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Relationships

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My OH hasn't left me, or been abusive, or cheated or lied and actually everything is great!

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paternal · 30/01/2011 22:20

My OH is 8+4, laying next to me asleep and we are both happy and content!

Sorry but this relationship section of the forum is always sooooooooooooooooooooooo negative!

I know people don't come on here to boast about how happy they are and people are genuinely looking for help and advise. But it's always the same thing with almost the same answers. Men are useless, men don't do anything, you're right the man is wrong, he is abusive, however if you hit him then you're absolved of all responsibility. Ect.

People come to mumsnet because they are crying out for help, I understand that, really I do, and I'm not trying to be callus. Also Mumneters have always given great advise, but please let's have one topic that has positive out comes. Anyone celebrating their 10 / 20 / 30 year anniversary? Anyone travel half way around the globe to be with their soulmate?

Surely their still has to be some romance left in this world!

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Goober · 30/01/2011 22:22

17 years here and still mad for it.

madonnawhore · 30/01/2011 22:25

Yes, please god some good news!

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paternal · 30/01/2011 22:27

Congratulations Goober

That's what I'm on about. I was walking along the seafront the other day and saw an elderly couple hand in hand and they looked like they had just fallen in love. How great is that? (not calling you elderly Goober) just saying they must have been together for years, and you just don't see it now days.

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gibbberish · 30/01/2011 22:28

Nice thread!

Dh and I will be celebrating our 20th anniv next year. We have 4 lovely dds. We run our own business and work incredibly well together.

We've had our ups and downs over the years but are probably happier now and more contented than we have ever been.

It has been really hard work at times but worth it.

Goober · 30/01/2011 22:30

I am 38 not 78.

LunaticFringe · 30/01/2011 22:35

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onehotmomma · 30/01/2011 22:46

I have been married for 9yrs this year and I'm 28 :) we've had our ups and downs like most couples but I'm still madly in love with him although he can be a pain in the arse sometimes but I can't imagine life without him.

perfumedlife · 30/01/2011 22:54

Married nine years this summer and still fascinated with my dh

Dropped in on my parents today and got the distinct impression we had interupted something They are loved up and married 50 years this winter

When marriage works, it's one of the best things life has to offer.

AnnieLobeseder · 30/01/2011 23:01

DH and I have been together 12 years, married 8, have two gorgeous DDs. We still love each other madly, though we should probably have more sex . We share housework and childcare, we pick up the slack for each other.

He's wonderful and I love him to bits! One good thing about MN and all these negative posts about shitty men is that they really make me appreciate my DH, and I tell him so regularly.

fragglerocks · 30/01/2011 23:01

I love this thread! Been with DH for 5 years and married for 3. We are TTC #1.
He can be a royal pain in the bum but I have never met anyone so caring, kind and loving as him. He makes me laugh like no one else can and he is my best friend. He's amazing!
Hopefully I can come back on here and let everyone know when we're celebrating our 50th wedding anniversary!!

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paternal · 31/01/2011 20:22

Oh hum, looks like not many happy people out there. :( already on page 2 with only 11 (now 12) comments. while, all the doom and gloom Threads have 512/627 comments.

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freerangeeggs · 31/01/2011 20:25

My dp is wonderful. He has his flaws of course, but not as many as me! Couldn't be without him and miss him madly when I am.

moodymama · 31/01/2011 20:28

15 years here and despite rocky patches we're doing well.

LoveMyGirls · 31/01/2011 20:31

We will be celebrating 9yrs together on friday and are still madly in love infact more in love now and the happiest ever.

I hate mondays because I have to get used to being without him all day I can't wait for holidays so we can spend more time together.

He would do anything for me and our dd's, all he wants out of life is to make us happy there are times he drives me up the wall but on the whole he is lovely.

JaxTellersOldLady · 31/01/2011 20:31

I have been busy today, so only just on MN.

Been married to my lovely husband for nearly 13 years, known him for 18 years.

Perfectly happy with each other after all this time. I feel like we have grown and supported together through good times and the occasional bad patch. Isnt anyone in life I would rather be with, even when he is infuriating me beyond comprehension!

Oh and paternal we sometimes have "my DH/DP is fabulous because ..." threads.

Cain · 31/01/2011 20:32

I'm glad to hear it, gives me hope that one day I might find a good man too.

Thank you for your positivity.

AFingerofFudge · 31/01/2011 20:33

Have been with DH since 1991, we got married 19 years ago this August - shocked face is because time has flashed by so fast.
We have 3 lovely DC's, and I think I love DH more and more each day.

We do really try to work as a team, and communicate well, erm....like Annie think we should probably have more sex than we get round to

conniedescending · 31/01/2011 20:34

8 years
4 kids
best friend
great sex
still talk into the early hours and hold hands when out
miss him when we're not together

PositiveAttitude · 31/01/2011 20:35

Married nearly 23 years and still think i have the best man around!

KatyMac · 31/01/2011 20:36

17 years married (anniversary earlier this month & we went dancing)18 years together

& they didn't expect it to last 2 yrs

Dh does the ironing

piratecat · 31/01/2011 20:37

i guess all the 'doom and gloom' threads have more posts because they are more desp for help op.

barmbrack · 31/01/2011 20:38

No, I have the best man around.

He folds my pyjamas and turns down the bed for me (amongst other things)

2DCs, 10 years together

Cain · 31/01/2011 20:40

Oooh I have just have a fabulous idea...if any of your lovely DH/Ps have single brothers in their late 30s/40s in the Manchester area - fix me up a date?

Saltatrix · 31/01/2011 20:41

Don't worry it's like the news, bad things just get much more attention.

overthehillmum · 31/01/2011 20:42

Been with my partner for over 5 years, were friends for at least two years before getting together, had been single mum for about 7 years, my lovely partner took my own children on as his own and despite the odd tantrum we all get on great, both my kids 19 & 20 now, refer to him as Daddy Overthehill, (he never had kids), the kids still live with us and I have an absolutely lovely life now, far from the single lone parent struggling with life in general, he encouraged me to finish my degree (nearly done) move on to a much better paid job and brought security and love to me. I count my blessings everyday, there are great guys out there. Great thread!!

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