I found out on Saturday night that my husband slept with someone else 10 days ago.
I found out by looking on his facebook and she had sent him a message asking what was going on because he said he was single and he quite obviously isn't. So I started a conversation with her stating I was his wife and asked her what had happened. I confronted husband who said he had no idea who she was and she must be a loon so I said right I am going to ring your brother and he said fine so I picked up his mobile and guess what there where 3 unread texts messages from the women asking what was going on and to read her message on facebook only then did he admit what he had done.
It happened on his birthday. His brother came to stay and they went out. They did not come home until 6.45am and then went straight to bed. I asked him where he had been until that time and all I was told was a nightclub.
This is as far as I am aware the first time he has actually slept with someone else but in the past he has been messaging girls either through facebook or text. Everytime I have found these messages he has promised that it will never happen again and that he loves me.
I just dont know what to do my family are 2.5 hours away as my husband is in the services and I live on camp with him. When I found out I was adamant that I wanted to go to my mums so I rang her but she wasnt answering so in the heat of the moment I rang my sister who knows all about his previous and she was obviously very upset. I got hold of my mum told her what had happened and asked her to pick me up the next day which she said of course she would. After ringing my mum husband came upstairs grabbed hold of me and told me he loved me and didnt want me to leave. I got all emotional and then I started asking questions about what had happened and he said he couldn't remember because he was pissed. I rang me mum back and told her not to pick me up as we were talking about it.
Yesterday I was trying to act like nothing had happened because if I actually think about it I feel like chopping his dick off and feel physically sick at the thought of him shagging someone else.
Today I just feel numb. I dont know what to do. I feel like I am being soft because he is still in the house and he is still in our bed (I must point out that there has been no touching or anything of the like)
We have our daughters christening on Sunday and I dont know how to deal with it. I asked him today how he would feel how if I told his mum what he has done and he said he doesn't want her to know but if she asks me how I'm feeling or if something is the matter I will tell her. Why should I lie? I have done nothing wrong. I'll add that his dad cheated on his mum and she left him.
I am trying to stay positive around DD but I dont know how long I can stay like this.