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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Sweeping Into Autumn With A One Way Ticket To Sobriety.

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Mouseface · 01/09/2011 12:53

Phew, just in time!

I'm mouse and I love a few to drink. I love all things cheese and I love MrMouse Grin

Welcome to the Bus. We are a collection of drinkers, non-drinkers, and those who are somewhere in between but we all have the same thing in common, we can't just have 1 drink and then stop.

Come say hi, we don't bite Smile.

Here are the other threads to date, if you have a spare hour or seven to kill. Wink

OUR HISTORY

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thursomuchtolookforwardto · 09/09/2011 16:15

Good afternoon Babes,

Welcome Lurkin, an over 50 here too!

I've had a very busy couple of days, with work and college. Tomorrow is my wedding Anniversary, and I am celebrating by getting up at the crack of dawn, driving to London, to move DC into his new house!

Message for Isindie I hope you had a good time last night, I am hoping to see the sights of Canary Wharf, on a regular basis, when DC takes me out to lunch Hmm Grin. I also want to tell you that your message to me yesterday knocked me for six. I logged on in the morning, read it, and logged off in shock.
My message the night before was meant to be jokey, but, what you wrote made me realise that I'm in danger of becoming the self inflicted martyr. Things are so up and down here at the moment, and changes with the Dc unsettling, that I have taken it upon myself to do absolutely everything (I've always been a bit like that though), and yes, if anyone took the reins, I'd probably bite their arm off Grin. It made me stop and think..... I've still changed all the beds today Grin, work in progress!

What is everyone doing this weekend? DH playing cricket tonight, so I have a big book to lie on the sofa with.
xxx

thursomuchtolookforwardto · 09/09/2011 16:17

Ma my worst thing, is that sometimes I don't even realise DC2 has been sarcastic until afterwards Blush, oh, the things I could have said in reply!

legalalien · 09/09/2011 16:28

thurso - I consider myself a long suffering cricket widow - but FRIDAY NIGHT CRICKET? What is that about?

Is your DC studying or working in London? If studying I suspect that lunch at CW is not on the cards Grin. To be fair, though, people often criticise the wharf but I really enjoyed working there, if only relatively briefly.

let me know if you need restaurant recommendations for tomorrow night!

thursomuchtolookforwardto · 09/09/2011 16:36

DC is working legal. He has just finished university, and evidently tonight is the night for "induction drinks"! at Canary Wharf. Although when he did his internship last summer, he said that G & T's were £18 each! at the clubs he went to.
I think DH said cricket, he might have said a blonde Grin.

legalalien · 09/09/2011 16:47

Oh, good lord. he will undoubtedly be hung over tomorrow.

Well done to him for getting a job in the current climate. Presumably he's not doing anything legal, but if he is, feel free to hit me up for contacts. In fact feel free to hit me up for contacts anyway (just PM the name of the institution) - probably about three degrees of separation around here Grin. Am sure isinde will agree once she surfaces....

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Mouseface · 09/09/2011 18:30

I have obliterated the little fuckers critters with a tonne of Tea-tree oil and nit treatment. I swear, if he gets them again, I'm going to shave his curls off. I just have no idea what else I can do. Poor little chap.

I've left some Tea-tree conditioner in his hair. I'm guessing that Stay & Play plus Nursery means more risk doesn't it.

Pha!

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startAfire · 09/09/2011 19:59

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Mouseface · 09/09/2011 20:06

Good idea SAF

I have just had enough you know.

Off to have dinner with DH and a VERY tired Nemo

Be back tomorrow Babes xx

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Zanywany · 09/09/2011 21:03

Was just going to post some nit advice Mouse but realised I was going to say exactly what SAF posted. I have 2 DC's and about a dozen (and the rest) nieces, nephews and cousins so I have caught nits from them loads. I have found none of the 'treatments' work, the number of times I have paid out a fortune to treat our hair, claned all the bedding etc only to find live buggers in my hair. Brushing through hair with a good nit comb and plenty of conditioner, repeatedly is the only way forward I found. How is MIL

Mouseface · 09/09/2011 21:15

Thanks to both of you Smile

Just had a message from MIL to say that they want to do a more invasive scan (inside her head) but has to wait for an appt. Not looking good. We're all really worried. Sad

Night all, off to spend some time with DH and Nemo xx

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thursomuchtolookforwardto · 10/09/2011 08:33

Morning all,

I came downstairs early, and found a big bouquet of flowers, and a carrier bag, which I am too emotional to open. Just going up to get ready, and then going to London. It all feels a bit much today. Only 2 weeks and DC2 goes as well.

Mousie I am so sorry about your MIL, I can only think that if she has to wait for an appointment, it might be that they are not too worried, I hope so. Sending you love. xx

Have good days everyone,
xxx

thursomuchtolookforwardto · 10/09/2011 08:37

X posted,

Isinde my sweetheart, I know, I know, I only posted my reaction, because actually it did me the world of good to stop and think about why I am knocking myself out all the time. It was a sort of thank you!
Never mind about Thursday, back to business Grin. xxx

Mouseface · 10/09/2011 10:36

Morning wonderful Babes Smile

IsinDe - I think I have a fundamental problem with accepting that I am never going to drink again. My head knows that that is the only safe and sensible solution for me but I stubbornly stick to this idea I can have the occasional "One night stand" with the demon and that'll be ok

Exactly. I was reading my recent posts over the past few days, I looked at how often I pitch up on the Bus and moan about the fact that I drank, got pissed, made a twat fool of myself etc.

For me, it's because I feel like I am being told by someone (no idea who) that I should NEVER DRINK AGAIN. It's like when as a child, your parents tell you not to do something so it makes you want to do it all the more. Or when someone says, whatever you do, don't look over there. You turn and look!

It's a clever Demon this booze isn't it? It brings out the best in you, you are the funniest person at parties, people adore your witty jokes and one liners, you are invincible when you drink. Everybody loves you, wants to be seen with you, talk to you, tell you how wonderful you are.......

Booze give you a sense of worth, a false confidence. It can kill, seriously hurt you, ruin your relationships, ruin your health, take your family away from you, your home, all of your money, it takes and takes and takes but that is always the last thing on your mind isn't it?

Why?

Why do we did it? There are a few serial offenders on here, regular drinkers who have some sort of cyclical drink problem. I'm certainly one of them. I want to break the cycle but I don't want to stop drinking. Not completely.

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notevenamousie · 10/09/2011 10:38

Morning lovely babes,
Isindie I think you knew you were going to drink when you posted, didn't you? It's not wasted - at least, not if you have learned from it. Are you any closer to getting the "without defence against the first drink" thing? We're not screwed after we pick the first drink up, it starts long before that.
thurso I hope today goes well, will be thinking of you.
Mouse thinking of your MIL and of you, hope you have a lovely weekend with your lovely family. Nemo's sleeping sounds completely changed - how amazing and long may it last!

Hope everyone has great weekends, will try and check in tomorrow some time.

MistressofPemberley · 10/09/2011 10:59

Morning babes. Made it to Saturday. It's been a hell of a week but I'm still sober and on day 12 of not drinking.

I was SO close to drinking last night. I was running DS's bath and I so nearly went down and opened some wine. I love a glass of wine during bath time, chatting to DS whilst sitting on the loo while he plays in the bath. However, I knew that one glass would not cut it. I was so mentally drained, so physically exhausted etc. I wanted to nail the whole bottle. And then some. I wanted 10 bottles of ice cold beer, not one. So I had a tonic water with ice. And then a lemonade. And then a huge bowl of chilli and rice. And it passed. So pleased, as that kind of drinking would have been self-destructive.

I think I will drink tonight, but with food, and in company, so with a different mindset.

A day of housework and work work for me. DH will take DS out later so I can get on.

Enjoy the weekend.

jesuswhatnext · 10/09/2011 11:00

morning all!

just a quick dip in and out! Grin i have begun the 'mass clearout' of this house! Shock im sick and tired of hanging on to stuff which may 'come in handy'! SO! big deep breath and im chucking out! (you may soon read reports of a shortage of landfill space, its full of our crap! Grin)

oh! just quickly, dd has been offered a new job, fits in around her college time, designing jewellery full time for a bridal house!!! IM SOOOOO PROUD!!! Grin my girl is talented!! i always knew it and now 'real' people do too! Grin

love to all, off to fill another bin bag!

and btw isindi! you nitwit!! you dont think about NEVER drinking again, you do it a day at a time!! so

TODAY WE WILL NOT BE DRINKING!!

stop making your life such a bloody fight!!! Grin

(wanders off muttering 'how often do i have to say it!' Grin)

jesuswhatnext · 10/09/2011 11:02

MOP - congrats!! hang on in there!!! you are doing bloody brilliantly!!

Fairenuff · 10/09/2011 11:18

MoP you are an inspiration to all of us who didn't want to drink, but did it anyway Blush. The buggering Friday night got me yesterday and after I did so well the week before!!

Didn't finish the bottle and no hangover so it could have been worse I suppose. I think I'm getting there. I'm not drinking in the week but I really need to beat that Friday goo.

Mouse it wasn't me giving away books, but I can't remember who it was now, legal maybe?

Isinde On the subject of not being able to bear the thought of never drinking again. When I stopped smoking I stuggled with the same thought so I told myself that if I lived to be 90 I could have a fag then. I know it's supposed to be ODAAT but maybe it would be ok to say the same about the booze?

Mouseface · 10/09/2011 12:31

Blush sorry faire.

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venusandmars · 10/09/2011 15:38

Yes isindie the way things turned out on Thursday is not the biggest surprise in the world. So what do you do now? You can either reinforce the idea that you're crap, that you'll never get this beaten, that you don't really want to get it beaten, and think that you might as well have a drink tonight. Or you can say, well that was Thursday, today is today, a TODAY I am fine without a drink.

I really hope you know what a different person you are when you are not drinking, whatever your drunken head might tell you about being the life and soul of the party when you're drunk, I know which isindie I'd rather spend an evening with.

thurso I hope that today goes well with you - you have a lot to be proud of raising those 2 sons.

dementedma · 10/09/2011 20:15

thurso thinking of you today on your anniversary.

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