Dumpling no more - only the strong survive and we did No.3

[Teaandcakeplease]

At first I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinkin' I could never live without him by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin' how you did me wrong
And I grew strong

This thread is for ex dumplings. Any dumpling that feels like she has "mostly" moved past crisis into an "almost" sorted state can post and chat here as we continue our quest for serenity with a lot of laughs along the way and support.

We are amazing T,
Ive earned my stripes ,i dont need botox ,
I treat myself to a nice moisturiser and look after myself but all the imperfections in my 40yo body are what makes me ,ME.
I am healthy and grateful for my health, that what matters.

I love the reference to the untainted self love of this womans daughter,loving my inner child work x

Hi everyone. Just seen pic of exbf with his new girlfriend on facebook. Overcome with rage for about an hour. Don't know why. Well, I do. He had her lined up. And it is the northumbrian pipe player. And he's there with one of his sons, so she's obviously been introduced to them too. I'm a bit numb at the moment in general. Not sure what's wrong with me.
I've been keeping up with you all and lurking. Just don't feel I can cheer anyone up when I'm so flat. So sorry. X

oh Goo sorry that's made you feel cross and flat. I would feel the same.

Only thing I can say, is that you've seen it now - you know who it is. It's another hurdle you've faced...and while its still raw now, you will get over it.

You are a strong lady..like us all. Sending hugs to you. It's a crappy feeling.

Thanks Kate :)
How are you? Heard from your ex bloke at all? Hope you are feeling ok about that.

You were right then goo well let them make crap music together , its hard though sending you a hug

Whose ever heard of Northumbrian bleeding pipes anyway , and get away from his fb page ffs!

Get Starting to email u the homecoming stuff ggm.good for a wallowy rebirth thing ,after this we will do the 9 squares thing and i dont want to hear another word about dope dealing scumbag that hurt my friend and has got a gf.He wasnt the ONE he was a selfish arse that didnt support his own kids and u can do much BETTER!!!
Their is someone out there ,but ur just not finished ur rebuild yet,still a bit of touching up to do.Fucking facebook ,like midge ure sang repeat out loud,"THIS MEANS NOTHING TO ME "
because u have ur whole life ahead of u free from stoned narcs .

Patience. You always ALWAYS cheer me right up. Chuckling to myself and doing a midge. Ah, that's better!

i remember ur joy when u worked out he was a narc .it answered so many questions for you .like me ,u cant go backwards now.ur on a path of emotional development,he is still numbing his emotions ,he hasnt grown at all ,still blocking himself from feeling anything real .
got shocking sinusitis ,snot is thick green and very painful,rubbing fluorite[crystal] in circles as i type .

Oh how crap. Hope the crystals work. Inhale with albas oil. Just remember to close your eyes!
Yes, he is a narc. I know that very well. And she's going to have to put up with it now. Good luck to her.

And thanks Getting. Funny how instincts are usually right eh? Added to his friends on facebook the weekend after we split. You'd think she'd know he's a bit suspect. Mind you, probably fed her the same line he fed me about previous gf "She's nice, just a bit weird. I never loved her."

exactly googs
meanwhile u will be have a fab time with a good bloke ,even if its next year.....

checks to see if ggm has fainted at thought of NM not arriving til 2012

No. Still sitting! That would be ok. Sick of it all tbh. Emotional upheaval is shit at its finest. It's good to enjoy the little things in life and not be gurgling around in some narc's washing machine.

such pain above my right eye brow ,
just going to lust after sb man if hes there this week ,i dont have the energy to chase i will just look cool and relaxed while smelling of vapour rub

Just run the bath ,thought nice one have a soak ,but i had forgotten to put the plug in.....................ROFL
trying again .

Sounds liek a good plan. Retain your feminine mystique. That's always my motto. Doesn't work once I open my mouth but still... :)

Just think this time last year it was Dr Harry Cunningham that was my crush ,at least sb bloke is real ,i think thats a positive step in the right direction

Just back from college & catching up

Tea, lovely link

Goo, that's crap but as Patience said step AWAY from his FB I've done it myself (the checking up) but it's a slow form of torture ((Hugs))

Patience, sorry to hear you're in pain, hope the bath brings you relief

Hope everyone else is doing well & that the party goers have recovered

Well I'm holding onto positivity . For those who were on the thread at the time you might remember back in Dec 09 I went to fortune teller who told me I would be fully sorted in a relationship with a strong man by June 2011. At the time I nearly wept at the tought of waiting that long but guess what it's only around the corner now .

Nice one starting ,nite x

Nite Patience, btw I was only near weeping state at the thought of waiting till June 2011 for sex, I wasn't too bothered at the idea of not having a relationship . Now in my older, wiser & slightly more satisfied state (thanks to Norm), I'm not sure I'm bothered by either lack of sex or a relationship anymore!! Mind you when college is done & I've more time on my hands & the sun is shining & I'm feeling more frisky that could change rapidly

I know I'm better off waiting for a decent bloke Starting but the thought of celibacy is frightening !!!

Patience and equally frightened by celibacy.

Something very cute and happy happened to DS yesterday. Happy house at present.

Lot of work on at the moment so getting on with it today.

Feeling very unorganised for Easter hols etc but waiting for date of op - will def be in next 3 months.

Goo - Get rid of all traces of him from your life inc FB. I have removed all harmful people off Facebook. He sounds such a tosser -sorry

Patience -like the sound of SB.

Met someone last week who engaged/interested my mind - not sure about looks. Might be single -mentioned ex girlfriend. But Im still not done with H but interesting for someone else to spark something.

Starting I would love to see a fortune teller but in a way scared what they might say.

I had a weird experience many years ago. My sister was ill with a strange illness that noone could sort out. She was told to go see a healer raised by gypsies (adopted by them) He gave her stuff. As we were leaving he wouldnt take payment and he said stuff about seeing sad futures for both of us. I thought nothing of it then at all - but have wondered since in my wonderful year of 2009 when everything going wrong.

Elsie hoping your strength is getting stronger! As you say XP just messing with you for the sake of it and for a measure of control. And no PR - what an idiot!

Excellent advice from Pink!

Tea - lovely poem

Have happy as poss days everyone!

I saw areader twice last year and what changed my mind was she told me what was happening in my life both times.very detailed so I do believe I have guardians with me everyday.for me it isn't that they tell my future just interesting to hear how they thought I was handling my life.she did say they had got sick of telling me when X wasnt a good influence on me and threw a big boulder in my way to change my path.
But look what's happened I am on a totally different road now.
I also saw a fortune teller in a pub once that said I was going to win lots of money and Ds was goin to b a professional footballer.I would only go to someone on recommendation.mine has def done some counselling training but at the time it was a positive experience.

Patience buy some sinutab from behind the counter at the pharmacy it really really rocks when I have horrendous sinus head aches and blockages there. I also put Olbas oil on a tissue and tuck it in my pillow at night when bad and it really helps as does plenty of deep breathing of steam.

Googoo Patience speaks wise words, take heed How's the old strumpet at work these days?

Mumfun lovely to hear about your happy house and something nice happening for DS