Chin Up and Tits Out for the Recently Ditched No. 10

[googoomama]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Whether you are a new dumpling or a vet, feel free to join us in our quest for serenity
:) :(

getting - thanks, I will try (don't have a choice - he refuses to leave and inconvenience himself).

littlecritter - accept that on a bad day, you can't do alot, don't fight against it, just accept that you are having a bad day, and on a better day you will function better. Don't be hard on yourself. Hello to your dog!

Wise words pink

Soverign21 - I aspire to your detachment x

Deludedfool - shame you can't tell him you are having a divorce holiday to celebrate.

WherecanIhide- I have just put up with alot of stuff (won't go into details), and that makes me very angry, he could afford to move out.....he just wont't.

And I think he enjoys spoiling Christmas. And I will probably get all the 'never mind, at least it's our last one, can't wait for this to be over, just want to get rid of you and move on with my life......' He doesn't care what I do - as long as he doesn't pay for it. He has booked himself a couple of holidays in the near future, btw.

Yay to detachment (please).

Deludedfool - he is unbelieveable. You couldn't make it up. The audacity of it!

Karma karma Karma! [give it time]x

Just popping in to wish all you lovely ladies a peaceful Xmas and send some hope your way for 2011 to be a better year for all of you x

Love from

AF, concerned and sympathetic lurker x

Waves to AF hope Santa is good to u ,btw it was Af that said they are men not gods ,so true.2011 will bring me divorce and more freedom from the wanker I married,tis true 2010 has been a gift ,my advice is don't be a victim cry UR tears and get a good lawyer to give them the biggest boot in the bollocks they have ever had ,I've never tried the narc thing b4 but I am making a concerted effort for my X LOL x
Self loves rocks x

That's very nice of you AF, Happy Christmas to you too. x

Got lawyers letter this morning saying X has given his consent to divorce after 12 mths seperation .Bit emotional seeing it in black and white ,had a cup of tea and thought ,I wonder who I will shag next. Any way its operation SANTA.Presents have officially made it over the Clyde to drop off point .Awaiting further instructions from a good buddy who is helping with delivery after midnight ,told them they don't have to come down the chimney,the front door is cool,bought carrots for Rudolph so jobs a good un.

Where ,don't spend a second thinking about plumbers ,I know what you mean though ,you just don't need extra stuff atm real life is enough
Waves to sov and pink and all other muppet kindred spirits x

Hi everyone, ds and I are installed at my mum and dad's for Christmas. Couldn't face it alone. Hope everyone else is bearing up OK.

Those of us a few months in - perhaps we can cheer ourselves up with the thought that we never have to do the first Christmas again after tomorrow...

Ho ho ho everybody! Merry Christmas you lovely lot.
Have read everything but not much time here at moment. Patience - mixed emotions like Tea yesterday but you are going to have a fantastic year of field trips my dear, nowt surer!
Pink -wise words and I also agree about stiil clear waters (goodness knows I've met enough sharks already on my little journey). And I can't believe how far you've come having read your back story on your earlier post.
LC, Romney (HG), Fire, DF and Where - things will get easier and a great perspective to have Fire - you will never have to do the first Christmas again.
Lots of love to all of you wonderful and kind and strong and dignified and funny dumplings. My life has been so much more enriched by you in this past month than it has by any man in bloody years!

Waves to all........

As an early xmas present to myself I made an early morn dash to Norm for a quick s**g before he departs to family for xmas . Then went to supermarket for last few bits & all the homemade deserts were just being marked down to half price. I've got two large family trifles (for old times sake) & a fresh fruit pavalova. Have just had a large potion of each & a lovely cuppa. Ah bliss..........

Forgot to say y'day that Norm surprised me with a Phase eight dress & jacket for xmas!! First time in his life he ever did anything like that but he said as I'd such a great figure & love clothes that he decided to push the boat out & take a risk . You'd have to know Norm to understand how far out of his comfort zone doing something like that was . Will have to watch the eating though or I'd be morto if I can't fit into it after xmas lol..........

With regards to xh I'm going to rid my mind of any further thoughts of him & trust that all will go well in court case.

Well said goo

Lol at trifle starting have a mega time 2morrow with dcs

I've just posted on chat about friend with fractured skull.....Real emergencie.

Hello Ladies
On my own for first Xmas Eve ever - but wrapping pressies and listening to the best Dumpling song. 'You're History'

Listen to the words, remember how great you are and flaunt your fabulouslness

Great link Kate

Special glitter and with a reindeer snack as part of it sprinkled on the balcony (courtesy of pre-school, very cute), so Santa can find us. Glass of milk out, 2 mince pies and a carrot for the reindeer. NORAD track santa checked with DD and now kids in bed.

Time to wash up and pick up toys. This is very cool, first year where DD really understands and is excited.

Just been to ex's to say goodnight to my girls and read them a bedtime story.

He's not speaking to me.

Trouble in paradise? Seems like affairs are not so fun, exciting and sexy when real life impinges on their fantasy world and it's not just their delicious secret.

Happy Chrsitmas to the pair of them.

Funny that he wants to be friendly when he's shagging her in my bed - but when I send an email pointing out a few home truths...I'm the evil one.

Can't wait for the girls to come to me at 12.30...I've got them a couple of gerbils! I am going to video their reactions when they see them :D

On my own tonight, but feel OK - xmas eve is usually so rushed with me doing everything - but I am all sorted now...just waiting for older dd to come home tipsy from the pub! She's glad I won't be waking her at 6am so we can all see if Santa's been!

Kate - these men eh!

Hope your dds like their gerbils. I know I would have been thrilled with that suprise present as a child. x

Just watched nanny mc phee another classic and not a muppet in sight ,kids still up ,bath then bed x

Oh lord still watching telly here trying to be ok felt a bit tearful think I just need a fag! Boys are fine and I should just pull myself together! Afterall I was only seeing blokey for a year and so why am I so upset? Kate gerbils sound fab I would have loved that. And patience I love the muppets too never seen nanny mcfee but heard it's great. I'm in brace mode now for tomorrow, giving kids to ex half way through then being here until boxing day. Not even going to think about new year. Might be back later. Love to all dumplings :)

My dc's just gone up & I feel so blessed. The excitement was brill & it's more special as this is most certainly going to be my last year of eldest dd believing (she's 11 in Jan). There was a wierd flying object outside in the sky with a red light & all 3 dc's (and myself nearly lol) were convinced it was santa passing by lol. I also had a great idea if you recall I posted last wk that xh sent money in cards for dc's to get toys, well I didn't want to waste the money on even more toys (250) & seeing as I'd bought way too much for them anyway I gave them one present each tonight & told them I'd bought it for them out of money from xh . They were so so happy & I now have 250 to hit the sales with lol (only joking). Anyway, great night all round & when I think xh walked away from all that for a bit of excitement/ego boost! Madness, you could only feel sorry for them.

Kate, I think your right, reality will be like a bucket of cold water on that affair

Patience, glad you've enjoyed your night with dc's . Nanny McPhee is great

Tea, special glitter sounds great

Pink, I thought your friend was out of hospital will check chat now to see if I can find thread. Hope she will be ok (((((Hugs))))

Hope everyone is doing ok tonight. I know it can be v hard on your first year alone & worse I guess if you have to share time with dc's tomorrow. This is my 3rd year so I'm an old hand & consider myself blessed in one way that xh doesn't see dc's as I know I'd find it so so hard if I didn't have them tomorrow. So big hugs to anyone struggling atm.

Goo, you will have all the excitement of the morning with dc's & then put your feet up for afternoon & pig out with telly or have a nice bath & pamper day or read a good book or open a bottle of wine & read all the old dumpling threads . Be gentle with yourself & new year will be a new start. ((Hugs))

Pink, hope you managed to speak to your friend & that things are looking a bit more positive. Also hope 2011 will be a brighter year for both you & her ((Hugs))