No , i dont , but i think it might make you feel better and take some of the power of him. I dont think id bother whether he opened up or not.
The prospect of a split is probably quite devastating to you at the moment , so if its not an option for now , id focus on ways to cope . This is what id do , hes already " offered " you access to the other account , so use it . Just get the card and use it , no attempts to discuss .
The silence when asked about weekends is yet another game he plays and an attempt to control. Id ask him once and if theres no response simply state youll be taking them out or whatever . Dont mention it again.
Id make plans with freinds , id be out a lot , and i would just disengage and i wouldnt ever ask him how he feels about this or that. Start focusing on yourself and leave him to his silly games , which is what they are . Have long baths in the evenings , call a freind , just dont be available to listen to him. Why should you ?
And if the prospect of doing that makes you feel shaky and awful ,you need to examine that closeley. Whats the worse that can happen , what could he say , what outcome could there be ?
Hes worked really hard to make sure that your focus is on him constantly , you need to start undoing that . Perhaps start thinking of him in terms of a sulky teen . I suggested reading those books , researching witholding ect because once you read them youll see this for what it is , a well documented tactic to control you which is cruel , premeditated and designed to keep you focused on him .
I would warn though , that generally what happens when one method of control stops working another one is quickly employed .My ex did this . I literally gave up , stopped trying to talk to him and just got on with my own life. He was outraged that his supply of constant attention was cut off and resorted to ridiculous measures to reengage , from telling me dramaticly that he was going to lose his job , that so and so had said something unkind about me , that he was thinking of getting a job in another country, in the end he signed up for internet dating and would leave the page up so i could see it.
He tried everything he could to piss me off and get a reaction .
He was an emotional black hole , no matter how much attention you threw in it was never enough. Dont think for one minuite that he gets annoyed when you try to talk , he loves it. After all , a simple conversation could resolve it yet he chooses not to and instead keeps it going. Ask yourself what hes getting out of it .
If my options were to either resolve a simple issue or keep having it raised , i think id resolve it . Unless i enjoyed it.