What horrible thing did your relationship with DH/DP survive?

[sweetpotatomash]

Been together 9 years. I forgave an affair when was pregnant with DC2.

Some uplifting stories there, some of absolute woe. Without pointing to anyone in particular, I'm not sure I would have seen fit to "survive" some of these things.

My getting too close to a work colleague
A car crash
Me getting meningitis when DS was 9months old
2 prem babies
Pre-eclampsia
3 family deaths
PND
All in the space of 5 years. We will be celebrating our 10th anniversary in August and our relationship is better than ever!

ongoing crap from his drug addict ex - resulting in his sister gaining custody of ss. Huge fall out with said sil. My ongoing anxiety and depression. Shit from both families, especially dealing with my younger sis. Being diagnosed with pcos and ttc dd for two years. A serious car accident where i was cut out the car. Crap with his job, me losing mine due to ill health. All in all not an easy 6 years but well worth it and i love him loads. Its good to hear so many get through the shit

me neither, RL, but am sitting on my hands as this thread is just about getting it out there, I guess

my hands are very numb now, though

Commenting is allowed I think, just no judging .

Some people are amazingly strong.

so true, fab

I wish I was strong.

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh Blimey.

Financial problems
Short lived porn addiction
Death of H's dad
Workaholism
H's affair a few weeks before our wedding
A private lap dance 6 months after wedding and lying about it
Not moving out for a trial separation when I asked

Not a survival story, now separated.

I am totally shocked at what people put up with survive in the name of 'marriage'.

Onset of rheumatoid arthritis the day after ds2 was born. Hard not to turn on each other during a lot of the pain, adjustment, hope, changing of plans and lifestyle. Doing well at the moment, touch wood.

Currently enduring repeated week long separations due to work overseas. Comes home weekends though. Hard to make time for ourselves in amongst it all.

Scrap that for better and for worse. I meant good times and bad, sickness and health.

Some things are not survivable though

Some of these stories . Can't bear to think that people have been through this stuff

DH surviving an accident which should have killed him three times over. DC were 1.5 yrs and 2 months old at the time. Long (ongoing ) revalidation. Consequent loss of job and not fit for work.

Inlaws thinking I am the incarnation of the devil (strangely enough they have no friends and not on speaking terms with their families but still it hurts)

My father dying very quickly of cancer (diagnosis to death 9 weeks) whilst going through moving house and my parents living abroad.

My DB's now ex is turning into a stalker and impacting on all of the family.

Breast cancer scare

Seems minor compared to some of the above posts.

DH and I still have butterflies in our stomachs (for each other) occasionally

this thread is about celebrating and applauding strong relationships and showing that sometimes, you can go through shit but if you want to, you can be together

Had a bad day with DH today and wondering how on earth we could carry on, then read all this and thought fuck that, I have nothing much to complain about (although of course, I still like to complain!). Some incredibly brave people on here.

DBIL being knocked down & left in a coma (4yrs & counting)

DFIL dying of pneumonia 4mths after above accident

DP being arrested and sent to prison same day as FIL died.

Emotional affair (him)

Porn addiction

DV

SW intervention resulting in DS1 being accommodated for 4wks

My lying bitch of a mother causing above

My mc 5 days after SILs mc.

Both my GM being diagnosed with dementia

DS1 continued behavioral problems.

We're good now but there was a few times I could have happily walked away due to all of the above and the total breakdown of communication between us.

Glad I didn't.

DS2 wouldn't be here if I did

My nervous breakdown
Two terrible pregnancies
A miscarriage
Moving to another country
His nervous breakdown
His severe gambling addiction
A cancer scare (mine)
Near bankruptcy

Reading this thread in wonder. The hardest challenge we've had to face (tiny by comparison!) is me being pregnant/bfing for all but 10 months of the last 5 years, literally (3 DCs, 1 mc). Except we didn't 'survive' exactly, H had an affair lasting nearly all of last year. We're not finished yet, trying to see what there is to salvage/rebuild.

Whether I want to or not depends on what day it is. Yesterday and today? Not so much :(

oh robberbutton Hope the day improves, what a time you have had. x

Thanks perfumedlife, that's sweet :)

Loads..

• mental health problems
• 2 redundancies (while struggling with depression)
• sudden disability
• being kicked out of his mother's house (had to stay there after 2nd redundancy)
• flat with multiple leaks in roof - resulting fight with letting agents
• flat with no heating - resulting fight with letting agents
• flat with hole in wall - resulting.. oh you get it
• abusive/aggressive landlord
• DH suicide attempt
• homelessness

Forgot some

• parents almost refusing to come to wedding
• friend having nervous breakdown and displacing her upset onto DH (she convinced herself she'd feel better if I could see her more often - and that DH was stopping me)

• Getting pregnant 2 months into our relationship
• Porn addiction (him)
• traumatic birth which led to PND..

-Suicide attempt during PND (me) -His mother trying to control us and then turning the whole family against me when i finally told her to but out

• my grandad dying of cancer
• my nan having a stroke

-my 'aunt' being sectioned after trying to kidnap my DD -miscarridges

• 2x homeless
• 2x awful houses & landlords
• feeling depressed every single day and every single second of the day... wondering howi can get through the year as i know something bad is going to happen.
• my continued control problem, i dont know how he puts up with it but i am so controlling, accusing DP of having affairs all the time.
• the constant battle with money worries