The Brave Babes Battle Bus - We're All Going On A Sober Holiday!

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Hello, I'm Mouse

Welcome to the Brave Babe's Bus. This is a bus full of drinkers old and new, sober and not, and those who are somewhere in between.

We are all at different levels of sober so you can bet that one of us has walked in your shoes.

If you want advice and support then you're in the right place.

Come take a seat or just lurk, we're happy to have you along for the ride.

And here is a link to the last thread so you can catch up on the journey so far HERE

Bad evening. I think reality has been found in a glass or two of lime & soda.
DH & I have had a huge row about everything (parenting, work, golf). So angry & so sad.
One day I hope to provide words of wisdom to others but not until I've found a way through my own poo!!

saf very quick message before I go to bed. I totally get your experience of cruse. Strangely enough I work with a charity specialising in traumatic bereavement and I know the training that their volunteers have to undertake and how rigorous that process is ... so I fully understand what you are saying. To be honest I have done enough counselling in my life to send someone with ten sessions away with a flea in their ear!!

Night babes.

@ Deeli11 - busy work life, time consuming sport and a young child (how old is your DC?)? often a disastrous combination. I suspect it's something that needs to be thrashed out though, otherwise the same issues are going to keep resurfacing. Better done sober than not, no?

I have plenty of empathy on the sport vs parenthood issue..... so feel free to moan in detail.

Guess what? I SLEPT last night. for nine whole hours. And now I feel really tired.

Morning all

I too slept like a baby. I was proper knackered after day out with DCs . Going to take it easy today.

Deeli take good care of yourself today. You have to think about what's best for you at the moment and if that means staying off the booze, try to make it your priority. Drinking just makes everything worse. Try to give yourself a little treat each day. Maybe just pampering yourself. You will feel so much better

saf I really agree with what you posted yesterday about having a soft drink as soon as you get the feeling of wanting something, and not leaving it. I know that I had got into such a habit of having a glass of wine to meet any need: hungry - have a glass of wine; want something sweet - have a glass of wine; want something refreshing - have a glass of wine; want something to pep me up - have a glass of wine. Now I'm much better at recognising the real need, and much of the time addressing that stops me from getting to the stsge where wine is the ONLY answer

deeli I used to use alcohol as a way of hiding from other problems. So if I was pissed off at dp or worried about money, it seemed an easier answer to drink a bottle of wine and slump in front of the TV. Of course that approach may have helped to ignore the immediate source of worry, but it certainly didn't make any of it better. So now I've got things to face, that in reality would have been better if I'd sorted them a long time ago. Sometimes it's downright unpleasant, but I can also see that the alternative really was worse.

legal your name has got into my brain like an ear worm, and I wake in the morning singing "I'm an alien, I'm a legal alien, I'm an englishman in New York". Grrrr..... In reality I am none of the above. I will not let myself sing it again.

Me too venus ! I have been singing it out loud. Sure it's going to 'out' me in the supermarket

Spot on Venus as per Somebody once wisely explained to me that we/I need to learn to differentiate between want and need. "I want a big glass of wine/bar of choc!!" Now stop, breath, think what do I actually need, sometimes it turns out to be a hug or a chat. Niether of which will make you fat or hungover!! x

OOps 'neither' never can remember i before e thingy.

morning!!

glad to see everyone up and about!

guess where i went last night?

to the pub!

guess what i went there for?

to see a thrash metal band! OH MY EARS!!!!!

its a long story but my bfs dn 'plays' guiter in said band and as it was only 2nd gig we went along to support him, not sure quite how 'rock and roll' it is to have your mum and dad and you aunty and uncle and her best friend right up the front but hey! must ask ozzy next time i see him!

anyway PARDON!!!

missp - your idea could take off! the 'hug and chat diet'! just imagine the 'workout' dvd!

Hi everyone and HI JESUS hope you can hear me

I feel really fed up today. My DC's are with their Dad next week for 6 days and I'm not looking forward to them going. Feel lonely enough as it is without the thought of them not being around. Not helped by the fact that they don't want to go as their Dad girlfriend and DS will be there too, and it looks as though they are moving in together.

Sorry that sounded a bit me me me.

How are you MOuse - are you going far on your hols, how are DD, Nemo and the wolf doing

Noteven - can your sponser put you in touch with anyone else for you to talk about other issues with who might be more experienced? How is your DD doing

Hope your OK MsGee thinking of you

Hi everyone, have been reading this thread for about six months now and its time I jumped onboard.

My poison is white wine and could easily drink a bottle a night. I have tried to cut back many times but the craving is so strong.

My plan is to cut out Mon-Fri drinking for now although Friday night will be hard. I joined Weight Watchers last night so that will help as I won't have enough points for wine!

Zany my daughters are away at the moment with their dad so I know how you feel, I can't wait for them to come back.

Hi Feebz- am on the first week of a similar plan, except my self imposed rules allow me to have a drink on Friday night (but not Sunday night). Since I seldom drink in the day on Sunday this should mean an alcohol free Sunday in effect.

I have managed not to drink on Mon to Thurs this week (week 1). At the start of the week I thought I'd be watching the clock on Friday (today): at this point I haven't yet decided whether I'll have a drink this evening. I might not. I'm very tempted by the thought of another good night's sleep. Think I might hold out until after DS goes to bed and then consider whether I really want a glass of wine or not. Am surprising myself.

Welcome Feebz

Good luck with the WW. I used to go and wish now that I'd stuck to it but I used to 'save' most of my points for wine in the evening . Took me ages to realise that I wasn't going to lose weight until I stopped drinking so I am concentrating on giving up the booze first! I have been thinking about re-joining WW when I get back from holiday.

Zany if you get lonely, come and have a chat with us

Hi legal, you've done well this week, it was your first post that made me think right I will do the same, no drinking during the week and cut down at weekends. I know I will struggle tonight but I will have to have an early night!

Fairenuff, when I did WW previously, I would miss out meals so that I could have wine. Not good is it.

Thanks Feebz and Faire
Been thinking of joining a social club but it does seem a bit sad. A couple of my close friends have recently had a baby and so are often busy with the baby and DP (understandably) and I think its because I my holiday this year will be on my own with the DC's whereas everyone around me are away with their family or other halves

I am supposed to be cutting down on drinking in the week at the moment but not doing very well.

have just done a drinks run to the local store and have a new recommendation: nettle cordial. It looks, smells and tastes somewhere in between lager and sauvignon blanc (I know that sounds disgusting - it really isn't). i've mixed mine with sparkling water - I think it might be a bit sweet otherwise.

Apparently the nettles are handpicked by teams of Gypsies..

link

Apologies for hogging such a big space on the bus this week- first week and all that.... and thanks to all for your support.

Social clubs, volunteer work, sports activities are all good ways to keep busy and meet new people. Do you go to AA Zany? If not, that might be an excellent opportunity while the DCs are away.

sigh

No I don't go to AA. Trying to cut down at the moment rather than stop completely. There is a really good social club in my area which organises nights out/walks etc but my recent XP goes which I would be fine about but I don't think he would be.

at nettles being handpicked by gypsies