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please help me understand this...

61 replies

findingthisdifficult · 13/12/2010 21:03

There is this man - someone I used to be friends with but didn't know very well and I bumped into him recently. I think he's quite nice - not sure I'd want a relationship/fling with him but maybe... Anyway he suggested we went for a drink another time and we became friends on facebook. On facebook he said to let him know when I was free to go for a drink and gave me his phone number. (He knows I am a single parent by the way).

(By the way, as a single parent it's not easy to go out - takes a bit of planning but I have got a baby sitter this Friday).

I left it a few weeks before texting him because I have been busy and this is our bizarre conversation;

me; Hi, x did you get my message on fb? hope you're well.

him; haven't been on for a while. I'll have a look after I've had a bath. I'm guessing it didn't say you were popping round with bubble bath!

me; err no! and prob not worth looking now as I just said I thought you worked most evenings?

him; why you interested what I do at night?I'm like you, work all day and get bored most nights. Thats the zeros for you much preferred the 90's.

me; if you look at our conversation on fb you'll see why I said that. By the way I don't work all day and get bored at night!!

him;how would you describe yourself? if your not the lonely single type, do you have bubble bath and candles every night?

me; well thanks 4 describing me as lonely single type!

him; happiest people I know. They just take what they need and give back as much as they take and enjoy the flow. Seriously though, I don't really know you but always thought you were interesting though...

me; ok you're forgiven. Not lonely and only recently single though.

him; been longer that I care to mention - planning to get back in the saddle soon. If you do know any bored, lonely, available women let me know.

me; yeah will do but can't think of any though. What about yyy but don't think she's lonely though. but I may be free for a drink on friday to catch up if you're free.

him; She's not really my type. Prefer women with a bit more if you know what I mean. anyway, unless you're going to pop round, I guess this is goodnight. Sweet dreams.

me; did you read end of my message - I said I may be free on friday to catch up?

him; yes I did. Just thought you might like to catch up sooner. All this texting stuff is fun but I prefer the real thing and thought you were the same crazy type you liked the real thing! Night babes. XXX

can you help me make sense of this cos I would like a fling possibly with him but am confused. I didn't reply to last one by the way.

OP posts:
Gay40 · 14/12/2010 20:03

How strange. Who is this random?

Unlikelycrackerzonian...that has made me chuckle...although some woman beat you to it sadly (not sad at all)

UnlikelyCrackerzonian · 14/12/2010 20:13
Xmas Sad

Well I can be sad can't I?

Gay40 · 14/12/2010 20:17

Bless ya. If I ever find myself single, I'm send you a PM.

SerendipitousHarlot · 14/12/2010 20:26

Loving your style, Gay40..... keeping one in the pending tray Wink

Gay40 · 14/12/2010 20:27

Now don't get me wrong. I'm very happy with DP. I was just saying IF.

SerendipitousHarlot · 14/12/2010 20:40

Of course! I wasn't doubting your loyalty to your lady Grin

Gay40 · 14/12/2010 20:43

I'm all talk Grin

JingleBelleDameSansMerci · 14/12/2010 20:53

findingthis, you've asked/said a couple of times that he must have realised that you couldn't just pop round there and then as you have a child; that he must have realised how difficult it would be; etc. The reason he didn't make the logical leap is because he isn't/wasn't listening to you and he's only heard/read what he wanted to hear and see.

I had one of these for a while (I'm ashamed to say) and it's just pointless...

findingthisdifficult · 14/12/2010 23:27

thank you all for your unanimous verdicts. Had thought he could have become a friend and maybe more but he had no understanding/interest in my situation, was blatantly after just a shag (with anyone) and not even very attractive to boot. Not going to give him any more thoughts.

OP posts:
ChippingIn · 14/12/2010 23:32

Thank god for that.

emmyloulou · 14/12/2010 23:34

Phew.

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