If you were WRONGLY accused of having and affair with someone by the person you were accused of having an affair with

[HauntedLittleLunatic]

Which would you be most likely to do?

a) Maintain as much distance with the person as possible
b) let him "hide" his (or her) car around the corner and continue to meet them on a regular basis

Hmm, my interpretation of OWDH coming to have "have words" is that in some way he blames you for the affair and maybe, just maybe OW is trying to protect you from his anger.

blaming her for exposing it, more like.

yup....cos now it is the gossip of the village I guess he is trying to save face...

Sorry it worked out like that HLL, what a bunch of twats. You're well out of it :(