What horrible thing did your relationship with DH/DP survive?

[sweetpotatomash]

Been together 9 years. I forgave an affair when was pregnant with DC2.

The stillbirth of our DS2
A m/c at 14 weeks
His parents being complete and utter bastard wank stains. (they are out of our lives completely now)

God, some of you have survived so much. SInce August 2009:

On our Honeymoon, DH's mum was critically ill, was touch and go for a while although she is much better now.

Miscarriage

Our son was stillborn in June following a very difficult pregnancy.

Another miscarriage.

2011 has got to be a better year for us

DV (his)
Abusive violent parents (his, now estranged)
His workaholic tendencies
My severe PND after DS1
DS1's heart defect diagnosis and subsequent operations
DS3's stillbirth

And the affair (mine)

a miscarriage,
My father dying
4 grandparents between us dying
severe PND with DS, carrying on with DD (17 month age gap)
DV resulting from my meltdown due to PND
DP being convicted of a historic rape case on 16.12.2010 and now facing at least 3 years in prison. We are 6 weeks down the line from him being sentenced and we will survive...

What is a historic rape case?

Gay...I think it is when the rape offence took place some time ago, often decades

So he raped someone ages ago and has just been convicted?

Let's get this moving again

DH's best friend was killed right in front of his eyes. He had to identify him at he hospital

His wife was calling his mobile phone when the police gave it to him for safekeeping, before she had been given the news

That was a horrible time

Hmm, let me think

Redundancy x 2

MIL and FIL have both had (and survived!) cancer

My terrible PND

DH's best friend dieing from a heart attack when he was 35

My dad having major eye surgery.

If our marriage survives my stomach upset tonight I'm nominating him for sainthood. :o

Death of beautiful d nephew from a brain tumour 6 days after his first birthday
and the subsequent the suicide of husbands sister (nephew's mother) shortly after in 2010 :(

fuck

Gosh, reading this just confirms my belief that women are brilliant and strong.

We got summoned to court when dh's exwhiff lied about not receiving £50k , court was sheduled for our wedding day, had to change our wedding, and she was lying the whole time and we had proof.

Dh being told I wouldn't survive the post op fuck up and watching me gush blood up the walls. Standing by me now I am registered disabled.

Exwiff attemting to kill ss and three others by driving drunk at speed into a tree.

Discovering the above by a call from Social services to say ss was on the Child protection register

My own mother and sister betraying me and over very serious allegations. Long story.

Dh's mother lying and in cahoots with exwiff to prevent us from seeing ss.

My brother dying in his sleep at 45

My best friend dying at 45 ten minutes after we left the swimming pool.

That's enough for now, only been married 9 years.

On paper the stuff that we have survived is bad. On paper the reasons for staying with my husband would be few. In practice he is kind hearted, soft, loving, hard working. It is all good now and I hope beyone hope that it will be forever.

I think a relationship can survive most things. It depends on the people though.

I agree femalevictormeldrew, if the two of you are the type to stay and work at things, it can bring untold rewards. If you feel like giving up at the first sign of trouble, you can end up very lonely.

For better and for worse.

DH going to prison, bankruptcy, depression (me) and 2 suicide attempts (me again). We are now going through a rather nasty historic abuse case (cannot elaborate). If i read about the last 6 years of my life i would not believe it.

But we are still together and still loe each other.

Pudytats, I'm so glad you and your DH survived. I remember how incredibly supportive you were of him when everything was falling down around your ears.

Thank you slug! It has not been an easy road thats for sure. But I love him, I have children with him. We are a team and I would be lost without him. We are now going through another court case - luckily not the central players this time but still harrowing. He is supporting me this time. I thank my lucky stars every day I have him and I know he feels the same about me.

Me getting pregnant 4 months into our relationship.
DS1's Meningitis at 3 months which meant 5 weeks in hospital and left me a nervous wreck.
My PND, and the spending that went with it that nearly cost us our home :(
DH'S affair
2 Miscarriages and his lack of support
His Dads illness and his depression at seeing his dad die infront of him.
DS2's Special Needs
Redundancy x 2.
His witch of a mother.

Losing 6 babies(3 of them in late pregnancy).
Life-threatening illness(me)
Dh losing job through alcohol issues
Dh sleeping with prostitutes(and getting caught)
Dh spenging money on crap resulting in loads of debt and a house that is falling down around us.
Being estranged from family(me)
None or very little sex(dh choice)
Not surviving these tbh-all just brushed under the carpet.Feel like I am a volcano and one day I will explode!!!.

Cot death @ 5 months old - we did not really survive though, he was strong for me straight after, while doing this he did not grieve himself, its almost like he self destructed as months went by, we split, but remain friends for DD,