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Husband posting things about me on Facebook.

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fairyfart · 02/02/2011 21:31

Have been informed by a mutual friend that hubby wrote something about me on his wall. I feel a bit stupid now as we have shared contacts on facebook and they will all have read this and are more than likely laughing at me now.
Feel so humiliated.

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QueenLaQueefer · 02/02/2011 21:32

Have you spoken to him about it?

Was it a derogatory comment?

AnyFucker · 02/02/2011 21:33

why can't you see his FB wall ?

do you not use FB, or have you been blocked by him ?

what were the comments ?

HeartOfStone · 02/02/2011 21:35

Is it something he should never ever ever say?

Or something that he might say to some people undersome circumstances?

If #2 he just needs to learn about internet privacy.

If #1 it's a more serious issue.

Hassled · 02/02/2011 21:35

I don't understand why you can't see the wall yourself.

But chances are people aren't laughing at you, they'll be thinking "what a twat" about your DH. It will reflect much worse on him than it does on you.

Fantoosh · 02/02/2011 21:36

Depends what he said.

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fairyfart · 02/02/2011 21:42

Well, no, I am not one of his 'friends' on this site.
what happened was he seems to be under the impression that I had been snooping on him on facebook. He plastered a message on his wall something along the lines of *** should stop snooping on my facebook looking for stuff that is all in her head', or something along those lines.
I was so embarrassed when another parent at the school gates mentioned it.

To clarify, I have not been snooping so I do not know where he gets this idea from.
but apparently it's been on there for a whole week. I feel so stupid as all his friends, who all know me at school, will have read this and will now think I'zm some kind of crazy wife.

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Katisha · 02/02/2011 21:43

Oh FGS

Get off Facebook and hold actual conversations.

Hassled · 02/02/2011 21:43

Are you on FB at all?

He's behaved like a complete twat. You don't wash your dirty laundry in public, and you certainly don't wash it on bloody FB. Have you spoken about it? Why would he think you have been snooping?

StayFrosty · 02/02/2011 21:44

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usualsuspect · 02/02/2011 21:44

How old are you both? 15?

MrsFlittersnoop · 02/02/2011 21:50

Hang on, your HUSBAND won't ALLOW you access to his Facebook page? Shock Shock Shock

And is publicly accusing you of snooping on him?

What exactly do you get out of this relationship?

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fairyfart · 02/02/2011 21:53

The worst thing is that some of his friends, who stand at school gates next to me, commented that they 'liked' his comment.
I just feel so humiliated and I have to see these peole every day at school.

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NorrisMcSquirter · 02/02/2011 21:54

How fucking rude.

traceybath · 02/02/2011 21:54

Sorry - your DH is on facebook but won't allow you to be his friend.

Lordy - you haven't just done an interview in grazia magazine have you?

compo · 02/02/2011 21:55

some of his friends
not mutual friends? He sounds a twat

MummieHunnie · 02/02/2011 21:56

He has humiliated you publically!

a) why are you with him?
b) why are you friends with someone like that?

How is the rest of your relationship?

TragicallyHip · 02/02/2011 21:58

Why are you not friends with your husband on facebook? How odd Hmm

defineme · 02/02/2011 21:58

I just can't believe this happens between adults. It sounds like 15 year olds.But then I see adults sat next to each other in cafes looking at facebook and not talking-so odd.

On a more supportive note, perhaps he mean't it in jokey way? You need to tell him how you feel and I suggest you both take a break from the internet and do real life stuff.

AintMissBeehiving · 02/02/2011 21:59

Is it normal to discuss things with your DH through FB? I usually just speak to mine directly. I find it quite effective.

RIZZ0 · 02/02/2011 21:59

He sounds like a tool. Sorry.

Dansmommy · 02/02/2011 22:00

I would be seriously questioning our relationship if my DH ever said anything like that to others about me, facebook or otherwise.

whomovedmychocolate · 02/02/2011 22:01

I'd be hacking into his account and posting 'can anyone set me up with some Viagra please' frankly.

What an ARSE Angry

Tell him in no uncertain terms to take it down and if he doesn't I'd seriously review whether you want to have a relationship with this gitmeister.

ENormaSnob · 02/02/2011 22:02

He sounds like an arse.

Why aren't you allowed to see his fb?

dearprudence · 02/02/2011 22:04

Have you spoken to him about it? If not, why not?

verytellytubby · 02/02/2011 22:07

I don't understand why you aren't FB friends. Strange.