Will I regret sending this letter to xmil?

[Aimsmum]

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Soz - Aimsmum - losing the plot now!

pmsl! yes definitely do that

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Why don't you send her a birthday/ christmas present?

Something ludicrous for her, like a Che Guevara T-shirt, or something with a big hint, like this

Loved the ideas there caligula but what about knitting her a nice bobble hat that looks like a tea cosy!

No she might like a bobble hat!

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Not if I knitted it!!!! I can't knit!

Oh god, send it, please. And then come and tell us how satisfying it was. She sounds horrible.

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I would make changes to this note but I would think twice about sending something like this as it will just give this woman more ammo to use against you.

First two paragraphs are okay but would amend the 3rd and 4th ones to this short but pointed reply:-

We do not have your telephone number and there has been no communication of any form from yourself asking about the welfare of my daughter who is, after all, your grandchild.

Repeated invitations to social occasions like DD's birthday party have also been ignored and your absense has been noticed.

I would add in "until she grows in to them in about 4 (?) years time". You might also add that they arrived x days after her birthday.

To add to Meerkatsunit's suggestion, it might be worth saying "You abesnece has been noticed, especially by Amy".

Alternatively, you might want to totally delete that last paragraph, as it might encourage your xmil to come to fute events - which I suspect is not something you would welcome! You have afdter all alreadt made the point about the lack of contact in the previous paragraph.

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post it and be damned!!!! way to go, she sounds awful and like she oculd do with a bit of a kick up the bum.
Let us know if she responds aimsmum
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Oh Aimsmum, I have just read the other thread and choked on my drink - how could anyone send a child a half used packet of crayons is beyond me -you can get brilliant sets in the pound shop. As for the clothes well words fail me. I think its all very tbh.

I would either send a short brief letter of thanks from your daughter or the letter which you've posted on here but it should not be put as from your daughter as they are not her words and you would just be dragging her into it all.

Sorry,bit behind arent I,did not read the whole thread,tut tut,the letter that has been amended as your words and not your daughters is perfect,go for it!

Starting to think i wish i had done it Aimsmum and then maybe she wouldn't be visiting. Dreading it.

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Aimsmum,

Have just read the original thread - Jeez Louise clothes of the wrong size along with tatty crayons with half the bits missing!!. Your poor DD, feel for her to receive such rubbish (that is what it is).

My Nan is like this - buys totally inappropriate items usually from junk sales not just my son but for us as a family. I so wish she would not bother!!. The worst item by far was this doll dressed in Victorian style clothing. Now I'm a sceptic at heart but this item gave me the bloody creeps when I saw it, I had a Very bad feeling about it. That never even came in the house, I told my Dad (who collected it from my Nan) to take it straight to the local rubbish tip.

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doll even

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I can see why you'd want to write to her (in whatever version). But the fact she was angling to her son for a letter from you, albeit in a nasty and indirect way, shows she wants something from you and therefore you shouldn't give her the satisfaction of getting it.
She must know it was a crap present; she will be nothing less than triumphant to get a sarcastic letter from you. She will have made you care. Isn't that what you want to be avoiding?