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Do you still kiss with tongues?

99 replies

Friendlygirl · 11/10/2005 09:56

Have been marriee 9 years and had 2 babies - 2.5 y. o. and 4 months. We used to kiss, then it was just when we made love and then that stopped. I miss it and told my husband so. He said that he liked it but had forgotten it. I feel quite shy even talking to him about it and would prefer he didn't do it if he didn't like it. Do you still do it?

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spidermama · 11/10/2005 09:58

Only tongues in the throws of passio.
My dh doesn't brush his teeth as often as he used to so I've been put off over the years.

TracyK · 11/10/2005 09:59

No chance!

spidermama · 11/10/2005 09:59

'passion' ... obviously.

kama · 11/10/2005 09:59

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Racers · 11/10/2005 10:07

We celebrated our tenth anniversary recently (a few days after our DD arrived) and we only really kiss in bed (or wherever ) but then it is very passionate so I think we are lucky to have that still. Would hate to lose that. I think it's been quite few years since we just kissed without it going further (apart from kiss goodbye or 'i need a hug' moments)

HuggyBear · 11/10/2005 10:10

ewwwwww no

I only have to give dh a hug for him to think we're gonna have sex - dont want to encourage him!!

why cant a hug just be a hug - why does it always have to imply sex??????

really drives me mad and makes me not want to go near him!! ive got 2 young kids and am not just a machine for pleasuring him!!!

and he payed a bit more attention to his personal hygiene it might help uuurrgghhh

sorry rant over

morningpaper · 11/10/2005 10:11

What a great question.

We do but rarely and usually if drunk/at a party/having sex.

i.e. VERY rarely.

compo · 11/10/2005 10:11

we do sometimes but to be honest I hate it now. Too invasive

CreepyJess · 11/10/2005 10:12

Also our tenth anniversary last month.. and kiss with tongues? Oh yes There's something lovely about a nice snog.. It always makes me want to rip his clothes off though so dont spend a lot of time snogging by day.. (altho is does happen sometimes )

Friendlygirl.. just snog him.. take the opportunity when it's there and do it.. he is your DH.. not some boy at school who you are two years younger than and terribly in awe of! Remind him how great a good snog is..

CJ x

flamebat · 11/10/2005 10:15

Occasionally (been together for 6 years now) - more just pecks than anything more in every day life though.

DH has started drinking more coffee than when we first met, and it makes his breath very strong and bitter for the rest of the day

CreepyJess · 11/10/2005 10:15

Actually, perhaps Racers and I are ODD then??!

DH and I are do not have the perfect marriage by an means.. (if there is such a thing!).. and we are not constantly shagging either.. (too knackered/stressed!).. but the urge is still there.. if not daily then fairly regularly.. and I think 'snogging' is one of the ways to keep it alive.. You have to still fancy each other obviously.. but this stuff needs working at when you have kids.. and daily stresses.

LadyFioOfTipton · 11/10/2005 10:17

oh god creepyjess we are more similar than i thought

CreepyJess · 11/10/2005 10:18

You guys with issues about coffee breath/bad breath etc... couldn't you just say 'oi you! Go brush yer teeth.. I wanna snog you!' I would say something like this without thinknig twice.. maybe I AM odd.. but I mean it's 'only' DH, IYSWIM..

The other night he was trying to kiss me and had been eating pizza... stale cheese, bleeurrghhhh! So I said 'come back when you've brushed your teeth.. you taste of pizza!' so he laughed.. and did! Does noone else conduct themselves like this?????

CreepyJess · 11/10/2005 10:19

Well thank God for that Fio...

Friendlygirl · 11/10/2005 10:20

Thank you for your replies!! Creepyjess (great name) yes you are right. I will snog him!

I hated snogging when I first did it at 15 but then had a fantastic snog session at 19 where we did things with tongues I had never imagined. Ever since then I have loved the intimacy of it but am acutely conscious that (like marmite) you either love it or you hate it. My sex life has become mundane over recent years with all the stresses and strains of ttc and lactating and had suffered. Bugger it, I will snog him!!

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CreepyJess · 11/10/2005 10:21

(I am usually SleepyJess ... it was a rare moment of Halloween witicism.. ) Yeah go for it.. snog his face off!

Friendlygirl · 11/10/2005 10:23

My dh won't know what hit him

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Bozza · 11/10/2005 10:28

Go for it if you want to, definitely. I snogged DH on the hall yesterday. While the kids were in the kitchen colouring. We were passing and I just put my arms around his neck and did it. Not for long mind you but it was nice. Also more inclined if I am drunk like others.

buffytheharpsichordcarrier · 11/10/2005 10:32

oh yes...
my mum told me not so long ago (now this is a woman who was married for 40+ years with a very healthy sex life right till the end and used to joke about blow jobs) that she had NEVER "french kissed" - her words - ooh no, never fancied that.
didn't pursue the line of discussion.

Racers · 11/10/2005 10:38

CreepyJess is right - any coffee/garlic stinks should be mentioned! He will get his rewards and so will you Hopefully it's not seen as serious and you can have a giggle about it.
Friendlygirl - hope you have fun!

Here's another one but maybe it's a bit early in the day... Do you talk dirty? Sometimes I ask him too but I have to say "not too dirty" LOL I don't want to be put off! Poor bloke

Friendlygirl · 11/10/2005 10:39

Talk dirty? No, like what??? Perhaps you could give me some ideas. He really wn't know what hit him!!

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CreepyJess · 11/10/2005 10:40

Racers yes.. but it makes us laugh! We text dirty more often in anticipation of whatever.. .. and then don't get round to it more often than not de to being too knackered bythe time we get to bed...!

projectmanagerCOd · 11/10/2005 10:41

I hate convos like that cringe

my mum used the word " tits" abotu someone recently

Racers · 11/10/2005 10:41

OMG I can't say on here!

buffytheharpsichordcarrier · 11/10/2005 10:44

my mum has got Really uninhibited since she was widowed. it's her age I think. day after my dad's funeral I found her hoovering and sobbing and I asked what was wrong and she said "I'm never going to have sex again am I??"
now, what do you say to that?

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