The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Sweeping Into Autumn With A One Way Ticket To Sobriety.

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Phew, just in time!

I'm mouse and I love a few to drink. I love all things cheese and I love MrMouse

Welcome to the Bus. We are a collection of drinkers, non-drinkers, and those who are somewhere in between but we all have the same thing in common, we can't just have 1 drink and then stop.

Come say hi, we don't bite .

Here are the other threads to date, if you have a spare hour or seven to kill.

OUR HISTORY

Hi all,
I have been reading back through the threads - really great to see how well lots of you are doing! (sorry not got to grips with all names yet..)

I managed to get through the early evening without wine - I made curry with my DDs and ate with them!

My DH is being somewhat less than supportive and says I am being 'deliberately anti-social'. I don't see that me drinking ginger beer makes the slightest bit of difference to him! He is guzzling wine, sat in front of his computer with headphones on (this is what he usually does - is that deliberately anti-social do you think?) There has been tension lately which is why I want to keep clear headed.

So I am pleased that I have not succumbed despite wine being in the fridge and know that tonight I will not indulge. I know that I will be so pleased with this decision in the morning.

Hope you are all having lovely evenings x

well done soberme. ignore DH's efforts to undermine you, and yes, he is beign anti-social. My DH does this too but doesn't bother with the headphones so everyone has to put up with whatever crap he's listening to.
I have been decorating today to try and update the shared bedroom from its half blue space theme, half pink girly theme, into something two teens would inhabit!!

I am also sitting here twitching in case a huge hairy spider galumphs across the floor. it's that time of year again - shudder. One appeared last night while we were out and DD1 was here, but she bravely nailed it with an Argos catalogue!!!
Oh, and I am drinking tonight.Am not in a mental place where I am prepared to stop so am just trying to moderate as best I can. I'll be getting relegated to the sidecar again soon......

SoberMe - you little star you! Ignore your DH, he's doing this because you not drinking puts him front stage and centre. End of. My DH did this too. It will pass, or you'll say something I'm sure.

Keep going. A day at a time. A step at a time. You rock! We are here with you, even if DH is not.

Go YOU! xx

Ma - I heart you. You are so more positive today.

So, you hate spiders then? Me too! And being rural makes me the biggest scardy mouse on this bloody planet. I HATE THE FUCKERS! They are evil I tell you, evil.

Anywho, I've had one, yes one glass of cava tonight and now I'm watching X Factor with DD. Eating chocolate and drinking tea. I feel fab and have NO desire to lift a drop more booze to my lips. We (DH and I) had a little bit of a toast to ourselves, just for making it this far. No real reason. Just cos we love each other really and can.

I think it's important to keep showing each other than you do really love one another, even on the dark days or during the uber shitty times. Easy to say but I've waited my whole life for him, I'm not letting him go now!

Right, more chocolate.

Off to bed now gorgeous Babes - hope you are all safe and well tonight xx

mouse couldn't you even sort of , lend him out????
Actually the Proms are on telly just now and there is a really cute conductor on doing a big band thing. sort of nerdy cute if you know what I mean lol

Night babes.

Going to bed tragically early. Had a productive day and felt good. No drinking either. Fever Tree tonic on the rocks is saving my life (other brands are available!).

Day 6 tomorrow.

Be safe and sleep well.

Thank you DementedMa and Mouseface - I feel that being on this thread is going to help. Always lurked around the subject before.

Oh and spiders - cannot deal with them. Evil, ugly things. I also hate wasps - greedy little shits always trying to ruin a nice picnic...

Grabbing an early night now and hopng I will sleep.

x

night soberme
Thurso are you ok? How did it go today?

Oh it's a sunny morning here , still and calm, and I'm going to a wedding. They're hoping to have their wedding ceremony outside, looks as though they're going to get their dream.

Morning to all babes x

Hi all! Reporting back - give myself 6 out of ten for last night, I did drink a fair bit but nothing before going out, no more than anyone else and passed on the post-prandial (love that word so had to sneak it in) round of drinks. Tucked up in bed before midnight. Not entirely pleased with consumption over the last couple of days, but in some ways it's been a helpful reminder of how rubbish the morning after feels. Looking forward to some alcohol free days.....

Venus - enjoy the wedding, forecast here is for rain. Autumn seems to have come early - the conkers are falling already!

beautiful morning here too venus Where's the wedding?
indie things sound tough. You have my sympathies in the DP/DH stakes
On entirely another note does anyone know how to upload a video from my HTC smartphone onto YouTube? I follow the sharing instructions but it just keeps saying "waiting for WiFi" even though I have enable wifi hotspot and put in the code thingy.

hi Indie masybe your DP feels that she is able to articulate her problems with your drinking now because she CAN see that you are making some progress with it. Maybe when you were in so deep she didn't feel you were able to address the problems, so this could be a really good sign that she feels that you and your relationship are strong enough to deal with it now.

I also know that those early years with DC are really hard on both parents, just the torture of sleep deprivation is enough to send most people towards the edge.

Hang on in there, keep up the date nights and be kind to yourself - and you know that means not drinking!

Morning!

Today I won't be drinking.

A friend pointed out something interesting to me a couple of days ago. I was admitting to her about having relapsed, and said that the way my head works is that I tend to think 'I won't drink today, but I will tomorrow' which even if I manage to put it off for quite considerable periods of time means that I am essentially giving myself the permission to do it eventually. She suggested that I change my thought pattern to 'I won't drink today and I'll make the decision about whether or not I will tomorrow, tomorrow'

Off to a sunday morning meeting shortly. I don't on the whole do daytime meetings (work etc) but I am up and showered and feeling like doing something constructive. I might as be constructive about my own recovery, huh?

Afternoon

IsinDe - okay, I'm just going to say this. I think that your DP has kind of got to the point where she's had enough of seeing you go for so long, so many days without having a drink and then as soon as you aren't there, at home, you drink and let her and yourself down. Maybe that's what is upsetting her?

Maybe she feels like you're hiding it from her, that you can't talk to her about it, that you think she'll judge you? Who knows. Have you tried to talk to her today? BB makes valid points too, it could be that? Hugs xx

tawdry - if the red wine in the casserole bothers you, get someone else to add it and then hide the bottle. The wine will burn off during the cooking process anyway. Or leave it out and add a touch of Worcester sauce in it's place?

Golly - go for it girl! And yes, you're friend is right. Keep it in today.

venus - enjoy the wedding

Ma - I told DH last night about some of the BB's thinking he's cute and I agree with you on that conductor, he was NICE! Clearly we have the same taste in men, no meat heads, not Greek Gods but there's just something about them?

Had a dreadful night with Nemo, he's got a rash under his tube so I've had to put a new one in. He got so upset last night that he ended up in bed with us. So we've not had much sleep. DH let me lie in until 10.30. I'm a very lucky Mouse

Plans for today included cleaning the house, stripping the beds, washing, drying, tidying, and maybe going for a gentle swim. If not, we'll go for a walk through the lovely welsh hills I think. It's gorgeous here too.

Hello chaps.

Enjoying a wholesome Sunday. House cleaned, washing done, dinner made and eaten (it was very weird to be cooking and pottering on a Sunday pm and not be stuck into the wine).

Been to the swings, and now have the papers to read. There are so many hours in the day when you're sober!

Freaking out about a dinner out next week with DH and my dad. Meeting for cocktails before. My dad won't accept my not drinking, and he'll do all he can to twist my arm. I'm not sure if I'm strong enough. Anyway, shouldn't project.

Will check in before bed. Enjoy the last few hours of the weekend.

MOP - WELL DONE YOU!!!

Right. YOU ARE NOT TO WORRY ABOUT NEXT WEEK UNTIL YOU GET TO THAT DAY! Seriously, you know that. Have you heard of Metronidazol (SP?)? It's a strong antibiotic that dentists use for infections of the gum and mouth.

Tell him you are on those. If you touch a drop of alcohol, you will puke for England and rapidly. They are very very sensitive to booze. Every doc/dentist will tell you not to drink on them. But of course, I thought I'd be the exception to the rule.

Stupid mouse!

Or you could drink. But when you get your own drink, get a lemonade (G&T) or a Coke (Vodka & Coke) as far as your dad is concerned, he'll not know.

BUT!!!!

It's Sunday. So chill my lovely. Look at how far you've gotten to so far?

I'm knackered. Upstairs has been cleaned, beds done. It takes me 2 hours to clean upstairs so that's me for the day. Off for a walk with Nemo and the wolf now.

Be back later xxxx

hi all
have been stripping wallpaper and putting on undercoat so am knackered. Oh - and stripped the beds, did the laundry, made the dinner , ironed clothes for tomorrow....normal restful sort of sunday really.
Having a glass of red but only bought a half bottle on purpose so can't go at it all night.
well done to all of you staying sober.

Evening ladies. have been drinking since weds. tonight I am working for the next hour, then bath and early night.

Well done on everyone who got through the weekend, strength to those who are struggling.

xx

forgot to say but I need to write it down: today I will not be drinking.

Ma - a very busy day then? Well done, sounds as though you got through loads

MsGee - tomorrow is a whole new day. Early night will do you the power of good too. Sleep well lovely.

I'm waiting on a curry after DH finally decided what he wanted to eat. Funny, I suggested curry first off......... they say women are indecisive!!!

crying ..
drinking again..

On my, I am so, so tired. I was up early this morning to finish a report (due by the end of tomorrow, but client asked if it could be done earlier because he has a meeting with his chairman at lunchtime tomorrow). Ah well at least I have some free time tomorrow. That's one of the perils and delights of being self employed. At the moment it seems as though dp and I are on opposite time scales - he works hard all week, I work at weekends. We've muddle through OK, but I think that eventually his patience will wear thin.