Do I apologise for my stalkerish behaviour or just leave it?

[poshsinglemum]

I had a huge crush on a guy last summer and when he rejected me I sent him some arsey messages about leading me on etc. (he didn't really- that much)

I know I have been totally out of line and am sorry but I really shouldn't contact him again should I?

Mabe I want to say sorry because I want to start contact and build bridges but I know this is a bad idea. I need to snap out of it but can't get my mind off him. my previous thread on this sunk I think.

If I see him again (we live in the same area) I know I should just ignore him but would love to go up and apologise for being such a twat.

I fucked with his heart and mind in my early twenties as I was basically being a prick tease. I wasn't going to put out as I didn't want to get hurt but I led him on. Oh yes.

Looks like the same has happened but to me.Revenge. Unhealthy. I just feel so enmeshed and trapped in this cruch.

Please think about this; why are you interested in someone whos not interested in you? Its not going to get you where you want to be is it?

I'd suggest you get yourself some hobbies/interests quick, anything - get an evening class book, find something YOU are interested in and join up - You never know you might meet someone decent along the way, if not at least you are enjoying yourself and it will take your mind off the stalking

Oh it's not revenge or karma or anything. It's you, for whatever reason, not respecting yourself enough to have those boundaries that say - No, fuck off, I am going to wait for the real thing, and that's not you.

I'm starting an evening course on 18th! Can't wait!

'I fucked with his heart and mind in my early twenties as I was basically being a prick tease. I wasn't going to put out as I didn't want to get hurt but I led him on.'

This is all CRAP. None of it is true. Women don't have to fuck everyone they talk to or flirt with. I think I've heard it all now.

Spot on MyBrilliantCareer. Don't waste another second thinking about him as you have no idea what is waiting for you in the future.

And don't prick tease; either put out or keep your knickers firmly on without leading on - I had a mate that did this and one very decent bloke I knew that she had done it to just didn't think she was worth it.

I told him straight via e-mail after he wrote and told me he had moved on but would speak to me again soon that I wouldn't talk to him again and that if my boyfriend was inviting other women who had a crush on him up to the house and flirting with them etc I would be pissed off.
I also told him that I doidn't want to be second best to anyone and that I therefore wouldn't talk to him again. I told him that I was annoyed with the fact that he was still mates with my ex.

I think that was a bit too much. Oh well. better out than in.

Excuse me. He started it. We have history and I'm alone. Are you a single mum The secondcoming?

If you are I take it that you are too holy to have anything like a crush.

BTW; the stalking statement is a bit of a joke.A half joke.

It'll make you feel doubly bad if he rejects you again. The best thing you can do is just be polite but distant if you bump into him. You can't make him change your mind.

I am also a single parent and I think you just have to be patient and probably your best bet is men who are divorced with children themselves. I would try a dating website again and specify that you are interested only in men with children.

Don't make contact with him again, he sounds awful anyway to show an interest and then reject you.

I don't prick tease any more. I am no longer young.

My dd is always my number one priority.

Thansk ladies; you have talked some common sense into me.

WTF is prick teasing and leading on? What specific behaviours do you and merrywidow think this involves?

I'd say Prick teasing is leading a bloke right up to yer ladygarden then slamming the gate shut

TheSecond I thought it was Dittanys blokes mate who attempted murder? did I misread upthread?

Can you translate that into a specific action merrywidow? I have no idea what you are talking about. If a woman wants to fuck she fucks, if she doesn't want to fuck then she doesn't. There is no obligation if she is naked and sitting next to an erect penis.

posh, you come across as someone desperate for a man

any man

it's not good, seriously

not good for you

a man won't make your life alright again

only you can do that

I thought I was clear ear