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Original poster

My OH hasn't left me, or been abusive, or cheated or lied and actually everything is great!

76 replies

paternal · 30/01/2011 22:20

My OH is 8+4, laying next to me asleep and we are both happy and content!

Sorry but this relationship section of the forum is always sooooooooooooooooooooooo negative!

I know people don't come on here to boast about how happy they are and people are genuinely looking for help and advise. But it's always the same thing with almost the same answers. Men are useless, men don't do anything, you're right the man is wrong, he is abusive, however if you hit him then you're absolved of all responsibility. Ect.

People come to mumsnet because they are crying out for help, I understand that, really I do, and I'm not trying to be callus. Also Mumneters have always given great advise, but please let's have one topic that has positive out comes. Anyone celebrating their 10 / 20 / 30 year anniversary? Anyone travel half way around the globe to be with their soulmate?

Surely their still has to be some romance left in this world!

OP posts:
Cain · 01/02/2011 22:35

Ummm JustForThisOne get in fucking line! Angry

Grin
JustForThisOne · 01/02/2011 23:49

I beg your pardon !
missed your post
but worry not, I am a lazy cow and need local Grin

JustForThisOne · 01/02/2011 23:50

still... I do think northerners are sexy

geministar · 01/02/2011 23:52

excellent thread,

really great to hear for those going through bad times that there really are amazing men out there and ~I hope to meet one in the future!!

Cain · 01/02/2011 23:56

Heehee I don't think these loved up ladies give a shit for our singledom plight so its probably a moot point!

I have a special 'thing' for men with a north east accent ie Newcastly region.

When I was young I dated a man with a Newcastle accent and have never been able to shake off the lust.

Ooooo Envy

JustForThisOne · 02/02/2011 00:12

received Cain, retreat to fia thread

Cain · 02/02/2011 00:21

what is fia?

JustForThisOne · 02/02/2011 00:26

hummm the thread about fit available? not sure how they shorten it Blush

Cain · 02/02/2011 00:44

Ooh I know what you mean... 'where have all the fit and interesting men gone number 10012' Grin

Cain · 02/02/2011 00:45

As you were loved up ladies......

Cain · 02/02/2011 00:46

...and gents...

ThatVikRinA22 · 02/02/2011 00:48

20 years in april here....

kids aged 19 and 13

pipe and slippers stage. its quite nice really and requires not much effort!

RailwayChild · 02/02/2011 07:19

Thank you for this thread

Was married 22yrs
Wish to believe in marriage, love etc but currently scarred
This is the thread I needed to read

AttilaTheMeerkat · 02/02/2011 07:23

Mr M and I have been married for nearly 16 years now and he still worships the very quicksand I walk on!!. I could not imagine my life without him in it.

chimchar · 02/02/2011 07:27

been with my dh longer than i've been without him! met when i was 15....now been together for 21 years , have 3 kids, very happily married...my dh is really my true soul mate.

railway...sorry you've been hurt x

EarthMotherImNot · 02/02/2011 07:34

I met Dh when I was 14 going on 15 and he was 19.
We went out for a while,, split up got back together and, eventually, when I was 21 and he 26 we married.

That dear readers was in October 1974.

We are still very much in love, we have our differences but by and large it works for us.

So 36 years, 37 in October

Do we win a prizeHmm

dejavuaswell · 02/02/2011 08:49

I agree with the OP that there isn't enough good news on TV, radio or Mumsnet.

stillfrazzled · 02/02/2011 12:02

DH and I will have been together for 10 years this summer, married for 5.

Have 2 gorgeous DSs.

He was my best friend before we got together and for both of us, our first thought is to tal to the other when anything happens, bad or good.

In the past year we've been through two miscarriages, one pregnancy that was nearly lost three times in the first trimester, surgery which left him housebound for several months, one family bereavement, job worries and a premature baby who spent three weeks in SCBU before coming home last week Smile.

We've barely argued at all, and just got on and supported each other. He looks after me when I need it, I look after him when he needs it.

Think if we can survive this year and still feel soppy, we should cope with most things!

JoinTheDots · 02/02/2011 12:22

Together 14 years so far. There are some decent ones out there!

Ormirian · 02/02/2011 12:24

19 years married this October. Lived together for 5 years before that. Still going strong.

Romance? Nah...not really.
Love and respect and good companionship. In spades.

Original poster
paternal · 04/02/2011 21:28

Good day today folks, first day of the weekend, Bonus was paid today & hoping to get an extra bonus tonight. Bottle of wine, takeaway & movies. What more can you ask for???

OP posts:
DMCWelshCakes · 04/02/2011 21:46

Known each other 17 years, together 12, married almost 7, 1 DD and DC2 currently on the way.

Irritatingly & smugly happy. Grin

Missile · 05/02/2011 12:15

10 years married this year and 11 years together. Still like newlyweds according to our friends and family! We adore one another, have 3 children, busy lives, not much couple time but make time to show one another how much we care in all sorts of little and big ways. Can't imagine it ever becoming shite really :) (Both early 40s)

Original poster
paternal · 20/02/2011 22:38

Last post was 05th Feb, so I'm going to necro this topic. :) also nothing but doom and gloom to read, once again.

We have our first appointment with the MW this Saturday, I know lots of forms!!! :( and blood tests, (hers) :) then our 12 weeks scan on the 3rd (although we have already had 2 privately, couldn't wait) :)

We still not arguing and fighting for anyone interested. :o

OP posts:
alexpolismum · 21/02/2011 10:46

All the best with your scans, paternal. (I didn't bother with mine last time until I was about 4 months pregnant!)

11 years together here. I emigrated from the UK for his sake and have never regretted it (despite the lack of gingernut biscuits and stilton cheese!) 7 years married, 3 children.

No arguments or fighting! Very happy here too!