General internet dating support and chit chat thread

[lubeybooby]

Relationships seems the most appropriate place for this I think? Happy to ask for it to be moved if it's maybe better in _chat or something.

Anyway!

Chit chat your dating/internet dating claptrap here!

Also your hints and tips please for dating in the shark pit on the internet

I'll start.

I'm 31, single and rather fed up of it now. Have a few internet dating profiles, am trying to improve my social life and get out more, even looking out for possible additional temp jobs just to be.... 'out there' a bit more.

Even had a go at cosmic ordering which has been cropping up in dating related threads recently. Now I'm a very scientific and cynical kind of person but when it comes to my (currently appalling) love life I will try anything to give it a bit of a boost. Whether that be focusing the mind on the task in hand or strange unknown forces I care not.

charlottesmum5: Yep. Definitely single. It's 6:15pm Friday here, the grand-daughter's just been picked up, so the highlight of my night will be going out necking... that is going out to my workshop to put position markers and frets into some instrument necks for a couple of hours. Woo hoo!

stay- good luck for later, do let us know how it goes :)

Shine - none of them can resist a bit of dirty texting... its just that its a good idea if he is as interested without that as well,you know? Plus - that kind of proves he doesnt have phone issues AT ALL, and that was just bullshit, which would actually make me fucked off and not want to see him again.

Sponge - dont fret yet. Wait until lunchtime and if you havent heard anything send him a text. It seems that men are a bit crap about arrangments, not saying i agree or let them off the hook about it, but dont fret yet.

charlotte- i would enjoy it for the ego boost, but be really warey, i have found that those that come on strongest are the ones that are players, or are really insecure, or just nutty.

hmmmm.
So, what do you make of this?

Logged onto pof and saw that sundays date was logged on. No problem, had a bit of a search, seeing if anyone else interesting was about ( i only search about once a week). But he wasnt coming up on active searches. Wondering if he had blocked me, i logged out and searched, then searched his user name, and it seems that his account must be hidden right now.

Sent him a text, and he replied instantly, and we are having a bit of a natter.

Do we think hes found somone else? what the bet hes going to cancel sunday?

watchout it's more likely he has hidden the profile because he likes you I would have thought? Benefit of the doubt from me anyway.

im not convinced, but then i am highly suspicious and untrusting of internet dating people. You never know, and then when you think you do know, you often turn out to be wrong.

no, im not bothered that he was logged on. so was i!! lol

its more the hidden profile.

Makes me wonder why? like, if hes met someone? or is married or something.
We were meant to meet monday, and then i had to work late, so we posponded til tue. then tue he had to work late, so he said sunday he could guarantee there would be no mess ups and lets go with that. We texted all day/evening wednesday.
hes got tickets for going away tonight and tomorrow, so he says, so not seeing anyone then ( he mentioned these 2 weeks ago)

Yes he has met someone - YOU! It honestly wouldn't occur to me to think it was because of someone else. It's early days so obviously yes be guarded, but he seems interested and is communicating ok etc, so you have no reason to think it's not down to him being hopeful about you. Also what Shiney said as well

he did say that hopefully we will want to see each other again after sunday. BUT, you know, ive had that said before. I probably seem very untrusting. But i cant help it, its what years of online dating does to you.
( or has done to me anyway).

yeah - i agree with what shiney says too ;)

Oh I don't blame you at all for being guarded/untrusting. No one gains my trust online dating wise unless they have earned it. I also wouldn't automatically presume something bad though when it could well be the opposite. I just sort of have a quiet eye on the situation until I'm sure of them (which has happened with er.... two out of ten sodding million a few dates) :o

lol. my stats are about the same. i was trying to work out how many dates id been on this year, and quite frankly, ive lost count. None of them have worked out.
i obviously smell or something!
:)

baffles me how somepeople have like, one date and thats it, they are in a relationship and it all works out. Ive lost count and never got past a second date.

mr sunday is still texting. So im going to attempt to think nothing of it.

zany! Thats brilliant, wedges for his shoes bahaha!

Watch - he has deactivated his account. He could be making changes to it, or not wanting to be contacted by anyone at the moment, lots of reasons. I wouldnt automatically think the worst from a deactivated profile. I would not think about it, you have no need to just now its early days. He is still texting, he is still interested and he wants to meet. All good!

I need some valium or something. The Sassenach text to say he has crossed over the border. He is in my country!!! Eeek! Because Scotland is obviously my country and mine alone . I am presuming he will arrive in my town at about 5pm. Much earlier than I thought. Still, not going to meet him until after work, but now I will be totally parnoid he will turn up at my work early and catch me acting like a muppet as I normally do with the regulars. I feel seriously uptight. Get a grip me!

Remind me Stay on Sassenach. Is he the one who you have known online for 3 years, get on briliantly with and like his pictures?

Just been messaged by a very cute 25 year old. I dont get it I really am almost old enough to be his mum??

oh my goodness.
im seeing him this evening.

His tickets are for tomorrow apparently, and he really wants to see me before he goes.

Sunday is too long to wait he said.

yeah stay, ive missed the whole sassenach story.

ike1 - yeah, i get ones like that. i ignore them.

I never go for younger ones ike1, it just feels too odd to me. Personal preference though. I've chatted to a few but never let it go anywhere and now I have under 30's blocked.

Actually that's not true - I deleted my pof account last night unable to stand the place any more, but before that I had under 30's blocked

I've just got a message from My Body who I was talking to on instant chat yesterday asking if I will be online at 2pm to talk again today [happy]

He seems keen Watchout

I get emails from surprisingly good looking mid twenty year olds. The cynic in me thinks they are doing it for a laugh as although I don't think I look bad I'm no supermodel

yup thats the one zany :)

well, did comsic ordering yesterday. And boom. Today I have an admirer who fits all the "worldy" wishes. hm.

And he has asked me out on a date! eek! I can't reply because I have no subscription! bugger!

borrow mine :D

stay, I wish I could! he looks lovely, if a little, er, wealthy, for my tastes!

or could I? could you message him for me?

subscribe???
whos it with? do they not do a free trail thingy? whats he like>

I must admitt to half doing the cosmic ordering thing. well. ive got a doodled in biro heart of my hand anyway :)

im also just a lot excited about this evening. i rarely get excited about dates. RARELY. This can only mean its going to be awful and ill end up all disapointed tomorrow. but meh. today, i have butterflies. I text him, cool, see you later then and he was like ' hell yeah!'
keen do you think?

God, that would so sixth form! My mate likes you!