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Karma

45 replies

GretelCoolio · 09/12/2010 16:21

First time poster here but had to share this.

Just found out this afternoon that my ex's partner, who he left me for, is possibly ill - getting tests done, etc. Now I wouldn't wish that on anyone but when he told me I couldn't help smiling inwardly. This is the woman who really broke my family up. So hey ho........

Is that bad?

OP posts:
SheWillBeLoved · 09/12/2010 16:24

Yes. Your ex is just as, if not more responsible for breaking your family up. I wouldn't smile over such a thing to be honest, even inwardly.

emmyloulou · 09/12/2010 16:25

I guess it's potentially serious?

So yeah I'd say it was ad, I wouldn't wish serious illness on anyone or smile tbh.

loopylou6 · 09/12/2010 16:27

Yes that us bad and shockingly so.Hmm

overmydeadbody · 09/12/2010 16:31

Yeah that is bad.

It was your ex who broke your family up, not you.

overmydeadbody · 09/12/2010 16:31

oops, meant to say, not her.

Catchthewind · 09/12/2010 16:32

How horrible.

Did you expect us all to cheer you on as you rejoice in her illness?

For Fucks sake.

wornoutbutstillwonderful · 09/12/2010 16:32

Heartless, nasty and pathetic post Gretalcoolio!

Catchthewind · 09/12/2010 16:33

'smiling inwardly'

All I can think to that is no wonder he left you.

Is that really what you are like?

Doha · 09/12/2010 16:36

Not a nice reaction but l can understand why you feel as you do.
Can't say with hand on heart that l wouldn't react in the same way.Blush

superv1xen · 09/12/2010 16:38

omg thats evil Angry

sounds like he was right to leave you if this is the kind of person you are. i sincerely hope she is ok and if not that she gets better.

Catchthewind · 09/12/2010 16:38

It's fair enough to lack compassion for someone but to actually be happy about it?

Bizarre.

JustifiedAncientandMad · 09/12/2010 16:39

My ex's partner (who he left me for) is mentally ill and I feel a great deal of compassion for her and have offered to support him (my ex)if he needs any practical help.

And agree, he broke your family up, not her.
Do you still harbour feelings of resentment? Sounds like you do. And I wonder what made you air such negative feelings on here?

NorthernSky · 09/12/2010 16:46

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MummieHunnie · 09/12/2010 16:55

I can understand you not wanting someone who was party to breaking up your family being around, and that it would be easier if they were off the scene, how long has it been since she broke up your family?

I would not wish bad health on someone!

NemoTheRedNosedFish · 09/12/2010 17:09

Blimey.

Op an inward smile is fine - as long as the outside world has no idea, you can think whatever you like. If my husband ran off with another woman, leaving me and dd, and then OW fell ill, I would not be falling over myself with concern and compassion. Not at all.

However don't let the earbashing you've got on here bother you, and don't let anger or resentment eat away at you.

NemoTheRedNosedFish · 09/12/2010 17:11

Btw I think the 'no wonder he left you' comment was out of fucking order.

We don't know the ins and outs, that was a low blow.

Sarsaparilllla · 09/12/2010 17:16

he broke your family up, not her

Totally agree, I'll never understand why people hold such resentment against the 'other woman' when they aren't the one betraying them so much as their (ex) partner

robberbutton · 09/12/2010 17:47

I sympathise OP :( I hope I wouldn't react like that. I actually found I could feel a little sorry for DH's OW as it sounds like her life was pretty shitty (and obv hasn't improved the last few weeks!).

But I don't want to be one of those replying no wonder he left you, how could you say that etc etc, because I can see how someone could, having spent the last few weeks struggling to breathe :(

raspberrytipple · 09/12/2010 18:14

Are you a troll trying to get women on here to reveal themselves as nasty an full of bile to spill about any bitch that takes our men an then start a good old man bashing? Only ask having seen a thread on another forum chopsing about MN and the thread was started not long before your first ever post on here. Last time it happened a few trolls wandered over to have a play..... If you are then, you're a bit sad. If you're not then to be fair, don't wish bad things on other people or be glad something bad had happened because what goes around does indeed come right back around.

NemoTheRedNosedFish · 09/12/2010 18:16
Catchthewind · 09/12/2010 18:48

Nemo my comment was based on what came across in the OP. I gave her a chance to back out of it by asking if she really is like that.

If she isn't, and phrased it badly, then of course it would be unfair to say no wonder he left her.

But if her attitude is as it appears then I can't imagine she is a very nice person.

I think it's a fairly 'low blow' to be pleased at someone else's illness.

GraceAwayInAManger · 09/12/2010 18:53

YABU

I was about to say I wouldn't be too upset if he got sick - not her - but actually I am never pleased to hear of serious health problems. I wish a certain amount of unhappiness on my XH and my evil ex-boss, but I believe their flawed characters will bring that on them anyway.

Vagabond · 09/12/2010 19:37

Ooooh, harsh lot on here tonight!

A long time ago at Uni my long-term BF left me for OW (let's call her Annie). Some months later at a pub with a large group, a mutual friend came in and said that Annie had had an accident. "What, did she break a fingernail" I said (thinking myself amusing).

The reply shocked me: "No, she's been killed in a car accident".

Everyone (including me) burst into tears. It was such a tragic thing to happen. I went immediately to visit XBF and he was devastated, a completely broken man. I don't think he ever recovered from her death.

I still feel guilty about what I said. I still think about Annie too and about how sad it was that such a young girl could die in such a tragic way.

DuelingFanio · 09/12/2010 19:38

yes, that's bad. What do you think this so called Karma is going to do to you now?

Vagabond · 09/12/2010 19:42

DF - was that for me?

If so, I can only say that I never, ever wished any ill on her. I just made a stupid comment that I forever regret.

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