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My OH hasn't left me, or been abusive, or cheated or lied and actually everything is great!

76 replies

paternal · 30/01/2011 22:20

My OH is 8+4, laying next to me asleep and we are both happy and content!

Sorry but this relationship section of the forum is always sooooooooooooooooooooooo negative!

I know people don't come on here to boast about how happy they are and people are genuinely looking for help and advise. But it's always the same thing with almost the same answers. Men are useless, men don't do anything, you're right the man is wrong, he is abusive, however if you hit him then you're absolved of all responsibility. Ect.

People come to mumsnet because they are crying out for help, I understand that, really I do, and I'm not trying to be callus. Also Mumneters have always given great advise, but please let's have one topic that has positive out comes. Anyone celebrating their 10 / 20 / 30 year anniversary? Anyone travel half way around the globe to be with their soulmate?

Surely their still has to be some romance left in this world!

OP posts:

tigerbear · 31/01/2011 20:43

Been with DH 10 years, married for 4, and expecting DD1 in May. My lovely DH works in a high pressure job, volunteers in another job, does the cleaning, and supports me while I run my own business. By that, I mean both financially, practically and emotionally.

He does all of my horrible computer/tech stuff for my business, congratulates me on my (modest) success at work, and has never complained once that we've been living just on his salary for the past 2 years as my company still doesn't make any money...

Dumbledoresgirl · 31/01/2011 20:44

OK I will play the game and add a happy story. Dh and I have been together 20 years, married for 16. He travelled half way around the world to be with me - well, not quite, he came to England from Australia of his own accord back in 1988, but he was all ready to pack it in and return home when he met me in 1990. Meeting me was what made him stay.

Every time he meets new people and they find out he is Australian (the accent is long gone) they ask why he is in this godforsaken hole (their words, not mine) and why he doesn't live back in the sunshine, and he says it is because of me. Now that's love for you!

I am not saying we are totally blissful, we row frequently, but I think that is normal in a relationship between 2 opinionated feisty people. I won't be leaving him and I totally trust that he won't be leaving me either so one day we will be that couple on the seafront....

Mymblesson · 31/01/2011 20:45

15 years this coming Thursday.

She's my wife, my life; and we have a gorgeous 4 year old son.

I love her to bits and would do anything for her. She's the most amazing woman I've ever met and she's shown me, over the years, what love really is

5inthebed · 31/01/2011 20:46

It is our 10th wedding anniversary in March, married when we were 20, been together since I was 15, DH was 16.
3 great kids
Fab sex life
Still go on like a couple of teenagers
He only has to touch my neck in the right place and I go all giggley.

Mymblesson · 31/01/2011 20:46

I should say married 15 years this coming Thursday. We hardly knew each other when she moved in and we married 3 months after meeting

mamsnet · 31/01/2011 20:52

Been together 16 years, married 8, 2 kids.

And I'm sitting here like a schoolkid waiting for him to get home.

We're not necessarily the same people we were in 1994, but we've grown and changed together. We've always taken good care of our relationship, talked a lot, laughed a lot and never taken each other for granted. But I still think I'm one lucky lady.

JustForThisOne · 31/01/2011 20:59

well chuffed for you all
any bil still available?

Thingumy · 31/01/2011 21:11

Lovely to have a positive relationship thread!

We are very happy bumbling along ,we both aren't perfect but accept that and it seems to work.When we do have issues with each other's behaviour,we talk it through-funny enough it works!

We'll be celebrating our 10 year anniversary in the summer.

Truffkin · 31/01/2011 21:15

Love the lovely love!

My DH and I have been together for 7 years, married for 4 and he is fabulous! Very thoughtful, good fun, wicked sense of humour, very sexy and he absolutely adores me too. What more could I ask for? Oh, possibly a mini-me to join our family (been trying for a while and still hoping)

Great thread.

madonnawhore · 31/01/2011 21:15

Jeez, get a room you lot.

Zingylemontart · 31/01/2011 22:19

Can I just add how brilliant my DH is, too? Gets up with the children, cooks, cleans - that's not to say I don't do those things, it's just not my job/his job sort of thing. Been together 16 years, married for 12. And sorry, JustForThisOne, but he's an only child.

SmilingBeguiling · 31/01/2011 22:58

Been with DH 21 years, married 11 years, with 3 DCs.

Love him more than ever. We support each other and laugh alot together. He's kind, funny, patient and a great dad.

JustForThisOne · 31/01/2011 23:24

Zingy.... never mind
do keep me in mind

TimeForACHEEKYWineOrTheBottle · 31/01/2011 23:37

We have been married 4 years - 5 in december after a whirlwind romance.

We met in October 2005
Become a couple end of november
Conceived 21st December 2005
Engaged Jan 2006
found out pregnant with DS1 in Feb 2006
Moved in together June 2006
DS1 born Spetember 2006
Married December 2006 - 12 weeks after DS was born

5 years later still going strong, we have had our ups and downs but we are stronger than ever. :)

who said whirlwind romances cant work.

Mine did!!

KikiJane · 31/01/2011 23:47

I've been thinking the same as the OP. It's always the same problems on this page, and I actually love it in a strange way because it makes me appreciate my bf all the more. Every time I read this board I want to give him a huge kiss and thank him for being so awesome and for making us so awesome.

Calgary · 01/02/2011 17:05

Happily married for 7 years and have received a love email from DH every work day since we met :)

Calgary · 01/02/2011 17:07

Oh yes, should also say that I wrote my best friend after our first date saying that I had met the man I was going to marry and bought him a ticket to come with me to visit my family and friends 4 days later. :D - Here's to a whirlwind romance.

Fimbo · 01/02/2011 17:13

We have been together 17 years this year and married for 15 of those. Have a nearly teenager and 7 year old.

Neither of us are perfect, but I couldn't imagine my life without him. The cringy part is I know that he could never have an affair, well he could but then he would be so riddled with guilt that he would end up telling me.

I hate when he is away.

Although he is about OCD about kitchen cupboard organisation

deste · 01/02/2011 17:16

Forty years this year and still going strong>

dubaipieeye · 01/02/2011 17:21

My DH is THE BEST - no contest!

Have survived emigrating together - you sink or swim when you only know one other person in the country!

He is my best friend and my hero (please don't vom - I mean it...)

Together for 8 years and married for 3. 4mo DS. Tonight he told me that "DS only exists because we love each other"! I am blessed.

Acanthus · 01/02/2011 17:21

But really OP you must recognise that he is an abuser. Leave him. Isn't that what i am supposed to post on these threads?

izzybiz · 01/02/2011 17:22

I have been with Dh nearly 15 years married for 3.
We met when he was 17 (nearly 18) and I was 20. I had a 4 year old Ds and Dh wasn't scared off even at that young age!

We now have 2 more Dc, neither of us are perfect and its not moonlight and roses very often! He'd never win a prize for romance...
But, he is kind, strong, hardworking, faithful, dependable, I know he has my back and I have his. We just 'work', I couldn't imagine my life without him.

And he is gorgeous!

ImFab · 01/02/2011 17:25

DH and I have been together for 15 years and married for 11 1/2 years. He is the most amazing, strong, kind, reliable person I have ever met. I know he loves me whereas with other boyfriends I thought they did, hoped they did in some cases. He has never ever let me down, he has supported me through everything we have been through and he is my best friend in the whole world .

I love happy stories .

KatieMiddleton · 01/02/2011 17:30

I have a great DH. When our nanny was stick we split the childcare 50/50 even though I'm studying and he's working because he says it wasn't fair otherwise.

The last two weeks he's done the majority of childcare, cooking and cleaning while I've had a coursework deadline... and worked full time.

We are a partnership of equals and although I appreciate everything he does and am aware he does more than some men I don't think he deserves to be held out as a shining example - I think he does what a good partner should do.

Although I do believe I have the best husband in the world. I wouldn't have married him otherwise!

Vanillacandle · 01/02/2011 17:56

Sorry KatieMiddleton - you don't have the best DH in the world - I do!

We've been together 17 1/2 years, married for almost 16, and plan to grow old together. For all his depression, which isn't his fault, I wouldn't have anyone else. He is my soulmate, and I love him to bits.

I think this thread is fab - we should celebrate the good guys.

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