I havent eaten for 2 days...

[moretolifeplz]

because there is nothing in the fridge/cupboard....because we have absolutely no money!

My partner has been out of work for 6 months, refuses to sign on & doesnt seem to be looking for a job.

I sold loads of stuff on ebay so we could make it through to the end of the month...and he's spent it all. Not sure how or what on.

Although I cried so much yesterday, I think he will get off his arse and do something now. He feels guilty (rightly so).

Im so depressed. Even my 4 month old appears to be totally fed up and all he wants to do is sleep. I think he's totally bored out of his mind as I cant afford to take him anywhere! I play with him for hours usually, but Im so depressed right now I cant even get off the sofa to be perfectly honest.

WAIL!

Good job I like you otchay

Hmmm don't know what to think although if I'd not eaten in 2 days I think the lasat thing I'd want to eat is fruit and fucking fibre - bring on the bacon butties lol

Hmmm don't know what to think although if I'd not eaten in 2 days I think the lasat thing I'd want to eat is fruit and fucking fibre - bring on the bacon butties lol

Hi OP
My friend went through same thing with her now ex...she lost her baby at 39 weeks through stress of fighting/arguing over money and he used to go gambling when she worked nights. He left her for another woman...I dont think she would have left him though...so good on you! She has 75K worth of debt now.

The MNs on here may think you are a troll or something...this happened when I first started posting...as it prob seemed far fetched from reality...god I only wish it was. But dont worry keep coming back for support you did the right thing for you and your dd. It was very brave of you. Addicts you cannot change...they have to do it themselves and by losing out on having a fab mum to his dd he may realise he went to far and change in the future but from my experiences they don't!
Dont forget to see solicitor and esp get locks changed as other MNs suggested as it could turn nasty esp when he is angry that he cant get his gambling fix!!

Have to side with those that say you should show him the door. sure it's not easy but nor are the alternatives. it may be the only way he'll sort himself out. it's certainly the only way to guarantee your welfare. my old man was a gambler. for years he worked so hard only to throw it away at the bookies. only ever sorted himself out when my mother threw him out. even then it took a while. as soon as he knocked it on the head things started getting better. while in the grip of gambling addiction he did what many others do... got really good at making money. when he stopped he found he could more than provide for all of us. as far as i know he's not gambled since and defiantly not in any significant way. forcing him to get over it made him a better man. my mother forced him to become a better man. i love her for that and all the other things she does and i love him for not copping out and running away like he could have. She made him do it. you have to show him the door. you have to make him do it. it is likely the only way. whatever the long term outcome, your situation will improve the second the door shuts behind him. if you're in the london area and you're still having problems feeding yourself, and you get really stuck i suggest you go and shoplift essential food items from asda etc. put a carrier bag in the bottom of a basket rolled open, place items inside the rolled open bag then find an place near the door before promptly pulling the bag up over goods by the handles and walk out like you already paid. the key is to not look like you're doing owt wrong. if you get caught you can argue necessity and get be let off, but only if what your stealing are basic food items. i wouldn't recommend stealing but it sounds as though you're running out of options. I did it myself a while back when i was total desperate. not proud of it. sometimes you just have to do whatever it takes to survive. Good luck.

crap i should have read the full thread before posting like a doooooofus.
glad you threw him out. hope all is well.

If it bothers you that much just report and then hide the thread.

Whether this is for real or not there could be women reading this who are in a dead-end situation and the advice and information on this thread could help them, so fuck off with your whinging. .

Find it odd that you have no money at all but can still afford to post on here. That is not real poverty.

carantala - piss off, just a bit.

We coudn't afford our broadband bill this month, they've written saying that it needs paying but access won't be restricted.

Do you have some warped idea of the interweb where you post per minute or something?

OP - how are things now?