still don't walk properly and it's been about 7months. Although he's got a massive cock so it hurts whichever hole it goes in

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