Comments about body shape on first date?

[JustifiedAncientandMad]

If a man comments on your shape on the first few dates, is it a red flag? The story so far: First date "I can't tell what shape you are under those clothes", second date "I think Nigella Lawson's really lardy", third date "you like your cardies don't you?"

My answer is, yes I do, it's bloody cold. And I think Nigella is a goddess and consider myself fortunate to have a bod like hers (which I do). He seems nice apart from these comments, and I fancy him. But I fancy him less because of this. Would you bail or bother to find out more about him?

LOLOL Scruffyhound -- 'At least I can lose the weight, he cant get his hair back!!'

Bail

get shut of the twat

and tell him why

or better still, tell him it's because his cock looks tiny underneath his clothes

Back from my luverly work do - no available talent unfortunately but was sitting next to my rather gorjus but married boss with whom I had a good banter. This guy is out of order isn't he? How dare he question my wobbly bits? And thankyou to whoever it was who said "who doesn't love cardies?"

AnyFucker, I think that's likely to be the sad truth actually. He's far slimmer than I care for and there's absolutely no way now that I'd want to take my clothes of in front of him. He's blown it. Thing is though, I would never have said anything about his physique or that I like being with big men.

Wobbling off to bed now. Alone for the forseeable but with my self-esteem intact. Nigella-esque and proud :)

Just to say, I have got rid.

Thanks for giving me the impetus lovely MNers.
Glad it only took me a few dates to find out he was a twunt. And thank the lord I didn't take my clothes off for him. Very very very angry

Argh - glad to hear you did the sensible thing!

I thought I might add, in case it matters: for most of my dating years I was thin, fit, toned, etc. The body comments are just as much of a red flag under those circs! It doesn't matter whether the geezer implies you're 'lardy & cardi' or 'fit & funky'. It still means he's measuring you up with some two-dimensional cutout in his head. Run!

Bail.

Pst - I'm a dumpy 16 and my boyfriend makes me feel like venus.

The right man will.

Yes you are right Grace.

Bail

Most men I know, including dh, think nigella is gorgeous

at the poster who agrees she is lardy

When you dump him deffo point out that you find him too scrawny and feeble for your tastes, see how he likes it!

OP - very glad you've got rid of this man
mathanxiety - Who died and elected him judge of all he surveys? - great line - am going to get this printed somewhere so that I can read it every time my h opens his hyper-critical mouth so thank you for that :)

What is it about good looking men that makes them so vain and critical?

Bitter experience here too - so definitely bail. Keep the door open for someone with a better personality!

I don't know what makes them so vain and critical but you see it all over sit-comes... ugly, pudgy, baldy men with gorgeous wives/girlfriends, except Roseanne. lol

Twunt... lol. gotta remember that one.

Glad you got rid of him my fellow Rubenesque gal.

Ostracized my own hyper-critical H is now ExH. you are dealing with this situation. Speaking from experience, it's an uphill struggle maybe the hardest part is regaining your own sense that you are just fine the way you are, and things are just fine the way you do them. It's easier to do this after he's left...

Door, (scrawny) arse etc.

"ugly, pudgy, baldy men with gorgeous wives/girlfriends, except Roseanne. lol"

Have to disagree there GotArt I happen to think John Goodman is . . . phwoar

What does 'phwoar' mean? Do you like him? Sorry for being thick. I meant Rosanne wasn't herself the gorgeous wife you usually see.

Great post Grace. In fact all your posts have been so helpful. He left me a voicemail last night after I told him what I thought of him and I've deleted it without listening.

And here's a little gem...this man uses a "mini spirit-level" (his words) to straighten his pictures, I kid you not. Thought I was anal....

GotArt, I is Rubenesque, yay! Actually, don't his nudes have no tits? Mine are simply ginormous!

glad you dumped the loser

Bail. I drool at Nigella

"deleted it without listening" (I am so impressed, I am MUCH too nosey) BUT Nice one Justified So glad you got rid!!!

I had one like this after two (too many) dates I dumped him as he started to address me on e mails with "bint" and "wench"....ohh that makes me want to drop me knickers...the smooth operator....NOT.

But he had already decided that he "couldn't get me out of his head" (we hadn't even kissed ffs) and cyberstalked me for a good few weeks till I managed to get rid of the tosser by blocking etc, Twas a right pain and an annoying inconvience. Glad I listened to my alarm bells!!! EEEkkk!! I think even he would agree he was a right lardy munter too....Tsk.

I'm normally nosy as well pink but I just didn't want to hear what he said. He sent a text too and I managed to delete that as well without reading! I was looking forward to some nice dates over Xmas but never mind....

One of my first date questions from now on, will be "what do you think of Nigella"!