I havent eaten for 2 days...

[moretolifeplz]

because there is nothing in the fridge/cupboard....because we have absolutely no money!

My partner has been out of work for 6 months, refuses to sign on & doesnt seem to be looking for a job.

I sold loads of stuff on ebay so we could make it through to the end of the month...and he's spent it all. Not sure how or what on.

Although I cried so much yesterday, I think he will get off his arse and do something now. He feels guilty (rightly so).

Im so depressed. Even my 4 month old appears to be totally fed up and all he wants to do is sleep. I think he's totally bored out of his mind as I cant afford to take him anywhere! I play with him for hours usually, but Im so depressed right now I cant even get off the sofa to be perfectly honest.

WAIL!

SS will also take you shopping. They will give you anything you need like food or money for gas and electric but they will not give you money

Don't ask your mum for money, your partner will simply take it. Please ask your mum for a food shop or, for preference, go and stay with her and get the hell away from this man.

and leave him immediately
what a waste of space, no sense of his responsibilties

TSC

agree with tribpot.

its my property so I can get him out, I know if I chat to my mum/dad they will help. I dont want to be alone when I ask him to leave so im going to see if my dad can come over to support me....as im so scared he'll try and take the little one if I just confront him on my own.

Thanks to you all...I know deep down what I have to do but its hard to get the courage sometimes. Now I have it, after reading your comments and Im so upset to know my son could be losing out if Im not eating. I dont want that. He has to come first.

And no Im not expecting a paypal transfer! lol...that made me smile xx

Don't take money from your mum, he will take it off you

Leave him

Go to your mum's, with the baby, and stay there

Good on you, get your dad to help and gid rid of the TWAT. You will be so much better for it

you do need to get ds checked if he seems listless and sleepy. 2 days is a long time without food, he may need treatment.

I don't often come to this folder and I won't comment on the OP's situation, but please don't make her concerned that she will lose her milk or her baby will suffer because she has not eaten for 2 days.

This will not happen.

Only chronic and true starvation will lead to this - she will continue to make perfectly fine milk for her baby, whatever happens....of course it's not good, and of course her own well-being will be affected, but her breastmilk and her baby? No, fortunately.

Obv if the baby appears unwell, he needs checking out.

sorry tiktok.

I think the baby only wanting to sleep at four months is perhaps appearing unwell though. Might be unrelated to bm.

He's not just a gambler he's abusive - he grabbed the baby and threatened the OP when she challenged him.
OP call Women's Aid and the police, if the house is in your name the police can come round and take him away right now. Or if you can go to your family or a friend (and get a meal) then you can ring the DV unit and they will go round or indeed come round and escort him out of the house. If it's in your name not his you can literally chuck him and his belongings out. Best of luck, you CAN do this.

The baby will be happy with some fresh air - take him for a walk. He doesn't need to "go anywhere"....

Moretolife - HERE is the number and contact details for Women's Aid.

You need to take action to remove him from your life. He needs help and support with his addiction.

I'm sorry to say that you cannot provide that for him.

Nor should you have to.

You need to concentrate on yourself and your little boy.

As another poster said, if you've not eaten for a few days, your milk will be okay but you need to eat, little and often if you can, keep hydrated by drinking tap water.

You can use boiled and cooled water to clean your som's bottom during nappy cahnges, just get some cotton wool. No need for £££ on wipes etc, as another poster pointed out.

He'll be fine as long as you keep your fluids up.

Can you talk to your Health Visitor or Midwife?

You would be better to ask your mum for foood and the things you need, rather than money, as AnyFucker pointed out, he'll take the cash off you.

You have to feed YOURSELF.

You and your son do deserve to be safe, warm and fed.

It's time you took control of your life and stopped letting this man (used in jest) call the shots.

You could also look HERE Moreto

Where is your partner now?

Why are you with a man who is a sponge financially who cares not for the wellbeing of those he lives with?

Why?

What does he do for you or give you that is worth you not eating?

Get rid of him and sort your life out without him he is not worth it.

How comes you give him access to your money to money that should be for you and your son?

WHY?

Is he violent? Does he threaten you? Beat you to give him money?

WHY?

How can your boyfriend spend a few hundred quid without you knowing? Do you live from one month to the next, running out of money by the next pay day?

I've never heard of a gambler who won't do what he can to get money.

What's his objection to signing on and getting money to gamble with?

is this for real?

I am beginning to doubt it.

OP- what's he eating- and where and when?

TSC - Oh I know. I was just trying to understand how the OP could have £100s of pounds in her account and then nothing. What about direct debits, etc.