This morning I have found........

[Thejurysout]

a Vodafone credit card thing with the SIM snapped out. It was on our fireplace. It is not mine.

DH has a fully expensed phone from work (i.e. can make personal calls with it no problem)

It has the number on it as a sticker and I have called it but it is turned off.

All of this makes me very very very suspicious. Even the fact it is turned off is suspicious because that means it is not just someone's phone - no one switches their phone off anymore, especially without a voicemail message.

My stomach is turning over.

I also think that some posters are giving far too much credence to the idea that an unfaithful partner would cover their tracks more comprehensively. People are often astonishingly stupid when they are having an affair. Some people are so arrogant, they believe themselves to be bomb-proofed and a very small minority leaves clues so that they will be found out.

Just wondering if the OP has had any more information on the matter? Though judging from some of the replies she may well not want to post again.

But WWIFN and SGB you are both reacting to the OP in a detached, aggressive, academic and frankly rather strange way.

Who cares if she made a sweeping generalisation about men, she's upset and was posting rapidly. And I don't find her 'hostile'. How would you react after being attacked for simply airing your suspicions? Give her a break.

As I said earlier, this thought would not have crossed my mind re the sim car but it has crossed her mind - there is probably more there that she can't quite put her finger on.

A very close friend of mine (cutting a hugely long story short) found out her husband was cheating after being told by him, her parents, his parents, her friends that she was being paranoid for months and months. She'd felt it on instinct, but because she'd had 3 miscarriages in 14 months everyone put it down to her emotions/hormones. All she'd had to go on was a random card sent to her home address from a hotel, it didn't even have dh's name on it, or hers. When she called they had no recollection of a reservation in his name so it seemed to be a mistake with nothing untoward about it.
But guess what? Turns out he HAD been there with his mistress.

Actually, I was sticking up for the OP, proud .

I've got a few sim cards somewhere. Phone people gave one to me hoping I'd change networks and a couple came with new phones I've bought but replaced with my old sim. They've not been used so they're probably not valid now.

OP - if you feel suspicious then trust your instinct until you find out otherwise.

A stray sim card wouldn't ring any alarm bells for me as we always have loads lying around but it means something to you so keep your eyes and ears open.

Sorry WWIFN, was not concentrating.

Where is OP?

I think you are right to be concerned if it isnt something you would normally have lying around. Funny before MN I wouldnt have even noticed something like that but this forum and my own experience have changed my views

Hope it turns out to be nothing or rather a nice present or something

Insider dealing? I knew some rather shady characters who used to waft around the City with about three PAYG handsets.

I'd way rather have a DP doing a few shady deals than having an affair. That's quite depressing!

Hope you're okay OP.

any news?

I think the OP has had a rough ride here. She's got reason to doubt men from prior experience which is sad (and not true for all men) but I can appreciate where she is coming from.

A mobile phone or spare sim is worrying and she is obviously scared/shocked and posting how she feels. I hate to see her feelings minimised and dismissed so nastily although there is room for a differnet opinion on what the situation might be

Hmm

I don't say that she is paranoid, but it is a bit of a leap.

Has he recently bought a new handset? I am on a sim-only contract so if I want a new phone I have to buy one with its own Sim, start it up with that sim and then switch back to my own sim. I have several sims hanging around the house (and in the glove compartment in my car, come to think of it) for no good reason.

I think you need more evidence before you can believe he's having an affair

Hey, thejurysout, did you manage to get to the bottom of this?

Oh yes iv wondered about this too! Please come back and tell us what happened op

thread on watch.....

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OP hope there was an innocent explanation to this.

C'mon OP let us know if everything is ok !

Hoping the only reason that you haven't been back is because you are busy having a lovely Christmas time with your family.

Any news??

Are you all kidding? I don't trust anyone, not even myself sometimes! I have worked in media and banking and most of the men have er weak points. I have been hit on by age old friends of DH, married work colleagues...you name it. OMG a few beers and they are pathetic. Seriously, there are very few men out there who would not shag a cute woman when they are drunk.

Sounds cynical...ah well..comes with age. But knowledge is power. OP is right to be suspicious. Whenever I have been suspicious (and usually told to stop being so paranoid or whatever) I have usually found out I am right. Most men have no morals....I still like them though! Swim with sharks and all that...!

I am assuming that since the OP has disappeared......

Troll.

Just saying.

Sukie - if the OP found a sinister reason behind the SIM then they are likely concerned with trying to resolve some issues rather than updating MN