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would you / do you have sex with babies/toddlers in the room?

129 replies

Catflap · 17/10/2005 20:36

Am new to this board (usually partake in the Education threads but still just lurking everywhere else...), but would really like some thoughts and experiences on this one.

I know curcumstances can be tricky, but how common is it for mummy and daddy to be engaged in a bit of day time frolics while the 8month -> 18 month old is wandering around in the room and around the edge of the bed?

How much do they see/hear and how much do you think is appropriate?

Thanks for your views!

OP posts:

frannykenstein · 17/10/2005 20:53

Blimey, are there lots of people who don't poo in front of their kids?

I'm off to tell dp we are the only people in Britain who haven't had a poo in peace for over 2 years

bobbybob · 17/10/2005 20:54

Once they start walking, even in a different room is hard.

Couple next to us on holiday hard at work conceiving 3rd child, headboard a going. Suddenly a door opens and "what you you doing daddy"? could clearly be heard.

And that as they say was that. No sounds heard for rest of holiday.

zippitippitoes · 17/10/2005 20:54

or alternatively put them on the potty and have a competition

NotQuiteCockney · 17/10/2005 20:54

Right, but, well, I couldn't relax and poo if my kid was off screaming in his pram or cot, or pounding on the door.

ThomBat · 17/10/2005 20:54

If your 3 yr old can remember stuff happening later on in life, I'd rather my 3/4 yr old remeber mummy on the loo then mummy straddling daddy!

zippitippitoes · 17/10/2005 20:55

do you wait all day then!!

NotQuiteCockney · 17/10/2005 20:55

There are people who don't poo outside their houses. I've heard of couples moving in together, and needing one bathroom per adult. People are funny about poo.

hunkerpumpkin · 17/10/2005 20:56

My earliest memories are from a LOT earlier than 3 - remember my first birthday. And am very glad that my early memories do not include...oh, dear god, the very idea!

RottenRhubarb · 17/10/2005 20:56

I agree there is nothing you can do if they are going to barge in, although zippiziptoes has the right idea! Some bodily functions I just think are private, pooing and having sex mainly.

Just wait until he starts nursery and then re-enacts his mummy and daddy to the amusement of the staff!
And if you crap in a public toilet with your kids around, don't expect them to keep quiet about that either! Whatever you do in front of your kids becomes public knowledge once they are able to talk!

spidermama · 17/10/2005 21:08

Would in front of a baby, but a toddler would probably ruin it for me.

I don't see any problem with it. It's a nice thing isn't it?

ThomBat · 17/10/2005 21:13

yeah man sex is very, very nice, it's beautiful, it's loving it's great, but I think there is something wrong with people who need to have sex while their toddler walks around the edge of the bed.

zippitippitoes · 17/10/2005 21:15

I think there is quite a powerful taboo however liberal you are..

spidermama · 17/10/2005 21:15

Oooooh thombat! No-one's saying they 'need' to. In fact, no-one's saying they do it with a toddler around, but I certainly would do it with the baby in the room. Why not? It's nice. Like a big cuddle. The baby's not interested in the, ahem, finer points of what's happening.

ThomBat · 17/10/2005 21:18

No I can understand having gentle loving sex while your baby is there but the original question was about a toddler, and it waloking round the bed, and that's what i find totally ick.

hunkerpumpkin · 17/10/2005 21:20

SM, DS is the same age as the upper age limit of child in the first post - and there is just no way. Like I say, he'd be playing boo at me. And probably prodding me too. Or wanting a hug. Or blowing kisses. Or saying parp-parp

buffytheharpsichordcarrier · 17/10/2005 21:21

poo, yes. (of course! dear god, I read The Tale Of Two Bad Mice today whilst on the loo...)
sex, no.
I wouldn't be particularly shocked if someone told me they did it though, it is just that I don't think that either of us could possibly relax enough to enjoy it.
so what would be the point?

JoolsToo · 17/10/2005 21:22

not for me thanks, some things are sacred - even from our beautiful offspring

buffytheharpsichordcarrier · 17/10/2005 21:22

by the way I should say I was reading the tale of two bad mice TO MY DD not just to myself...

Racers · 17/10/2005 21:26

It's interesting to read that lots of you do the deed in same room as sleeping baby. Thought about asking same question but not brave enough to start the tread! We feel it's ok and not much different than when I was pregnant in a way but it's just nice to see that other people have done same.

I don't think we would want to do anything more than kissses and cuddles in front of a toddler, as wouldn't want it announced at a playgroup and also think it would spoil the mood!

hunkerpumpkin · 17/10/2005 21:27

BTHC - you said hunca munca when you were on the loo today...

spidermama · 17/10/2005 21:27

Oh buffy ... isn't one of the characters in that book called Huncamunca? Perhaps that inspired the name of a well known mn-er?

As for pooing in front of the kids, I don't like to. My mum still poos in front of me from time to time and it's pretty offensive. I suppose I don't want my kids to connect me with that smell.

spidermama · 17/10/2005 21:28

x posts hunk.

buffytheharpsichordcarrier · 17/10/2005 21:30

It is indeed... you spell it WRONG hunker btw

today I thought of you
when I was having a poo...

she's not really that bad and sweeps up all the mess in the end....

ThomBat · 17/10/2005 21:30

LOL at your mum still pooing in front of you spidermama! Oh no! You could leave the room though couln't you??!!

Btw - I started a thread for you but you didn't see it, I had a dream about you the other day! No idea why either but I was sticking up for you in it! That;s all i know.

spidermama · 17/10/2005 21:32

Oh that's good to know.

btw my mum normally starts her poo when I'm in the middle of cleaning my teeth so I have to rinse and run.

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