General internet dating support and chit chat thread

[lubeybooby]

Relationships seems the most appropriate place for this I think? Happy to ask for it to be moved if it's maybe better in _chat or something.

Anyway!

Chit chat your dating/internet dating claptrap here!

Also your hints and tips please for dating in the shark pit on the internet

I'll start.

I'm 31, single and rather fed up of it now. Have a few internet dating profiles, am trying to improve my social life and get out more, even looking out for possible additional temp jobs just to be.... 'out there' a bit more.

Even had a go at cosmic ordering which has been cropping up in dating related threads recently. Now I'm a very scientific and cynical kind of person but when it comes to my (currently appalling) love life I will try anything to give it a bit of a boost. Whether that be focusing the mind on the task in hand or strange unknown forces I care not.

Lubey.. wow!!!! Hope they both go well :) 4 inches shorter is a lot though isnt it.

Shiney. I'd stay away from forces men, but that comes from being married to one once..

The policeman is being very sweet and asking if he can call me. I've said no. Because I'm knackered.
I feel a bit guilty because I'm.sure I won't fancy him. Because I'm ridiclous and only fancy stupid men who I'd have to be mad to actually date.

"MindyMacready I think you meant that post for this thread?"

Fucketty fuck, yes, sorry!

Watch... sometimes attraction can come from spending time with a person though, like I've dated some men that I know from real life that I probably wouldn't have looked twice at on a dating site. It's odd... give it a chance you never know... and if it doesn't work you haven't lost anything.

Mindy :o

My Red Flag Man was Forces and very damaged after 32 years in.

I rang the Very Nice Man just now and made him very happy. He is the other end of Europe with his mates and was hugely pleased I was thinking of him. Still think he is a good'un!

4 inches would be too much for me as I am 5ft 10in

The one policeman I dated was fine for three dates but then on the third we were kissing goodbye in the car when he out of the blue got his cock out and wanked into a little green plastic bag (the kind for picking up dog mess)

He then threw a wobbly and called me 'mental' and 'bipolar' when I refused a fourth date.

Lubey. Wtf!!!!!!!

LOL. That is the best thing I have heard all day..

I've never had much luck with the growing attraction. I either instantly fancy them, or I just don't. Ever.

I will admit to joining OKCupid to snoop on PoppaRob (cant find you, btw!) but have been inspected by, oh my, shall I just post a very small portion of his offering?

Oh my god Lubey what an awful experience

I have a question for all you other daters out there, which is what do you do at the end of a date? You know that awkward goodbye moment? I usually just go 'goodnightitwasnicetomeetyou' and extricate myself sharpish, but I'm wondering if I've sometimes given off the impression of not being interested when that wasn't necessarily the case. Do you usually find that most men will ask then and there if they want to see you again? I'm afraid I have not had any second dates

Ah go for it Shiney!

Makeyourowndamndinner ... If I'm not sure if they like me I offer a cheek peck and hope for a text asking if I got back ok or a hello or whatever, or sometimes bit the bullet and text myself and suggest a second date. I've also sometimes if I'm a bit more sure of their signals just snogged them lots and gone on to a second date from there. I don't think there are any rules set in stone really.

Madame yes post

I think you just have to go with the flow and do what feels right...I tend to get quite tactile if I fancy them, touch their arm, lean towards them etc, but if I don't fancy them then I tend to be quite business like. If at the end of the date I fancy them then they get a kiss and if not, then they don't lol.
I'm really smitten with Mr.Engineer now so I'm not going to look at the dating sites again until i see if this progresses :)

This is a tiny, I assure you, tiny portion of his offering.

He has a girlfriend. But she believes he should share his talent with the world.

Ahem. Get ready to bleach your eyes afterwards.

You want to get together with a man who'll pamper your body, from the nape of your neck to the tips of your toes, with his hands, fingers, lips, and tongue. I will worship, caress, kiss, taste, lick, or suck, any and every part of you, for as long as you want, in any position you like, until you are satisfied. Then, perhaps after a cuddle, we'll say goodbye, for now.

He won't have sex mind you, because that is exclusive to his girlfriend.

She is a veritable Mother Teresa, I tell you.

Yikes, whose profile is that madame?

M r L i c k y. I kid you not.

how do I search by name?

Oh dear. I'll have a look tomorrow and prepare the eye bleach!

Just put the username in the search box, but make sure you haven't accidently copied and pasted a space or it won't come up.

I've been chatting to PoppaRob, he's lovely and I'm gutted that he's in Oz.

Lubey, the copper . Madame, bet you cannot wait.

If you don't like them then stand right back at the end of the date. If you like them stand close. That's what I do.

I'm already sick of POF after 2 days. Been 'chatting' to a couple of nice looking men who are just boring me with their one line answer when I've sent a few paragraphs in my messages. One wants me to visit him, miles away and the other wants me to invite him up. WTF!!

Shiny, there are a few of us singletons ppsting on your thread who already 'know' each other via a 'quiche' about being single. We added each other on facebook and some have met up but not me as I live at the other end of the country. I can vouch that they are all lovely.

If anyone wants to add me on facebook, then PM me.

Nope, can't find him!

Oz? Zut!

Lubey, have you seen his profile?

Madame, I'm Rob_Sellicks on OkCupid, but I can't see a spot for a search by username. :-( Maybe if you pick Aldinga, Australia in the location'ish bit.

On Oasis I'm RobSA if you're on there.

found ya!

Blimey, when you do find msgoodrightnow, she is going to be perplexed by all your girly mates in the UK!

the search box is top right, but its the same dark blue....so hard to see!

Found it! Just pop in Rob_Sellicks and you should be able to find me.

Thank you Lubey! I think you're a bit special too. Bloody long swim though!

As I said to Lubey, I've got a musician mate in the UK who keeps at me to win the lottery and spend a while hanging out with his bands. Now if we could just get things aligned it could be a lot of fun... although there is the small issue of needing to win the lottery.