Did my husband cheat on me?

[TinyAK]

I've just returned home from a 2 week holiday without my husband. When logging into my facebook account yesterday evening on my husband's laptop another person's email address popped up in the login box. I'd never heard this person's name before so I asked my husband who he/she was (the name could be a female or male). He said he didn't know this person. I asked him if anybody had been in our house when I was away and he said no. He said that it must be some kind of spam so I dropped the issue.

The thing is when I first came home I had this weird sense that somebody had been there, also there was a pile of my clothes for ironing that had been very neatly folded in the spare room. In nearly six years of marriage my husband has never ever folded my clothes like that.

Would really appreciate some advice especially on the facebook part.

Thanks!

Never heard of spam or virus that would do that. Sounds like someone has logged into facebook from your husband's computer.

Try googling the email address?

Ask him about the folded clothes. Watch his face.

I hope this turns out well for you.

If you put the email address into Facebook search for friends it will show you who they are
Did you make a note of it?
I hope is not what you think op

Tiny - it doesn't sound good. I'm no techie, but I'd say what he is saying is impossible... but best to ask someone who knows, as I'd hate to say that and you to take it as gospel.

Was it that the clothes were folded or that they were folded differently to how your DH would fold them?

A facebook search on the name turns up quite a lot of results. There is also a number following the name so it looks like that's the person's birth year, for example, [email protected]. I tried a google search on the email address but it didn't come up with anything. Same with a facebook search on the email address. Should I try emailing this person?? God knows what I would say!

Facebook will auto fill the last lOgin put into it. If you click remember me it won't ask you for your password either.
It can't put an unknown email address in
Did he have some mates over perhaps?
Mayb they made a mess and tidied up?

That's weird
All these people can't be logging in with the same login
They must be the same person
Are the matches exact?

My husband never folds clothes - especially if they are for ironing. They were also folded so neatly so I noticed them immediately.

Are you using the friend search or the general search?
Use the friend one

No random visiting bloke folds up clothes.
DH of several years doesn't suddenly start folding up clothes.
He's denying anyone has used the computer - if it had been a mate he would have just said so.

If you have a FB account can't you just 'add a friend' with the email address?

Yes that's the bit you should use
You can find your friends using their email
It can't give you lots of results that doesn't Make sense
Have you checked the history on the browser too?

The history on the browser only goes back until Monday - that's the day I got back. Let me clarify regarding the facebook search. I do have a facebook account and when I do a search on the email address it doesn't come up with any results at all. There are however lots of people of facebook with this person's name - well over one hundred, possibly more, male and female.

So, did he delete the history log from when you were away, or does your computer only back back so far?

I think he's deleted the history. It's a fairly new computer so I don't know how long stuff is usually stored for but I thought it weird too that I could only see as far back as Monday which was the day I got back.

Oh Tiny, this does not look good. Have you looked through his FB friends list to see if he has this person listed?

He doesn't have this person listed as a friend.

I'll tell you how to check the history on the pc in the morning. I'm on my iPhone inbed so can't do it now
Unless he's very techy it wont be gone completely
If the email address doesn't come up with any matches they aren't on Facebook so that's a bit weird

Ooh, Dolly, can you share that with all of us?

Thank you Dolly I really appreciate that.

Hi Tiny, in addition to what you've found do you have any other reason to suspect him?

Sorry you've found what you've found by the way, must be a real worry.

No I don't have any other reason to suspect him but there are a lot of problems in our relationship - at least as far as I see it. In fact, we have very little physical contact and it's been like that since our little girl was born three years ago. I talked to him several months ago about us splitting us but he said he really didn't want that to happen. We've been trying to work on things since then but to be honest not much has improved.

He's also been super nice to me since I asked him about it last night. But maybe that's my imagination just running riot.

So whats your gut feel ?

I think if it was me If try to seek some more evidence.

Horrible I know but have you thought about looking at his phone?.

Urgh, rubbish typing, thats phone posting in bed for you.

My gut feeling - I just don't know. When the email address popped up last night I felt physically sick my reaction was "somebody's been here while I'm away". I've thought about checking his phone, wallet, but didn't have a chance. Perhaps any "evidence" will already have been removed. There seems to be no logical explanation for the email address other than that somebody's been in our house. I've always felt he was a really loyal and trustworthy person but I suppose you never really know.