What is the definition of great sex?

[ladycurious]

I see it mentioned on here often when people say we have great sex blah blah, just trying to work out what "great sex" actually means!

Great sex is un-self-conscious, giving, mutual, often noisy, messy, funny, warm, intense, sweaty and the memory of it makes your stomach flip at the most inopportune moments...

I definitely get that flushed face, heavy-lidded thing going on, hyssop. I get shaky legs and I can't do anything but grin for a good half-hour afterwards.

And my thighs ache like hell the next day

A. My husband :o

had to write that as he's looking over my shoulder :o

@ heidi

I think this is a classic case of if you have to ask then you've never had it!

Simultaneous orgasms aren't fictional - my DH can hold himself back while I get there then release himself just as I go off on one! It's great!

Hasn't happened for a while tho - far too pregnant.

I'm with chiz in that great sex in un-selfconcious. Also inventive and considered. The orgasm doesn't matter so much as the feeling during. no jack-rabbits unless you request it . Lots of stroking. Warmth.

I guess a connection must be there. You can have great sex with a stranger but you have to just "click" with them. There's no rhyme or reason to whom you may click sexually with. Sometimes your bits & their bits just fit.

YY to hazy, dim light throughout. It's one of the things that really struck me when I first became sexually active.

A great orgasm is one where you seem to loose consciousness for a few seconds and your whole body goes into rigours. (Thank you, DH.)

bumps, I didn't say they never happen

I meant that needing to have simultaneous orgasms for it to be great sex is the "fiction"

Oh I see AF. Agreed!

...with pregnant partner

.....when you think, I don't care if I die after this!

He?s equal with the Gods, that man
Who sits across from you,
Face to face, close enough, to sip
Your voice?s sweetness,

And what excites my mind,
Your laughter, glittering. So,
When I see you, for a moment,
My voice goes,

My tongue freezes. Fire,
Delicate fire, in the flesh.
Blind, stunned, the sound
Of thunder, in my ears.

Shivering with sweat, cold
Tremors over the skin,
I turn the colour of dead grass,
And I?m an inch from dying.

Oh, and add to the above; Safe, sane, consensual, communication, trust, bungy-harness...

Wow cognitivedissident I love that poetry. Maybe Great Sex is that which invokes the energy of Aphrodite?

I'm thinking of the greatest sex I ever had, and actually, I can't put into words what it is. It's connecting with someone so much that they know just where to touch, how much pressure, when to start, when to stop, when to tease, that feeling that you can never have enough of him, orgasms all the way down to your toes, feeling that moment of surrender and vulnerability as he orgasms, and afterwards to rest sated in his arms.

It's a bit of a misleading translation from Sappho's Fragments; the original is all about unrequited love. The focus in this version has changed from longing and jealousy to pure Eros.

It's my favourite translation, for all it's inaccuracies.

Don't advocate PIV sex as great sex in the feminist section, otherwise that will ruin your sex life.

IFMGS

You must read a different feminist section to me...

....when you nearly get caught

I must do CD

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/1281690-Does-penetration-presumption-of-power-control?pg=4

Some people prefer to avoid PIV, that's all. Stupid people think that sex cannot be 'great' if PIV is not involved, when in fact PIV is only one type of sexual activity.

Great poem CD..really good

SGB, actually only stupid people try and tell other people what can and can't be great. Its down to the individual(s) involved.

Feeling his orgasm pulsing inside you , tipping you over the edge again, that's the one thing only PIV can give you.
Hissopblue - you've nailed it for me with your last post, plus, when you're looking in his eyes and there is just pure hunger for you and afterwards, when you're both lying there, unable to move or speak, just thinking wow.

IFMGS: Well, exactly. If you like PIV, fine. If you don't like it, it's not up to anyone else to tell you that you can only have great sex if PIV is included.
Malificence - yes, fine, that's what works for you - but not everyone likes PIV and that doesn't mean that they can't possibly enjoy sex as much as you enjoy it.