he woke our child up shouting, just to get at me, don't know what to do

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yesterday, he promised he would put his dog back in his bed downstairs, as his dog has been sleeping in our bed (!!!) which he knows I really dislike, he wakes me up with his scratching and such.
So I was like phew finally I'll get a good night's sleep with the dog back downstairs.
It gets to bed time, he starts saying he doesn't know what I'm talking aboiut and of course the dogs coming it. I managed to get the bedroom door key and locked it from the inside, leaving him and the dog outside, (and me and our baby inside, whom I have next to me because I breastfeed).
He starts banging on the door, I said I'll let him in if he promises to take his dog downstairs, but he won't. He pretends he has no recollection of him agreeing to earlier in the day.
So he starts kicking the door in and shouting that I'm being 'a psycho' because I'm not letting him go to bed.
Then hesaid well he's going to sleep in my 4 yo son's room, so he went into his bedroom and shouted 'come on get up' and kept clapping and said 'you have to sleep on the landing, because mummy wont let me in my bed'.
My son (who's got special needs as it is, with his emotional, language, behavioural development) wakes up crying and crying saying 'i'm sorry, i'm sorry mummy'.
Then my partner says 'see look what you did' to me.
I was in shock for a minute then got up and found my partner comforting our 4 year old and stroking his head back to sleep.
But I was so angry at DP when he came out I grabbed his hair and twisted it and said that he's a sick fuck for doing that to my son, and he's lucky that's all I did, I wanted to hurt him a lot more for upsetting my son.
I said I'm leaving you tomorrow.
Tomorrow is here and he just got up and asked me to watch the kids while he showers, which I'm doing of course, then he goes 'what's up?'
I said nothing, he goes 'fine fuck ya then'.
Can't take another day of this. :(

I hope she has gone in the car

Abusive men alternate between being nice and abusive so you are constantly treading on egg shells.

If you want your kids to grow up mentally healthy and well adjusted then, honestly, you need to get away from this man. Please listen to what people are telling you

Hopefully the silence from the op means she is out or in the middle of getting out. :)

Hope you are getting it sorted out :)

okay, he came back opened the bedroom door for me. Took his dog and left.

I called the police before, and when they came IO apologized and said everything is okay, they said if they get called again the social services will definately be involved.
I don't want the baby snatchers anywhere near me.

I have somewhere to go, so I'm leaving. I'm just packing up, I have to take two buses to where I'm going with the kids kids and puppy. Do they take dogs on buses?
First a 3 mile walk into town, luckily I have an awesome bike trailor/pram to put the kids in....

jeez this is gonna be hard.

Thanks so much everyone

Sweetheart, social services will not snatch your children if you are doing your best to keep them safe. They can help you, and so can Womens Aid.

Yes, you can take a dog on the bus, but is there nobody who can come and collect you? A cab?

Glad he has left.

For now I would pop baby in the pram, get your toddler, a few changes of clothes and go.

I may sound mean but the puppy is the least of your worries right now, get your children to safety and then notify whoever you need to notify.

And I would still have called the police. Social workers would not take your babies away from you because you are a victim of domestic abuse.

yes they take dogs on buses, although you might have to pay a child fare.

www.womensaid.org.uk/

these people are not the SS and they will not speak to them unless there is a real abuse-of-your-child situation from your part, which clearly there isn't. What they will do is tell you where your nearest hostel with space is, and how to get there.

I'm in Leicestershire, I've lived through it, please feel free to message me if you would like to speak to someone who understands how torn and scared you are.

why did you tell the police everything was ok ?

that was a seriously bad mistake

this is going to carry on escalating and you just missed a chance to get his threatening behaviour on record

you need to find someone with their head screwed on in RL, because it sounds as if you are making some very bad decisions, and will continue to do so

You are doing the right thing, tsorry the police where not great for you but they will look after you and so will Social Services but as other posters have said Womens Aid are fantastic.

Good luck as I dont know what else to say but please stay strong and stay away x

PS don't tell him you are leaving. The first hint he gets that you are leaving, you should already be somewhere safe. get yourself gone, and please update us if you possibly can.

And don't feel baqd about coming back.

Shut the fuck up, peterandre - if you can't read properly, kindly don't post.

I rarely post on these type of threads but reading this I just had to.

The thought of him waking your DS and your DS then crying saing sory mummy' is absolutely heartbreaking. Just what is this idiot doing to your poor children. They deserve so much better than this and so do you.

I hope you have left now and please stick to it. You can't allow that man anywhere near your children again. No matter where you are staying it will be better for them than being with him.

Take care and let us know how you get on.

jesus, you all sound unhinged

no wonder the kids have problems

why did you tell the police everything was ok ?

Peter, I think Op means she has called them in the past rather than on this occasion, which is why she doesnt want to call them this time.

Which, I think is the wrong thing, I would certainly have called them as they would be able to help you get away from the current situation and would take you to a place of safety!

Luscious, not a nice post at all.

Luscious, you need to try a little bit harder not to make idiotic statements.

colditz - that comment to Peter was a bit unnecessary. I read it as she did and it wasn't until squeakytoy pointed out what was meant that I understood.

However, what Peter says still stands. It was and opportunity to get this man's behaviour on record and she does need to speak to someone in RL because otherwise in a few days/weeks time she will be right back with him as she did before.

Excuse me, the puppy is NOT the least of her worries. You don't leave vulnerable animals with unhinged violent men. What cruel disgusting comments

The police DO call the social service, and some social workers are IDIOTS. I've lived this.

If the OP can get away without calling the poice, I'd advise her to do so ASAP.

Not at all. The POINT is he sounds mental, she chose to bring a pup into an abusive relationship and it's her responsibility.

And actually, when you call the police in the middle of a domestic, half the time they DON'T 'take you away to a plavce of safety', they tell you that if you ring again that day they'll either arrest you both or call the social services. This happened to me - this is not assumption, this is experience. This also happened to a friend of mine.

Piss off luciousliz. How was your post of any use whatsoever?

Glad you are getting out op. You are totally doing the right thing.

Agree colditz have also been here.