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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Head To The Summer Of Sobriety

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Mouseface · 08/06/2011 22:32

Hello

I'm Mouse Smile

Welcome aboard The Brave Babe's Battle Bus. There are a whole host of lovely posters here who will support your journey to sobriety, however you choose to get there.

We are a Bus full of drinkers, non-drinkers and those who are somewhere in between.

BUT - we will never judge or leave a poster out in the cold. So, find a seat and settle down for the journey ahead.

And HERE is the last thread and those before it too. Just follow the links to read the journeys so far.

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merlincat · 19/06/2011 20:48

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BBwannaB · 19/06/2011 20:51

A result though - 9k - well done! What happens now, do you have a special maintenance diet or something? Sorry to be so nosy, but I am ballooning due to all the self rewarding for no drinking/comfort eating...

WasOnceAnEight · 19/06/2011 20:52

Well done on your weight loss! You must have been very determined (I couldn't have done it!).

I do hope you didn't join a slimming cult club - I've heard terrible things about Marjorie Dawes Wink [club]

WasOnceAnEight · 19/06/2011 20:53

[club]?

I'm worse at typing sober, quite clearly! Blush

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WasOnceAnEight · 19/06/2011 21:02

I've heard This is 'sensible' but I can't say I try it often enough to know for sure Grin

Sharpkat · 19/06/2011 21:04

Evening all

Day 2 is almost over Smile

Not feeling great but have a big day tomorrow - an interview (final one and they have said they want to offer me the job), followed by dental surgery Sad Sad Sad

Forced myself to eat a little meal to try and give me some strength. You all made me Smile with the cream cakes. Hopefully one day I'll be feeling well enough to join you.

Also, need to bite the bullet and make an appt to see the GP. Just told a friend about what is going on and she offered to come with me. She works so I won't ask her but it was good to just cry and be honest.

Hope everyone has had a good weekend.

Will come back and see you all tomorrow. Thanks so much for the support and getting me started on my journey. Is the bus headed anywhere nice at the moment - I could do with a nice day out Smile x

BBwannaB · 19/06/2011 21:05

Don't take the babes' advice on sensible meals, bacon butties and cake seem to be the staple diet on the bus, see what I mean about comfort eating?

BBwannaB · 19/06/2011 21:07

Good luck tomorrow Sharpkat

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LuckyMrsT · 19/06/2011 21:51

Yes good luck Sharpkat. New day, new job, new healthier you and new teeth to smile with x

WhineBoxWinnie · 19/06/2011 23:39

been lurking a bit around the bus stop a bit. Time I bought a ticket Smile

scared.

Mouseface · 20/06/2011 09:30

Winnie - YAYAYAYAYAY, lovely to see you over here. Grab a seat and get comfy Smile

Morning Babes

How are we all today? Cakes and cream horns consumed, I'm going to try and reduce my cals.

merlin - 9KG is AMAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAZING!!! Well done you. No way I could live on that amount of cals per day. I bet you were starving! I did Atkins once and lost 3.5 stone. Never again though.

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MissPerrier · 20/06/2011 09:47

This is starting to look like a game of cat and mouse Grin x

Alittlebitcrazy · 20/06/2011 10:16

Hi Winnie and everyone else.

Been lurking at the bus stop for a while as well. Do you mind if I join you?

Day 7 here for me, mostly thanks to all the wonderful help and support being offered here.

Also scared but hopeful :)

Mouseface · 20/06/2011 10:28

Grin MissP

Hey littlebit, welcome to the Bus Smile

Find a seat and grab a muffin from that blasted merlincat before she eats them all! Well done on 7 days too.

Don't be scared. One thing about this Bus is that it's a real safe haven. And, apart from the odd (in every sense of the word) invasion, everyone is welcome. You won't be judged for your behaviour, if you drink, you drink, we'll just dust you off and pick you up and you can start over.

If you go to AA, great, tell us about it. If you use meds to control your drinking, talk to us.

We're all at different stages of sober, or not. Some are completly sober, others are reducing their intakes, and some are on a number of dry days.

Just jump right in and start chatting! There's usually one or two Babes around. Smile

Nemo has just got the lid off the Sudocrem. Jeff on a bike this stuff is like white tar!

Thankfully we have wooden floors and not carpet.

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Sharpkat · 20/06/2011 10:31

Morning all Smile

Welcome to those who have just got on. Best bus I have ever been on and I've only been here since Saturday Smile

Have made an appt to see the GP at 9am tomorrow. That's a huge step for me, so thanks Babes for talking me into that.

See you all later x

MIFLAW · 20/06/2011 10:34

" I think perhaps the thing that is bothering me is that AA doesn't seem to advocate doing a half programme, in that I've been encouraged to immerse myself in it and follow the steps properly."

my personal view is that doing a half programme is an excellent strategy for anyone who successfully worked a "half programme" on drinking.

However, there are as many interpretations of what a "full programme" is as there are members of AA; and, as you will know by now, the ONLY requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking.

I know people who do not work the steps; people who do not share; people who do not have a sponsor; people who do not do service; people who refuse to acknowledge any Higher Power except, perhaps, AA itself; and who are nonetheless long-term sober.

I think, in all their cases, the key fact is that they ARE working a full programme in that, whatever they drop from the "textbook" approach apparently being sold to you, they replace it with something else - in my own case, I can't get to a lot of meetings, but posting here helps plug that gap a bit. Likewise, people (again like me) with no sponsors who nonetheless remain sober will typically allow themselves to be sponsored by the group, in other words talking and sharing and listening in meetings and picking up the experience of others that way.

I would only describe as a "half programme" something that misses out one of these concepts completely, e.g. you don't work the Steps but nor do you go to meetings (steps 1-3), share at meetings (steps 4-7), put out your hand to the newcomer or the sufferer (step 12) and so on.

Alittlebitcrazy · 20/06/2011 10:44

Thanks mouse

I don't go to AA (although did once call them many years ago) or take medication. Am going to try and do this myself Hmm.

I've been drinking more than I know I should for all of my adult life. If I could go back to that day when I first had a drink I'd put it back and have a lime and soda instead but I can't. Both my paternal aunts were alcoholics and died of alcohol related diseases and so I know there may be a genetic link.

Got 2 ds and good dh and I just want to stop the daily cycle of 'yes I will drink, no I won't drink, yes I will drink, no I won't drink'. Some days it's all consuming and makes me a very grumpy mummy and wife.

I never drink before the boys are in bed but once I've shut their bedroom doors then I'm straight to the fridge, and once I start it's very difficult for me to stop at less than at least 3/4 of a bottle of wine. In fact it's got recently where it was all the bottle. Hence the bus ticket!

Anyway, I'm off to grab a muffin before they all disappear :)

Mouseface · 20/06/2011 10:47

Kat - well done you! That is a HUGE thing to do. Can I suggest that you write down all that you want to talk about?

When I first went to the GP, I didn't remember half of the things I wanted to talk about and tell him, so I made a follow up appointment and took a list with me. I found it really helped to cross things off as we discussed them. Smile

MIFLAW - hello, how are you and the family? Smile

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MIFLAW · 20/06/2011 11:15

We are well, thanks - I celebrated fathers' day with four hours of driving to and from my in-laws' ... But apart from that, all is good.

how is everyone else?

Mouseface · 20/06/2011 11:18

Ah, we don't do visits on Mother's or Father's day because we're smack bang in the middle of both, with a two hour journey to either one.

Did you see the, ahem, the invasion over the weekend? I know you were around Friday.

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dementedma · 20/06/2011 11:32

morning all
been a tough weekend. Interestingly when it was just horrible on Saturday, I drank.
when it got really horrible on Sunday, I didn't. Maybe there comes a point when you just don't care anymore and even drinking can't deaden it.
Can't drink today as have no money. have to take a sickie tomorrow as not enough petrol to get to work...
on we go

Mouseface · 20/06/2011 11:36

Ma - is there anything that I can do to help you? I hate seeing you like this. The last thing you need is to lose your job on top of all else.

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