The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Players and Supporters Bus

[venusandmars]

Hi I am venus and I am an alcoholic.

Thanks to the first thread by Jesuswhatnow I have not had a drink for a long time.

There are lots of us on here, please lurk, post, whatever does it for you. If you are worried about how much you drink and your inability to stop when you want to, then someone on here can probably understand.

well, im off to bed!, going to do a bit of christmas shopping in the morning - btw, any ideas on what to buy dd gratefully accepted, so far i have got her a giant tube of jelly tots and a pair of tights! , not very inspiring really are they?

Oh JWN, you have just reminded me that originally when I left ex I rented what can only be termed as a really old house with potential:) and you know what it was the happiest I have ever been for many reasons, and still to this day (even though it is now been developed into offices) whenever I pass it I long for those days again!

What age is DD?

18 going on 28!

Oh . . difficult one then:)

you got that right!

sorry, have to go, dh needs to check his bids!, god alone knows what he is trying to buy!, i dont ask as i dont like the worry!, he is an eccentric shopper!

see you in the morning!!

L XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Hello, I am still around. I have friends coming to stay tomorrow so I've been cooking and cooking and cooking. Loads of things ready for dinner tomorrow so we can have a really good gossip (rather than me being stuck in the kitchen) and soup and pudding made for Sunday.

MY 'favourite house' was one that i moved into 2 years after xh and I split. I loved it and I planned to live in it forever. I felt free and independent and wonderful, and I was never going to be tied down to a man ever, ever, again. 2 weeks later I met dp, and eventually i realised that all our stuff (plus dds's) wouldn't fit into that place . He does know however that when he dies and I am on my own again, I am going back to live there

Wasindie hope you get a good rest - what a tough day you have had. Reverting to a comfortable habit is a very natural response. I am just hoping to develop some habits that don;t involve a bottle so that when big things hit, I can find comfort somewhere else.

JWN perhaps he is buying your Christmas present

psst!, whispers - i dont mind second hand diamonds or aston martins!!

really am off to bed now!!

night night!

Once again Venus you manage to say what I am feeling, I do associate that house with feeling free and independent, but also with possibility!
Think the only second hand clothes JWN would be wearing are vintage clothes which cost a fortune:)

Night JWN

BB and desire I love it when i come on here and see that a couple of people have been having a bit of a chat. Sometime on here it is feisty, sometimes encouraging, sometimes heartbreaking, and sometimes it is just sharing between 2 people who have a small but essential link. And all those things are what makes it possible to susutain a thread like this, and often to give support to people when they cry out for it. It is NOT about a few central characters, it is about a whole community and everyone has a part to play. A part to play in using the thread to help themselves, and a part to play when we respond to other people. It is never about clever words, it is about the genuine feelings from your heart when we understand the pain that someone else is experiencing or the shared happiness at waking up JUST ONE morning without a hangover.

In fact sometimes words might get in the way, so with that I'll shut up a bit (and go and see if my pears are cooked).

Night Wasindie, yes that is what you were supposed to feel but be glad that not only can you hold someone close tonight but that you too can be held close.
Oooooh, have to say that diamonds never appealed to me :):)

You still cooking Venus?? Productive evening for you so:) Whereas for me, most productive thing I did this evening was visit my mother and give her night medication. Came home, logged on here and at the same time listened to music . . but then again not often I get an empty house and can listen to music of my choice:):)

desire I have spent a long time today with my Mum - she has a degenerative illness and is increasingly dependent. She has accepted a wheelchair (which she has been in once) but almost as a reaction against that, she thinks she wants to drive again.

My reaction to that is 'AAArrggghhhhh!!!' but I can understand the awful dilemma going on in her head about losing her independence, so today was not the day for arguing with her, it was a day for listening. And listening and listening. Often to the same things over again, or to things I heard earlier this week or last week. I am sure you understand.

Oh I most definitely do understand Venus, listened to my mother this evening telling me about something that had happened to her today and that had totally upset her, and really underneath everything I knew that the part that had upset her was the fact that it threatened her independence. She is a strange combination of a person, wants to be seen as independent, but at the same time she wants to be seen as someone who needs looking after.
We have quite a history together and I have so many reasons to hate her but at the same time I feel sorry for her and realise that she is lonely and I know that I empathise with her because I too am lonely.

Cooking finished - I'm knackered. Off to bed. Sleep well all.

It is such a weave of emotions desire. Enjoy your peaceful house tonight, and enjoy a peaceful wakening tomorrow x

Night Venus - have to share something weird . . been listening to I tunes on the computer while online, just as I posted message to you can you guess what song was playing ... "nobody wants to be lonely" by Ricky Martin and Christina Aguilera:):)

Night everyone, talk tomorrow!

Morning.

Morning noteven I am here and online if you are needing a chat. How you feeling?

Morning babes. It's the weekend! Who has good plans for sorting things out, and for being kind to themselves?

Who is waking up without a RAGING hangover?

Who needs to chat? Clamber aboard for today's trip on the battle bus.

Morning everyone how are you doing?