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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The New Year Wine Offers!

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Mouseface · 21/01/2011 22:19

Hello all.

We are the Brave Babes. We're on the Battle Bus, travelling around sobriety and going day by day, hour by hour, through the detox hell of not drinking, cutting down or sometimes even not.

Come say hi. We won't bite. Grin

No doubt one of us has been where you are now......

It's fine. No judging, no nasty jibes, just us, the BBs.

Come meet the others..................

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bafanatheSober · 08/02/2011 08:12

Morning all

Noteven, I cannot believe the transformation in you, it's fantastic, I was reading some of the older threads to get some perspective yesterday. And you and I were like different people in them. You rock girl!!!!

LADYBOAK · 08/02/2011 08:19

Hi ! It has been a while I didnt update ! I'm on day 14 but yesterday I almost had a wobble, I had a stressful day and a row with dh. I suspect it is pmt. When dh arrived I left the house with the intention of going to the pub (on my own Blush) to have a quick spritzer. Instead I went to the shop and bought some hagen daz, cake, chocolate, chocolate biscuit..Yesterday I didnt drink but can you tell the diet is not going too well Smile!

I'm following all your progress and I'm with you with all my heart, it is so difficult to ditch the booze when you are having a stressful time.

notevenamousie · 08/02/2011 09:24

I think getting through a wobble makes us stronger, LADY, because we develop the tools to do it next time, or so I am learning.

Bafana I can't believe how far I've come and you sound so strong despite all that is going on - maybe we realised we had to stop for us, not the people around us? I think that helps me, and it seems to have got you through some seriously horrible stuff in recent weeks.

I feel almost guilty for not being at work - today I get a lovely if perishingly cold meeting, time with a good friend I've made, and a walk by the sea in the sunshine. I am so grateful.

Zanywany · 08/02/2011 10:49

Morning everyone.

Feeling alot brighter these days but unfortunately not doing so well on the cutting down. Got some lovely soft drinks in for tonight so tonight I will not be drinking. Got a date tomorrow night which I'm feeling a bit nervous about (especially seen as I think I have a spot on its way, aahhhhhhh, I never usually get them.

MIFLAW · 08/02/2011 11:10

Morning all!

Crystal Palace meeting was unusually full last night - were any of you there?

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Mouseface · 08/02/2011 12:16

Afternoon Babes. Smile

Workmen are still here. The mess is awful, dust and noise.

We have no water at all now. The system is a complete mess so the guys are having to re-pipe the mains and all the off shoots to the bathroon, kitchen, loo etc.

Why did we buy this house?

Off out to dinner later, DD is 12 today so I'm looking forward to that.

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dementedma · 08/02/2011 13:29

Mouse you bought the house because it will be fabulous when it is all done! Get a grip woman Grin
Hope DD has a wonderful birthday and that the coming teen years are kind to you.

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Mouseface · 08/02/2011 13:58

Thanks Ma

How are you feeling today lovely, been in my thoughts for most of the night as I lay awake praying for sleep.

Keep going, you are much stronger than you think. xx

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dementedma · 08/02/2011 15:56

I'm ok Mouse. well, not really but not as bad. Back in work and trying to be pro-active. Going to see what equity is in the flat and get a free valuation on current market, just to see if there are any options.
Hope Nemo is coping with all the upheaval

lucilastic · 08/02/2011 17:47

Glad you're ok Ma. It's so bloody hard trying to stop drinking when you are used to dealing with stress by numbing it with alcohol. I am very guilty of this.
Like you we are in a lot of shit with money. I have a flat I part-own (35% only) which I am constantly on the verge of having re-possessed.
I bank with First Direct. They sound like they've acted like twats to you.
Disappointed in them TBH.

notevenamousie · 08/02/2011 18:08

Luci how are you doing? Hope things are going a bit better for you.

ma you sound a tiny bit better, it's a marathon, so the tiny bit is a good thing for today I guess?

I had a nap this afternoon because my DD's sleep has been so terrible lately. She's 4 but just doesn't sleep through and starts early and the tiredness can be a trigger for me like so many of us.

Out tonight at my mothergroup meeting, will check in later. x

jesuswhatnext · 08/02/2011 18:28

evening ladies!! Smile

still at my desk!, eyes getting quite tired - this is the sort of day i used to 'treat' myself to a bottle of wine to at the end of!, i have a strategy for when i get in - pour myself a lovley long drink of blackberry and elderflower, run a nice bath, have a soak and then settle down for an hour of telly before bed - will have eaten my body weight in junk today so im not hungry, just weary! dh looks like an owl he is so tired!

Rubyredlips · 08/02/2011 20:08

Evening all

Got a splitting headache. I seem to be getting one every week it wipes me out Sad

At least it's not alcohol related.

Sorry for the moan.

Hope you all have a nice evening Smile

DoraIsaandBoots · 08/02/2011 20:29

Hello and well done everyone. I used to be yak back on about thread 4!

I still read thread but can't keep up to post often. I had a very sensible Christmas and have not drunk this year. Loving the extra energy and ability to get up and out in the morning without feeling groggy.

Sorry to be a lurker but just wanted to say you all keep me strong in saying NO.

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Mouseface · 08/02/2011 20:36

Hello Dora Smile

I remember you. Well bloody done on your quest to stay sober.

Lovely to have you posting Smile

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Rubyredlips · 08/02/2011 21:14

Hi Dora

Well done on the not drinking.

Hope you can manage some more posts Smile

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Mouseface · 08/02/2011 21:51

Off to sort Nemo out and spend some time with DH.

Night BBs xxxxxxxxxxxxx

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dementedma · 08/02/2011 22:01

am here, but drinking again. sorry, just not in a good place and yes, i know this isn't helping but it takes the edge off and passes the evening.

TheNextChapter · 08/02/2011 22:58

MIFLAW

Think am going to have to start going to meetings. Have been OK on my own so far but don't think a bit more support in RL would go amiss. Would you mind letting me know either on here or privately when you go to meetings in Palace. I will be home in a couple of weeks and would be good to go with someone to take the edge off!

Thanks!

notevenamousie · 09/02/2011 06:51

TNC well done for being willing and wanting to go, I'm sure it will help to have someone to go in with, walking in can be hard but its the best thing I ever did.

ma :( you sound in such a bleak place. I know you know that the alcohol will only make it worse but you need to really believe it in your heart I think.

Ruby have you always had headaches? It seems so unfair to feel rough now you've put the drink down.

Hope you are coping Mouse

Guess who slept through!!! (Is it normal to be this elated about a 4 year old sleeping for 10 hours? - don't care, it's rare and wonderful in my house!) I slept too til 5 and DD til 5:30. Such a relief. But, I think I need to phone the dentist today as have toothache and a big hole (!) in one of my wisdom teeth that is getting worse. I think I've had enough denial for a lifetime, so will pick up the phone today.

Rubyredlips · 09/02/2011 08:14

Morning all

Headache gone - hurrah!

Noteven I get headaches when I'm at work. I've recently had my eyes tested and sight was ok, although I have now got glasses for the computer but they don't seem to help. I guess i'll have to go to the docs about it but I doubt they'll do anything.

Great on dd sleeping through. I know how tough it is to not get enough sleep. Did you do anything different last night?

Rubyredlips · 09/02/2011 08:17

Ma How are you today?

MIFLAW · 09/02/2011 10:47

Next

Are you local? (this is not meant to imply that AA is like the League of Gentlemen!)

I tend to only go to a couple of meetings a week at the moment because i have been around quite a while and also because I have a job and a family (all thanks to AA). However, if I was new, notwithstanding job, family, etc I would try to get to more, at least to start with.

I always go to the Upper Norwood meeting on Monday because I am treasurer. It is a Step meeting, but very welcoming to newcomers. Like most meetings it starts at 8pm and lasts for 90 minutes. I won't give exact addresses on here because of the anonymity of other members (happy to PM if you like) but it is very near Sainsbury ...

My other meeting will typically be either South Norwood Woodside on a Friday; or Penge High street (again near Sainsbury) on a Saturday, which starts at 7.30pm.

If I'm asked to do a chair (i.e. tell my story) I will travel further and do other nights. Other good local meetings I have been to in this context are Jews Walk (Tuesday, I think) and a meeting in Sydenham on (I think) a Thursday.

Would any of those suit you, do you think?

If it helps you decide, the best tea and bisuits are to be had at the Saturday one in Penge ...

MIFLAW · 09/02/2011 10:49

Should add that helping a newcomer (eg you) is part of AA service and, again, I am happy to be more flexible and put myself out a bit more for that than I do when I go to meetings just for me; so if, for example, the best nights for you are not the ones I've mentioned, let me know and I'm sure we can work something out.

MIFLAW · 09/02/2011 10:52

Demented

You help tremendously by posting while drinking; you remind me why I don't.

Sorry you have to suffer in this way but, if it's any consolation, please don't think that you are not helping.

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