What is the definition of great sex?

[ladycurious]

I see it mentioned on here often when people say we have great sex blah blah, just trying to work out what "great sex" actually means!

AnyFucker

Yes, hyssop, DH said it in a 'I know I'm so good you cannot help yourself..' way! But the shhhhing and covering my mouth and giggling just made me laugh which was louder than any sex noises plus it only served to make us both more turned on as it reminded us of sneaking into the others room at his parents house.

Safe sane and consensual. Imaginative. Impulsive. Orgasmic.

Where you need half an hour afterwards to get back into yourself after coming so hard you are all warm and floaty and making your brain actually work is beyond you.

Where you sit together afterwards, catching each other's eye and grinning. Then do it again at bedtime because you're wanting a repeat performance.

I remember that in a Nick Hornby novel (I think it's High Fidelity), the main character says that as far as he can make out, the concept of "great sex" seems to translate to "simultaneous orgasms". So that's one opinion.

Personally that's not really that important to me, and I would agree more with what Hyssop said. Particularly:

when you try and hold of coming for as long as you can because it feels just so good

...with the caveat that it's also really great to realise that your partner is doing the same thing.

simultaneous orgasms doesn't translate as "great sex" to me

I think concentrating on each other, whether that is simultaneous or not, is great sex

I do believe that DH gets more pleasure out of my orgasms than he does in his own... he has told me that

and vice versa

Just occasionally over the years I have actually got lost and had an out of body experience during sex when I seem to merge totally with my lover and all physical surroundings melt away. That is mind blowing but hard to explain.

Otherwise I'd go with the simultaneous orgasms, that is always a good way to go!

Reaching orgasm after about 30 minutes.

simultaneous orgasms is a fictional bollocks, tbh

invented by creative writers and designed to make ordinary people feel inadequate

an orgasm, whether simultaneous or not, is a wonderful thing

some women don't orgasm regularly, but still enjoy sex and the closeness they feel with their partner

never malign that

As soon as he penetrates you you come.

Every time you have sex is like the first time, and you orgasm lots i.e 5/6 times.

I can orgasm in 2 minutes.

fabby, that is unreachable for many women

it doesn't devalue their experience of sex in any way, though

Sex is different for everybody, what is great sex for one wouldn't be for another.

I'm not sure I'd be like that now been a good 18 months since I've had sex. I've forgotten what it is like.

Any sex where you sit at work the day after (or 2 days later!) and smile when you think of it (or wriggle slightly in your seat :0)

When you entirely forget where you are or who else is within hearing distance.

Great sex is when you LOVE your partner and give all you can ending in hugs and kisses and you fall asleep in each others embrace .

While it is all very subjective, bear in mind that love is not an essential part of great sex any more than rubber knickers or candlelight are.

What it used to be like with DH. Sadly, we haven't had sex for about 8 years :(

What's rubber knickers got to do with great sex? They are for incontinence I always thought.

FBF: Nope. For some people sex isn't great without rubber clothing, for others it's no fun without a preliminary spanking, for still others it's boring unless it involves at least three other people. The specifics of what makes sex great vary from person to person - for you, as you've said, love is a vital factor, but that simply isn't true for everyone else.

What is this sex of which you speak?

I've started having great sex with a new b/f. I'd forgotten how connecting it is and for me, it was looking each other in the eye and seeing deep in his soul when he climaxed for the first time.

I think sex is very connecting even if you haven't just been at it

you can look at each other in the eyes and remember or anticipate

it is the difference between being mates and being partners, IMO

I have loads of mates (male and female) but I have sex only with my husband

Great sex doesn't have to involve orgasms for either party, making it all about the build up can make it amazing, we can have sex in a morning and stop short of orgasms (DH is far better at stopping than I am) then there is a delicious tension that lasts all day until we dh decides to let me have him.

Meeting somebody out at a club. Flirting, dancing, all the usual stuff and build up. Then back to their place/your place for some mind blowing, totally uninhibited sex while the sun comes up. Then both go your separate ways.