Do I apologise for my stalkerish behaviour or just leave it?

[poshsinglemum]

I had a huge crush on a guy last summer and when he rejected me I sent him some arsey messages about leading me on etc. (he didn't really- that much)

I know I have been totally out of line and am sorry but I really shouldn't contact him again should I?

Mabe I want to say sorry because I want to start contact and build bridges but I know this is a bad idea. I need to snap out of it but can't get my mind off him. my previous thread on this sunk I think.

If I see him again (we live in the same area) I know I should just ignore him but would love to go up and apologise for being such a twat.

In my book, you don't lead a bloke a merry dance if you aren't interested

Not from your posts merrywidow. You are talking about prick teasing, which doesn't exist. As dittany says, it is a made up man made concept, and is absolutely vile.

Well I have encountered people (both male and female) who deliberately tease others sexually out of malice or egotism, and it's not a very nice way to behave.
But, PSM, honestly, leave this man alone. If he's a nice man, you are harassing him, if he's a knob you are giving him further opportunities to mistreat and indeed humiliate you (it is no fun to have everyone whispering about you because they have all been told that you are a desperate bunny-boiling headcase).

I think you all know what i'm talking about

Yawn - I'm off to bed, night ladies

What AnyFucker said.

Nope merrywidow, no idea what you are talking about.

I am certainly not desperate for any man. If I was I would have gone off this one ages ago.

I have rejected quite a few men since becoming a single mum; the ex who did drugs being one of them.

I turned down two dates on Match who weren't right.

There is a difference between being despearte for any man and desperate for a particular man.

If I was desperate for any man I would have dragged someone home from the local pub for a fuck by now.Now when I go out I never get off with anyone because I know what I'm like after a few!

And also I told my crush that I would no longer talk to him. I was the first to say it when he kept going on about keeping contact.

I absolutely love being single, I don't really believe in marriage as the only option and I feel proud that I am bringing my dd up alone.

I love making decisions on my terms, I enjoy my quiet evenings to myself, I love the fact that I don't have to check with anyone to make a decision.

I know that if I got with him his family would be a nightmare as would he probably.

I am not despearte for ANY man actually Anyfucker but I wish I knew how to get this one out of my head!

But anyways ladies. You have talked some sense into my head. My logic tells em that this is a hopeless case. I just need my heart to tell me the same.

Night all of you. I'm off to do some work and hoipefully bed.

posh, with respect, I have seen you post many times bewailing the fact that you "can't find a man"

you sound lovely, but your posts do belie the fact that you say you "absolutely love being single"

you will find someone, I promise, when you least expect it and he won't be someone that is totally wrong for you

'you will find someone, I promise, when you least expect it'

Or not, and that should also be fine.

It's every woman's right. Prick teasing is an appalling concept that takes away a woman's belief that she has the right to say no.

Absolutely she does, WHATEVER the circumstances. The prickteasing thing is an utter myth.

I can't believe that a woman is promting that idea on here - bizarre.

Spot on Mimblesson.

PSM: what evening course are you doing?!

well quite, earwicga, but OP clearly wants a relationship

lots of people do

don't lead a bloke a merry dance if you aren't interested

But that's not necessarily what's intended - it's just how things are.

I was once friendly with a woman I worked with who had a sort of on-off bf and we arranged to go out for a drink in Central London. First thing she said when I met her at the tube station was "I've been thinking about you all week. But I'm not staying with you tonight".

Fair enough.

Anyway as the night went on we had some good laughs and in the end she said "I'm coming home with you if you like", so, she did. We snogged all the way back from the tube station to my place. When we were in bed, in candellight, and I kissed her she said - "no, please stop". So I did and we just spooned all night.

Now, I could have drilled a hole in the bedroom wall at some stage, but because 'prick-teasing' is daft fuckwittery, it was perfectly OK and she remains a good friend to this day, 18 years on.

Sorry for the rambling, but just wanted to say it.

I cut that too short: what I meant to add is that there's no such thing as 'leading someone a merry dance'. It's all moment-by-moment, because that's how people (both men and women) really are.

Mimblesson, are you new ?

Stick around, won't you ?

I am new, yes. Someone sent me a link to here and I followed it

Welcome!

welcome to MN then

if you get any time, have a nose some more around the "relationships" topic, won't you ?

Well I have been having a look around. This is an interesting place.