What horrible thing did your relationship with DH/DP survive?

[sweetpotatomash]

Been together 9 years. I forgave an affair when was pregnant with DC2.

Damm near bankrupcy, tax men chasing us for thousands, me getting too close for DH's comfort to somebody else. His depression (all at the same time!)

However we pulled through and things are atm great and have been for several years - ok we get stroppy with each other from time to time and a bit snappy but I love him to bits and he goes out of his way to make things as easy and as comfortable for me as he can.

he threw a screwdriver threw my car window at me. he cheated on me.

I got HSV1 from him at the start of our relationship (well a few months in). I was gutted but really it wasnt that bad, I was just terribly sad about it.

My depression and squandering of 9 thousand pounds on shite.

He helped me through, taught me to manage money, took me to GPs for support and now all is well! And he never mentions it any more

2 miscarriages, his nutty ex, his penchant for sex lines, his 2 heart attacks (nothing to do with the sex lines ) and more money troubles than you can shake a stick at.

But other than that it's been plain sailing!

its all amazing, when these issues are going on, you never think you will survive

DD

actually, thinking about it. we aren't togetehr now so we didn't really survive. but i forgave it at the time.

we are working on surviving domestic violence

rebeetle That sounds like a tough one. I hope it goes well for you.

yes it is, i am the guilty person, cant really say more

good luck and stay strong

His crazy parents who begged him not to marry me....then his sister being killed in an accident, me having a late miscarriage and him being made redundant all in the space of a couple of weeks, a horrible time but we got through it, have 2 beautiful DC and are still married.

my infertility (premature menopause at the age of 28), possibly triggered by some stupidity I brought on myself when I was younger

my guilt at that

infertility treatments that turned me into a depressed monster with no interest in sex for years

2 miscarriages

yup, that about covers it

we are very strong now, not always been that way, mostly because of me

shit, I've killed it

Aw, AnyFucker

Am sure you couldn't have caused your menopause.

Going through the rollercoaster of IVF, my drug induced tantrums, dealing with the failures and the depression setting in.

The breakdown of the our best friends marriage and the inevitability of taking sides.

DH's schizoaffective disorder - oh, I can't even begin to say what that brings to our life, it's the gift that keeps on giving. Depression, paranoia, delusions, oh my!

My absolute inability to keep track of any belongings at all, including money.

Me taking dh for granted (also known as concentrating on my work. I do wonder why I wasn't born a man sometimes).

DH nearly moved out in December so survival is always a relative term. He's a great guy though.

A hideous accident. My severe hyperemesis (twice) and near kidney failure. The stress of being young parents and doing it all totally without help. My desire for another baby and my rage that I couldn't have one. Two unrelated but devastating court cases. It's been unbelievably tough, but tbh we've never come close to splitting up. I feel like we're pretty indestructable at this stage.

7 miscarriages

but we now have 2 lovely monsters angels!

Me getting pregnant after 6 months into our relationships, a lot of money problems, redundancies, nearly bankrupt, a termination, alcohol problem. 9 years on and I love him more and more. Our communication is better, we trust each other, great sex life. I hope it is going to last.

Splitting up temporarily and me sleeping with 2 other people and not telling him. Recently. So watch this space.....

Miscarriage probably our worst thing.

And when I wrote to the DCs headteacher about something without consulting her. (Yes, I know the latter doesn't sound like a biggie, but it was in context.)