I havent eaten for 2 days...

[moretolifeplz]

because there is nothing in the fridge/cupboard....because we have absolutely no money!

My partner has been out of work for 6 months, refuses to sign on & doesnt seem to be looking for a job.

I sold loads of stuff on ebay so we could make it through to the end of the month...and he's spent it all. Not sure how or what on.

Although I cried so much yesterday, I think he will get off his arse and do something now. He feels guilty (rightly so).

Im so depressed. Even my 4 month old appears to be totally fed up and all he wants to do is sleep. I think he's totally bored out of his mind as I cant afford to take him anywhere! I play with him for hours usually, but Im so depressed right now I cant even get off the sofa to be perfectly honest.

WAIL!

I am a bit too. how does somebody who apparently doesnt know that breast feeding helps a baby, know how to spell 'nutrients'

Same here TSC - hand to mouth most months......

Where has the OP/namechange/newbie gone?

Are you okay moreto?

Hmmm.....

1. Well we live month to month.

1. So your on maternity leave from a company or getting smp? And also working nights for another company?? - sneaky!

4.Why doesn't he work? What's his reasoning?

1. With him not working/claiming, your working presumably temproy hours on and off, still paying the rent/c.tax. Do you know if you stop admitting freud get your lazy twunt of a boyfriend sponger off his arse and sign on or better still a job. No wonder your skint on minimum money paying full rent/ct bills debts etc etc

Stop being proud and ring your mum. Mums are there for you,

Wrt the fraud I said I didn't mean that nastyly what I meant is you shouldn't HAVE to do that even though us mums will go to any length to look after our kids, unfortunately for you it doesn't seem like its paying off does it?

Still no OP?

sorry all, ive had a rather stressful time. Ive thrown my partner out.

UnlikelyAmazonian - not impressed by your comment at all. Thanks very much. NOT. I can spell because Im not a complete div. I know full well that breastfeeding is best for my baby...which is why Im doing it. What I didnt know was that not eating for 2 days could impact the quality of my breastmilk. I didnt think that would happen so quickly.

Anyway, I digress...

I called my parents and my dad was absolutely livid, especially when I told him that my partner had tried to snatch the baby when I tried to get him out a few days ago. He came over after work and that was all I needed. A bit of support so my partner couldnt intimidate me. He's well over 6ft and cuts an imposing figure. But my dad is ex-military and wasnt going to take any rubbish, so Im so glad he came to help me out.

I asked him to leave and he kept trying to get to the baby but my dad was having none of it. He told him that the best thing all round was for him to leave as he was not being a good dad at all. He said the baby was going to suffer and that I was better off on my own. Voices were raised and I thought my dad was going to hit him at one point, but eventually he left. I dont know where he has gone though. He has a brother in Leeds but I imagine he stayed with a mate last night. I dont really give a monkeys...I feel relieved more than anything. My son seemed to be a bit tearful last night...but I guess thats because he can sense something is not quite right.

Im just worried about my ex-P wanting to see the baby though. Does anyone know what I need to do legally?? Maybe I should speak to a solicitor next week or something...

Oh and my parents have given me some dosh to tide me over. It was so nice being able to have a proper breakfast this morning. A bowl of fruit and fibre never tasted so good! At least I'll be able to have some energy and get back on track....finally.

You need to see a family solicitor, probably.

sorry if you feel like i write like a novelist...although I am a writer by trade so maybe thats why! (I write research papers and publications).

As for being dramatic...I cant help that. My life for the past year has been like this and finally its come to a head. I came to mumsnet for help and advice on the matter and I got that. Im a new mum with very few friends right now as I havent been able to do anything without funds and I've been so depressed that I've hardly left the house. Every day I just felt like life was passing me by and that my partner was the cause of my depression. He refused to help financially, was taking my hard earned cash, was being selfish and irresponsible etc etc. I actually feel so relieved that he is not here now as I know that now I dont need to worry about hundreds out pounds going missing and I can plan my finances accordingly. All the debts he's run up are going to have to be dealt with by him now. Im not paying them anymore. Not to mention my food, electric, water etc will all go down. He wont be a drain on my resources anymore!

Im a little worried about him but I dont think he would be stupid enough to be violent towards me. I dont mind him seeing the baby but I dont want him to be left alone with him...just because he might snatch him or something like that.

thanks secondcoming...I will do. Onwards and upwards x

I've been following your thread since yesterday, so glad that you got him out well done, your life will probably get a LOT easier from now on in.

With regards to access, could you arrange for this to be supervised, either by yourself or your dad if your concerned that he might snatch the baby?

OK, change the locks, and see a family solicitor on Monday morning: this man is selfish, dishonest and aggressive so don't waste any time trying to come to an informal agreement with him. Tell the solicitor that you put the man out of your home because he stole money from you and was abusive, and that you will allow supervised contact only as you thnk he is likely to attempt to abduct your child. With useless nasty cocklodgers like this one, you have to hit them hard and fast with all the available legal resources you can manage.

You dont deserve to suffer this self centred gambling addictive prat of a man . Nor does your child. If it wasnt for his gambling you would have enough money to put food on the table. If things dont improve then give him some ultimatums .

Agree with others about seeing a solicitor specialising in family law.

I'm also glad you kicked him out.

Now it's time to look after yourself and your baby.

Don't let him in, change the locks and get yourself to a solicitor (most will gove you a free half hour) ASAP.

These are the first things you should be doing.

If you really want to sort this out, start today.

You write as if you are writing a novel

that was my first thought too

its all very hmmmm

Fruit and fibre never tasted so good?!

hmmm

I so agree. I stayed in an abusive relationship for years (unepmloyed, work-shy, abusive alocoholic gambler ) and told no-one out of shame. Leave him and take a pride in having stood up for yourself and put your baby first. If your baby is lethargic, you must see this as a serious warning sign. You don't need him financially, he's bad news emotionally. Please get out.

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shit .. I'm really out of sync. Well done. Stick to your guns.

If you think that the OP isn't real, then report the thread.

Simples

Done, and have reported you for egregious use of 'simples'