I'm having real troubles with hubby, we've been together 8 years now, married for 3 and we have a beautiful 8 month daughter that we had to go through ivf for. We have a lovely home with no mortgage and get by on hubbys part time job - I would like to return to work but hubby finds it very hard looking after the baby - and we'd both like another child so he'd rather I was a stay at home Mum. So by and large we're happy, but like everybody else we have baggage, and ours is from our mothers. His worked long hours in a hospital and spent all her spare time cleaning the house and arguing with his father, mine watched TV and dumped me in a childrens home. Obviously I want better for our children and I thought he did too but he's reacting really badly to the house having to be cleaner. The other week he left a piece of his own faeces - not the babys - in the bathroom sink. He's been making things go mouldy around the house since I made a fuss about things going mouldy and now 2 weeks after the poo incident, baby and I have diarrhoea after I woke up 3 nights ago having to throw up. I love my husband very much but that person's gone now and I'm wondering if we wouldn't be safer and happier without this pathetic child that's appeared in his place. What on earth do I do to fix this???