What horrible thing did your relationship with DH/DP survive?

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Been together 9 years. I forgave an affair when was pregnant with DC2.

Porn addiction. He stopped as soon as I found out, but unfortunately there has been a black cloud over our relationship ever since. Shame really, as our relationship is pretty damn perfect about from that.

He went to work abroad against my wishes. It was awful as we had been having a very rocky time anay and it felt like he had left us.

He's back now and in retrospect it was a good thing...we got a break without it being official and missed each other terribly. We have now reasessed our lives and it's better.

5 MC's and domestic violence. I left, OH got anger management and we had couple counselling. 6 years after all that we are going strong and have 2 lovely DC (and celebrate our 10 year anniversary in June)

Yes we do

Because we don't fancy the alternative

My one night stand, his affair, him not paying the mortgage, a prem birth(1 week after finding out about his affair) been together 17 years and we@re in good place now and have been for the last 18 months approx

My DHs emotional affair with an 18 year old from Canada.

My emotional affair with some bloke darn sarff. (me getting back at him for the above :()

DHs emotional affair with someone i considered a friend who i met at a post natal group - luckily i found out before it went too far, found stuff on laptop with regards to him asking her if she was ok with it and that he wouldnt tell anyone and that he wouldnt loose then kids etc etc....

His heart problem that we are still trying to find out what is wrong with his heart - also his fit that he had in june, dr thinks its epilepsy.

Numerous jobs, quitting, sacked.,

Money problems,

Homelessness

Near homelessness again

But we are happy now, happier than we have been and he is currently away on trainging for a new job which is going to be the best wage we have ever been on and lets me carry on been a stay at home mum.

Oh throw my Severe Post Natal Depression into that aswell.

Finding condoms in his travel bag when he was working away, 12 years ago. At the time he said they were there "so the kids didn't find them". I believed him because I was desperate to. Then in a recent row, he said it was "in case he got drunk and did something stupid." I know that's another lie.

Actually, I'm not sure it has survived that. I feel disengaged from the relationship now.

This fucking recession, someone DP worked for going bust owing him tens of thousands, we had to sell everything (near enough) to pay DP's suppliers and the VAT man.

2008 - 2009 was awful, financially. 2010 was not much better.

Thank FUCK he is earning now.

Oh, and just before that we got flooded out of our house and it was a year before it was habitable again. But that was a piece of cake compared to all the financial worry.

His mother's crazy hostility

Miscarriages x 4

Hyperemesis

Secondary infertility

Redundancy

Serious illness for me, life-threatening for him

My mother moving in with us

He's in hospital atm, so we're back to total preoccupation with survival.

But it's a good relationship.

Shit some of you have had some tough, tough times.

Us? No sex. Him not wanting children. Almost splitting up over the no children thing. Finding out that the only way to have children was IVF.

Have one DS. I am a little sad that we didn't have any more but am pretty ok with it now.

Still no sex.

But we get on really well and I can't imagine not being with him.

Some rough times here - LeQ, that's a lot of rough times and rough luck.

So far - not anything major, although our inability to have DC no. 2 is testing us a little...

Separation for 6 months while he was abroad
Depression
More depression
Death of his mother
Children
Libido issues

The normal stuff really

But going stronger than ever after 20 years

Am amazed at the terrible things some of you have gone/are going through and what support and insight you give other

Him leaving me and 8 m/o DD for OW
Domestic violence
His incredible self-centredness and poor-me attitude, when he has no clue about how lucky is to be in our lives.

Whether our relationship survives is open to question, esp after he told me I was up my own arse to have an opinion on the snacks he brings DD - in front of her.
I tell him it's disrespectful to talk to me like that.
He says I am treating him badly in moaning everytime he brings DD something.
FFS.

We dont live together, unsurprisingly.

Bancruptcy and ensuing homelesness.
Two years in temporary accommodation.

With three young DCs.

It's taken years to get back on our feet.
But we're still together and DCs are stable,nice kids.
The two older ones with good jobs and the youngest at college.

5 mcs, although we never saw these as reasons to pull apart, we pulled closer even though my bouts of depression are hard for him to deal with. He understands.

DH affair with his ex

A miscarriage the day after our wedding, baby 1 born 6 weeks prem, six months after baby 2 his company being decimated by a rogue trader...who was his friend, being treated appallingly by the SFA and the tax man.

Ds2 being diagnosed with Leukaemia aged 3.

We like a boring life these days, and we still like each other.

Losing 2 children.
His mother betraying me.
Me having contact with an ex.
My constant depression.
One dc's medical problems.
Dh looking at things he shouldn't.

I like my life when it is boring too

Boring is good (in this context)

Wow! I am so heartened to see what a relationship can survive.

I am very lucky that we haven't hit any major bumps yet(ignoring the ttc/fertility treatment!)but I have a real sense that all the effort we put in now, even when things are easy, will make strong foundations for when misfortune hits...something to harvest and so on.

Dh's 2 brain tumour Ops. (He's fine now, fingers crossed for future scans)

Nothing else, thank goodness, we have a great relationship.

V true AF. We constantly congratulate ourselves on the boringness of our existence.