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Tricky situation with new guy. Tell me the honest truth!

86 replies

Celibin · 24/04/2011 13:19

I met G at a party (Sunday lunch /afternoon ) We left together as everyone else leaving . He wanted to go back to his flat (tube ride away) but I said I would prefer to go to a cafe etc for a coffee . Passed many coffee houses but G not interested. We arrived athis place. " I have v expensive curtains, you know" he said . Making out he was a good catch? Yes, he was in prime Central London location. I still did not think idea of going back to his pad any good.Then a kind of sexual encounter took place on his sofa- this is so embarrassing-he just could not do it! I admit I did not really want to get so intimate with him at this stage and the whole thing just put me off him. In addition, I was always inundated with other offers of sexual things with men so no big deal really. I woke up on other side of bed with him asleep on other side so no contact with him. He then tried to made another date with me involving his travelling quite a distance to see me but I had gone off him.

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Doha · 24/04/2011 13:23

And your question is ?????????????

eandz · 24/04/2011 13:23

I would just say:

the last time we spent time together, I wanted coffee, you wanted sex. I didn't get coffee and you got no sex. I don't see how another encounter would help me or your expensive curtains.

lubeybooby · 24/04/2011 13:24

Erm, the truth about what exactly?

merrywidow · 24/04/2011 13:24

heres my first Biscuit

merrywidow · 24/04/2011 13:26

YABVU not to like his curtains

TotorosOcarina · 24/04/2011 13:26

How many easter eggs have you eaten this morning??

ZacharyQuack · 24/04/2011 13:29

Why did you go to his flat and engage in a sexual act when you didn't want to?

Sassybeast · 24/04/2011 13:31

Would need more information about the curtains before commenting.

Xales · 24/04/2011 13:32

Bit confused about what you want the truth about.

You didn't want to go back to his place, so why did you?

You didn't want a sexual encounter with him, so why did you?

Nothing wrong with a ONS if that is what you both wanted but you didn't seem to want to (from what you say) so why did you?

If you don't want to see him again don't.

I don't really care about how you are inundated with sexual offers to be honest.

Unless you are giving off some vulnerable vibe that you can't say no and men are taking advantage of that in which case get yourself some assertiveness therapy.

Plumm · 24/04/2011 13:35

Were the curtains nice?

lubeybooby · 24/04/2011 13:35

Ok will take a wild stab at it

Truth:

You need to learn how to say no and stand up for yourself before you attempt dating again

and

He was an arse

I hope that clears things up.

Pancakeflipper · 24/04/2011 13:36

So tell us what the curtains were like then.... Blimey talk about carrot dangling.

pinkteddy · 24/04/2011 13:37

lol at lubeybooby. Spot on!

mamaz0n · 24/04/2011 13:47

you allowed a man you had met only hours before to pressurise you into going back to his place and attempt sex?

no wonder you are inundated with male attention.

I would suggest you steer clear of men until your self esteem and self respect are high enough to have the confidence to have full control over whathappens with you and your body.

Celibin · 24/04/2011 14:15

The truth is: He was not such an attractive catch after all. He tried to make out as he was well-off as this compensated for his lack of personal charm??
As an attractive young woman it is normal to be inundated with dates and I must add none tried to lure me back to their flats like that.No, no . I suspect this guy could not pull at all and it is he not me that lacked the assertiveness. I think he was desperate. I did not look at the curtains but he had a flash drinks cabinet full of crystal stuff. Sad All money but nought else. When I look back what a crap kisser.! Yuck!

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mamaz0n · 24/04/2011 14:19

you wnat my gods honest, 100% truthfull answer?

i think you are a bit of a twat.

Giselle99 · 24/04/2011 14:22

He probably didn't find you that attractive with your clothes off... Not uncommon. Just try and get to know someone better before going home with them - classier and much safer (re the latter, Isuggest googling the craigslist ripper)

Celibin · 24/04/2011 14:25

Next question? If a guy is no good in the sack why does he bother? He must know at age 35 he is no good and woman will flee? But he seriously wanted to see me again. Prepared to travel a longish way. Answers from Gentlemen on this please as to male mind??

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Mutt · 24/04/2011 14:30

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Celibin · 24/04/2011 14:31

No Giselle 99. He was keen to make a date with me.Doing all to keep me there. I tried to leave but he wanted me there.

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Mutt · 24/04/2011 14:32

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Xales · 24/04/2011 14:32

So he tied you to the bed and prevented you leaving?

Better call the police!

Biscuit
Celibin · 24/04/2011 14:33

Brilliant replies! I agree about Twats x2 Hilairious Should have gone on the Carry On Film series. Yes, yes.

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Celibin · 24/04/2011 14:37

No had no idea pad was in prime Central location. No was at party on a boring Sunday and met other people, too. All above board. Stll agree with Twats x2 opinion.

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SarahStrattonsHotCrossBunnies · 24/04/2011 14:40

I'm lost. Hate to break it to you but just because he couldn't get it up with you doesn't make him a crap shag. Just that he couldn't get it up with you.

He sounds a bit full of himself and a bit of a nobber, but a fairly typical man.

You sound like you are rather up yourself and could do with a few more morals. I'd say you get lots of shag offers because you make yourself available with very little work.