Will I regret sending this letter to xmil?

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yes send it! if i didn't know the story about the presents i would have said don't... but she definitely deserves it

i would also add in a line to the effect of

"i didn't thank you for my presents as they are totally useless to me, as you well know"

Please Please

Do not consider

Not sending it

hadn't seen the original thread, so I've just read it - what complete idiots! having said that, as much as think Amy's letter (it was written by her wasn't it? is great - to avoid any further conflict I'd go with something short and sweet, along the lines of

Dear Granny x

Thank you for my present

Love Amy

I wouldn't but that's not to say you shouldn't..

I'm a pack up that part of my life and put it away person but as i say that is my personality

it might do you the world of good to send it

she sounds a shit

what I mean is, don't waste your time on anything that required ANY thought whatsoever

It's perfect. Totally and absolutely perfect.

Send it

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Hmmm, I wouldn't use your daughter's name on the letter, that's just using her as piggy in the middle, and imagine if she received an equally sarcastic letter in the post addressed to her!

I would write it from you, after all you are the one saying those things, not your dd. Be straight with her, just as you have in the letter, but please don't use your dd.

Ok well if you're going to send it could we all suggest some additions
for instance making reference to Amy's age and despite granny buying two different sizes neither fit - does that mean granny doesn't know how old she is?

Yes send it but I think sign it from you not DD.

agree with Rhubarb

yes yes... put

"it's a shame that as well as forgetting my birthday you have also forgotten how old i am. unfortunately that means that none of the clothes you bought actually fit me"

No don't send it, it has no positive outcome and you do not need to go to others levels.

I got a phone call off my childrens Nanna for the first time last week. Not heard from her in three years and she was dreadful to me when i was with her son. Won't go into that though or even drag it up as it is water under the bridge.

I am meeting her tomorrow, i said she could see her grandkids but i would stay so subsequently we are all going out for dinner. The reason i am going out and not complaining to her or asking her where she has been will cause more harm to me than anyone else. i will become angry and bitter. I'm just going to hear what she says, smile inanely and come home and drink.

Sod it all, you can never change other peoples behaviour and it is a waste of energy even trying. Even if you point out where they are going wrong all i think it achieves is a bigger bridge. You then start to wonder if you have caused all the problems. Keep your conscience clear.

is she senile at all

"P.S. I asked Daddy to check my spelling and he said it was a great letter and told me to send it straight away"

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Have to say I wouldn't send it.

Feel sympathy for you on this one - sounds like my xmil. Finally lost my rag with her and just wrote telling her what I thought of her - figured that I had such a low opinion of her that it really didn't matter what she thought of me.

I must say I am myself more like fairyfly

my exmil rang me (by mistake) recently and it was the first time I'd spoken to her for 6 years and she chatted as if she was still alive anexcept that she seemed to have forgotten that we weren't ever "close"

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sign it 'that bitch'

still alive what driveldon't know what i meant there

as though we were still married

You might.

If in doubt, do nowt.

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Thanks, i'll get evil kicks somehow,say shes got something on her face and start trying to pull her moustache off. Equally as pleasurable but can be denied with the fluttering of eyelashes.

Hope you find your solution.