The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Sweeping Into Autumn With A One Way Ticket To Sobriety.

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Phew, just in time!

I'm mouse and I love a few to drink. I love all things cheese and I love MrMouse

Welcome to the Bus. We are a collection of drinkers, non-drinkers, and those who are somewhere in between but we all have the same thing in common, we can't just have 1 drink and then stop.

Come say hi, we don't bite .

Here are the other threads to date, if you have a spare hour or seven to kill.

OUR HISTORY

My exercise plan is: monday and tuesday - brisk walk to the kitchen to feast on leftovers from Sunday lunch; wednesday - stroll to the car to drive to the delicatessen and stock up on lovely things to eat; thursday and friday - another brisk walk to the kitchen; saturday - leisurely walk to the nearest restaurant; sunday - day of rest.

This is why I don't look this venus de milo and instead look more like this

And the MARS part of my name is for a mars a day to help me work, rest and get round

MsGee regarding setting and enforcing boundaries with children - what's the first thing you do when you get on a rollercoaster or other fairground ride? You push the bar, right? To make sure it will hold and keep you safe. When children push the boundaries this is what they are doing. They are testing to make sure the boundary is there, is strong and will keep them safe. So holding that boundary, although it can seem tough to us, is actually what they want and what they need.

When mine were little and pushed and pushed those boundaries I did this - I used to pretend that they had got all the best, sharpest kitchen knives out to play with and I had told them no. Now, no matter how much they cry, scream, stamp feet, have a complete tantrum, there is no way on earth that I'm going to let them play with knives. Then I just applied this same resolve to whatever they were cross about . Sounds mad I know, but it worked for me to show me that I can be strong with discipline.

Mouse are you able to catch up on sleep when Nemo goes to Nursery or do you have to be with him there? (Or do you enjoy telling those stories with funny little voices too much ?). Ah, if only we lived in Babeland and could share the childcare. Nemo could run around with Isindie's DTs wreaking havoc amongst the intellectuals

Saf I'm going to Zumba on Friday. The instructor is fat and very camp so it's a bit of a laugh, but gets me moving I suppose. I did over 18,000 steps yesterday and 15,000 so far today. Where do I queue up for my medal? (Behind Saf obviously)

venus - I heart your sense of humour.

I have just had a nasty fall. I mean straight down onto my back and right arm. Not good. DH has put me on sitting rest until he gets back. My leg just didn't hold me up when I went to walk on it.....

I think I need to chase this specialist up don't I

oh poor mouse, just when you were having so much fun. Yes, chase up specialist. Do you have a good physio?? SOme of them are fab, some of them are naff, unfortunately most of the fab ones move to private practice rather than stay in NHS. Suction machine makes sense - you will surely be the one who knows best when it would be helpful. So lovely to see your posts re nursery, you sound like someone finding an additional vocation (to that of caring for Nemo and DD)

Faire - I really liked both those stories/analogies, and am going to keep them in my mind for when I need them. My DSs are not at teens stage, but I have plenty of friends who have them and I know that some manage it much more happily than others.

I had one beer last night - have mixed feelings about it. I Me and boys managed to do all the craft activities (potato mashi monster, and garden on plate - thanks venus - read your post too late though and by then had bought overpriced green edible glitter from Asda), and I stayed really really calm during it and was impressed with self (normally would have had afew by that point and been grumpy and irrational). I also fed them and put things away and had phone calls and had worked super hard at work, and DP away. Anyway, decided I wanted to have a beer, did it fairly mindfully - it did not taste that nice, and the sudden almost tumble-like drop in my energy levels was very noticable. Made me think - how on earth did I manage to get anything done at all when drinking like a fool lots every night - so much energy must have been going into just having to carry out activities and chores when dosed up.

I also noticed that I did what I often < insert used to do > - which is to push myself to absolute limits, doing tonnes of jobs but not feed self or drink enough fluids, then drink which numbed everything away.
Anyway, not done that tonight even though my completely mental, deaf, disabled, fragile, easily hurt, anxious Mum and Dad are over for couple of nights and DP is still away in Dublin. I am not going to drink tonight. I'm going to have an awfully long bath though, cycled to work (5 miles) for a meeting this morning then back and still not washed anything but my hands since, yeeugh
wellies v well done.
Isinde hope lead comes off, public sector so slaughtered....

I'm off for a nocaff and a chocolate (Green and Black's dark with sour cherries yummy)

It feels like a long evening without wine :( I have sipped a fizzy water with elderflower cordial all evening and I am halfway through thread 2.

I am still determined but wavering if you know what I mean? Dinner has been cooked and eaten solo as DS is out yet again and normally by now I would have drunk almost a whole botle of wine felt sleepy and gone to bed.

So I guess I am getting my life back I just need to appreciate it

Hi wellies

The beauty of not drinking in the evening is all the extra time you have. However, as you are experiencing, it can be a mixed blessing. How about a change of scene. Can you do something different this evening? Some of us like to bake or knit or do sudoku or yoga or meditation or jigsaw puzzles or even (God forbid) cleaning, ironing, sorting out cupboards, drawers, lofts. Anything will do. Just take it an hour at a time.

Oh, and keep posting here if it helps.

Thanks fairenuff good idea think i might sort the kitchen cupboards it is loooong overdue anything beats sitting here thinking about wine.

Then tomorrow I might buy a jigsaw what a great idea I used to love them years ago before alcohol took over my world

hi all. just caught up with everyone, too many people doing too many things!
mouse take some care of you.
been to physio tonight further to my chest pain after car crash. That woman is a fuking sadist. A "massage" sounds nice but is really immense painful pressure on the "stuck" bits of pectoral muscle. God, it hurts!! Really! And then there is the pilates type exercises - how do you "lenthen your collarbones" and "soften your ribs". I don't even know if I have ribs under all that fat protective layer.

Ma I love pilates but must admit the stomach tends to get in the way. "Hug your knees to your chest" erm, no chance. And as for 'child's pose'

Wellies I am rubbish at links, but if you ask venus nicely, she knows about an online jigsaw site which is a good time waster relaxing activity.

Now Babes starting on Monday I want to lose 30lbs in 90 days. C'est possible? Any tips gratefully received. (But I'm not a good cook so v simple recipes only).

fairenuff
3 rules only for certain weight loss:
Eat less
drink less
exercise more.

Sheemples. which why i can't fasten any of my clothes!!!!

venus pretty please will you share the online jigsaw site with me? Thanks fairenuff for that tip off I have opened the kitchen cupboards and thought nah .. what a wimp I am

isinde I will try very hard to stick with it, yesterday felt easier maybe I was still wine fuggled in my head but today the evening is going on and on and on maybe TV will distract me and maybe I will watch a whole programme without falling asleep with a tummy full of wine and no food.

Blimey just typing that makes me ashamed but maybe it's time I admitted my faults no matter how bad they 'sound'

Ma now why didn't I think of that

Actually, it's

1. Eat more (salad, fruit, veg, lean meat, brown rice etc.)
2. Drink more (water)
3. OK, I'll agree with you on this one

I think I need more motivation tips tbh as I'm a lazy arse.

Wellies what about pampering yourself, paint your nails, have mega hot soak in bath with gorgeous smellies.

Saf was talking earlier about sharing a bath with DH. We both used to be thin enough to do that . Now I don't even share with duckie

I have an idea Babes. Shall we have 'facepack night'. Wouldn't it be funny if we all put a facemask on and meet up here. And tell each other the reactions from our DH/DP/DCs

Bedtime. I have struck a deal with DH that if I go to the docs as an emergency tomorrow, he'll get off my case re the falling over and numbness. Not that he's on my case, he's giving a shite which I adore him for.

Off to bed now Babes.

Nemo has the energy of a thousand every ready bunnies in him...... it's going to be a looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooong night.

Wish me luck xx

Morning all,

Poor Mouse, I hope you have a successful appointment with the Dr today, I think DH is right, you should get it checked out. I also hope that you got some quality sleep to give you the strength for it.

I always hate going to the Drs, I feel like I'm a naughty 10 year old! I don't know why, I have never been for any, ahem, shame related business, but, I know don't I?

I'm sorry not to name check everyone, but, it has taken me so long to get onto the site this morning (anyone else having this problem?), that I have to go now.

Sending love to all, I hope you have a good and happy end to the week. I am off shopping for all DC2's uni stuff this afternoon, wish me luck (and no tears!).

xxxxx

Will post properly later but quickly checking in. Day 3..

wellies here is a jigsaw site. If you run your mouse over the pictures at the top you have a choice of the number of pieces. 12 pieces is very easy, 154 pieces not so easy. Keeps your hands busy (can't lift a drink), keeps your mind occupied (not thinking about drinking).

faire do you have a pedometer? 10,000 paces per day. At least 6 days per week. Plus 3 sessions of exercise which build muscle (some light resistance weights) and increase your heart rate. Do you go to a gymn? I can share the type of programme I was given.

And of course eating: start with good breakfast. Some oats, or egg and toast, or tomatoes on toast. Mid morning snack - chopped apple and raisins. Lunch - soup. Mid afternoon snack - humous and veg. Dinner (on a small plate) protein , plus veg. Supper - banana. In other words - eat small and often.