The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Into 2011!

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Hello and a Happy New Year!

I'm Mouse, one of the passengers on this wonderful journey to sobriety!

We are a real mixed bunch of people, all trying to control or give up the booze - ONE DAY AT A TIME.

Come meet the others.........

And here are the previous threads, the journeys so far

Is it the stigma Thurso of being on anti despressants that is making him reluctant to go to his GP. MY friend has been on them for years but he views it as a chemical imbalance which the tablets help with.

Sounds like you are being very supportive so please don't feel you moan/bring the thread down when you come on here for support yuorself. Its what we are here for.

Unbelievably on day 3!!!!!!!!!!

Morning Brave Babes.

anon - I'd say the same, 4/5 days BUT if you're ill or have a lot on your plate, it could be longer.

Nytol herbal or Sominex/ax are another sleeping tablet that I've used short time.

Try and get yourself into a routine. Warm bath, warm drink, fresh PJs/nighty (or not ) and read in bed.

Give yourself a good hour to unwind. No tv, no noise as such, just a nice quiet, warm room.

Where are Silver, Red and MsGee? Have they been around lately?

thurso - you know my thoughts on this. Is there any kind of printed info you could hold of for him to read?

My GP is from Australia and told me they treat 'mental health' very differently over there to here.

He said the 'docs' here tend to look for reasons why you are not mentally ill. rather than to look at the reason for you being the way you are IYSWIM.

If this is a chemical imbalance, then your DH needs medication. I think that maybe there is something about his previous experience with his tablets, that is making him reluctanct to go back down that route.

There are so many different things on the market these days, he just needs to give them a chance to work.

Maybe he's scared of the initial 'dip'?

Sorry, waffling xxx

Well done Zany

How do you feel today?

Thanks Mouse, I won't expect sleep miracles straight away then. It did mean though, that I got loads done this morning before the school run so can relax a bit now, so it has that benefit and as long as there is no wine to sleep off as well, then lack of sleep is a lot easier to cope with.

Warm bath and read - nice idea

Zany we are bus twins - this is my day 3 too!

Thurso - I hope your DH gets the help he needs. I was put on AD's in my 20's. They made no difference to me. There was a good reason though, I had been mis diagnosed, I wasn't depressed, I was simply stressed. I needed to talk not medicate. But, I know people who have used them to great results. It doesn't need to be a stigma, and it's only between him and you and the doctor. No one else needs to know if he would rather keep it private.

You sound wonderfully supportive of him, keep up with what you are doing anyway...

Just stocked up again this morning on more varieties of juice and fizzy water. Figured that if I have masses of choices then I am much more likely to stick with it.

Mmmmmm

morning all! (crawls to sit under the duvet with mouse!)

just a quick thought thurso - years ago my df (who is hugely successful and very strong personalitly, high achiever etc) was on the board of a multi-national in charge of a budget in excess of 40m, staff of 150k etc, sat at the breakfast table and annouced that he was unhappy, my dm had seen it coming for months, she found the strength to tell him to hand his notice in that day (not easy, bills to pay, mortgage, school fees etc) anyway, simply knowing he had the option and support of dm gave him a real sense of security and the courage to to make the changes he had to make - he left and set up on his own and has never looked back!

Hi twin thought last night that I would 'treat' myself to a drink tonight seen as it's one of the nights I am on my own without the DC's but am going to try and break the habit and carry on with day 3. Not sleeping very well at the mo but to be honest feeling a bit stressed and awake worrying about things so it's probably that rather than lack of alcohol.

Hope Silver is OK, she hasn't been on for a while.

Feeling any better Mouse

Nope Zany. Think it's a viral thing? Not Flu as I've had my jabs. Or can you still get it?

And to matters worse, Nemo has a thing for Telefeckintubbies.

OMG. It was horrendous the first time round with DD 12 years ago.

Thanks JWN

I have said to DH that we don't need all the material trappings, and that we would be just fine if he changed direction entirely. At the moment he just wants to beat the project that is causing him pain, but what about the next one?

Amazingly, I have got my daily paper and the body and soul section is all about mens depression. I think DJ will be more inclined to read the paper than any literature I give him. Crikey, I'm blessed.

To all not sleeping in the early days of sobriety, it really does get better (not for me at the mo, obviously!), but even if you don't conk right out for 7 hours, you will still fel much better later in the morning than you ever did with a bottle of wine inside, from the night before.
It's all good
xx

Anyone seen wasindie about? I have a work question for you.

Just back from dropping DC1 at the station, gosh, it's heartwrenching every time!!

The drive has actually made me feel much better, sun was out, radio on .

Mouse, DC2 was mad keen on Teletubbies many years ago. I have the complete set of soft toys somewhere, and a complete set that I made with him, out of washing up liquid bottles, papier mache', and assorted household items. I knew I should have been a Blue Peter presenter .

We also had the Teletubbies phase. Someone bought DS a video which had as one of the films, a deeply annoying girl tap dancing in her garden. Drove me bonkers!

On a more positive note, am also on day three after a night of cranberry, lime and soda last night and have conquered another hurdle - have done the online shopping without adding a box of red wine. The juice and fizzy water is considerably cheaper. Now all I need is for the baby to stop waking up every couple of hours in the night so I can get my lovely sober sleep!

I can't bear Telefeckintubbies.

I have decided that I must be going above and beyond to allow it in the house again!

Well done to the day 3/4ers.

I love the Teletubbies, Tinky Winky, Dipsy, La-La, Po :):) Only joking Mouse

desire

Well finally heard back from my neightbour with a text to say 'Hi mate' so I guess it's loud and clear that he see's me as a childrens bubble bath rather than potential sex kitten

Anyway boiling chicken bones for soup feeling all earthy....... in reality listening to the DC's argue on the DS console, DD shouting 'gay boy' whilst the dog jumps on me!!!

Ahhh Ohhhh I'm in La La Land (sorry Mouse couldn't resist)

at childrens bubble bath (never heard that expression before

Hi Peeps.
I braved the garage - where all known bottles are stashed and had a sort out. All odds and sods of wine and beer now boxed up. 28 bottles out there, so it must stay that way until at least Friday. 20 small bottles of beer (DH's weak point is the "little lager" or two or four when he gets home). If we stick at this, that lot will last us absolutely ages. Just need the willpower to leave it there. Might tape up the boxes, any additional barrier has to be good.

However, on a more positive note also found several bottles of Ginger Ale, which I am not that bothered about but which DH adores.

Isn't matey the name of a kids bubble bath or have I got confused. he he

Anon - can you bury the boxes in the garden? Or give them to a friend for safe keeping?

Make something up?

Stick them in the loft? Maybe not all of the beers if DH wants them, but anything that YOU are trying not to touch?

If there is booze in this house, it's opened and consumed. I can't have it here.

DH is even joining me in abstaining since NY. Woo-hooo!

Zany - you have just extinguished all the love flames I had burning for you and NG with 'mate'!

Bugger. Oh well, back to the drawing board. I bet you're glad you didn't rush into anything now, as well as being a tiny bit gutted?

If my willpower wobbles, I have somewhere local I can put it if necessary, but I want a few glasses of wine at the weekend, and I want/need to be able to resist it until then, so am going to leave it (taped up!) for now and see how i go....

DH is even keener than me for this non-booze thing, he had a very heavy few weeks over christmas and new year and the last week. So at least we are a united front...

We hope!

Sorry, was being slow re the bubble bath. Doh! Sorry Zany, I don't know the history, but sorry you didn't get the text you wanted!

Hi Babes
I haven't been posting much but keeping an eye on what's going on. I am impressed with the positive vibes and success at the moment. Really just marking my place at 12 weeks sober, not a drop has passed my lips and I could never have dreamed that I could achieve this.
Thanks for all your support Babes, save me a place on the bus...
XX

Hiya BB Can I just say 'WOW' 12 weeks is an amazing achievment! Only done 12 days so far but I hope to be posting the same one day!