Could someone explain passive aggressive please

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Thanks.
I know I could look it up but I don't have the energy!
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I totally think so! You go, loves2! Hope to hear back :)

Oh we just had a massive blazing row! He came downstairs and just sat staring at me with a really cold look. I turned the tv off and was ready to talk but it so quickly descended into a bitchfest. I brought up the card and was told that he had bonner it as I 'obviously' didn't want it.

Later on in the row he called me a stupid cow and I went and got the card and ripped it up in front of him and threw the pieces at him. They are still there.

I tried to point out that you can discipline children with love - you don't have to be sarcastic all the time. He just basically made a derisive noise and rolled his eyes. I said that earlier I had asked her not to do something as it was annoying and she had looked a but crushed so I gave her a hug. He actually asked me to repeat that several times as he couldn't believe it. And then he said it was a total brainfuck as it would give her mixed messages. I said that the only message it would give is that I want her to stop doing xyz as it was a bit annoying but I still love her.

Later on I got a list of my daughters faults: apparently she is lazy, greedy, annoying, selfish and probably a few others I forgot. Bernese tgeconversTion by 'warning' me that he would be staying in his roomfor the be t dew days. I tokdhim not to leave it too long as we wouldn't be here when he came out. He said " oh good - it'll probably be tidied then"

Sorry about all the mistakes in the above post - am lying in bed posting from my phone and I couldn't see what I was typing

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For the record,the only message it would give is that I want her to stop doing xyz as it was a bit annoying but I still love her is good, healthy parenting. It sounds as though he was 'trained' rather than parented - very sad for him, but there ain't much you can do about it :(

He just came in and called me a liar as I had gone to bed 'claiming' to be tired at midnight and I was still up texting people and listening to the radio.

He then demanded to know what I was doing. I told him it was none of his business. He insisted so I opened the rightmove app on my iPhone and told him I was looking for houses. So he said "is this how its going to go - you threatening to move every time we have a disagreement?" I told him I couldn't be with him like this and he said "that's a bit of a big statement isn't it"

Oh and apparently him staying in his room all day is down to me also as I 'choose' not to interact with him. I just told him to go away and turned out the light. He is so nice 75% of the time but it is getting worse since we got married. Before then he was nice 95% of the time and even then I had niggly doubts. I've been putting it down to teething troubles as we haven't been living together long and we are still getting used to each other. Privately I have given it a year which will be July.

Chrysanthemum, this man is abusive. He wants you to obey him and spend all your time thinking about ways to placate him - he thinks that because he is the man of the house, everything revolves around him.
He is also bullying your DD.
You can't live like this and she shouldn't have to.

Oh my Goodness

He really is not doing you or your daughter any favours. Do you feel you could leave him? Is it possible, in practical terms?

I am so sorry for your daughter and for you, as well. you need to get this man out of both your lives before he does any more damage.

Whose is the house?

OK - I have done what was suggested and taken all my shit onto a separate thread :)

It's called Chrysanthemum38's story.