Total dickwad - something funny to take the piss? Advice please.

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OK this follows on from my thread yesterday about men/trusting them etc....well...........

Ugh

Lent new bf my car this weekend to "visit a friend and drop him off with his skis". He sent me a chatty text about how he had to go away and how expensive car hire was.

Leaves his phone in my car by mistake after he drops it off. Can't help checking his inbox to see who's texted him. Yes it's a trust issue.

Lots from a girl called A. About this weekend...hmmm...anyway something about "looking forward to lots of sex". I then phone her, and actually end up aShe and I end up in total shock, as we both thought we were in exclusive relationships with this fucktard guy.

Going through his phone I then discover he's been seeing two other women as well.

Obviously there aren't really words to describe him but I'm MOST pissed off about borrowing my car, apparently for a boys weekend (there was a whole elaborate lie about this) to go on a romantic "fuck me senseless" weekend.

And OBVIOUSLY I'm going to dump him. But...I want some kind of fun revenge. I have his phone with all of his contacts.

Before you tell me this is immature and I'm better off without him, I know. But I want a last laugh : )

OK - i'm late to this, but what i'd do is post it back to him, having moved all numbers on one. So friend A has friend B's number, and so on, throughout his phone. if you do'nt have the time to do this with all of them, just do the female names.

Or the idea of getting all the various woman to text him they are pregnant on the say day is particularly good.

Haha how do you move all the numbers on? btw LOVE your name!!

Hmmm - but he is a "new" boyfriend - yes? So really what kind of expectations should you have with someone you don't know that well? All sounhds completely nuts to be honest - you don't even know the guy and you are meddling around with people from his past!!!??? He was continuing to play the field from what you are saying - yeah right - not really worth getting your knickers in a twist about in my opinion. People do this kind of thing all the time, especially early on. Just drop him like a hot potato because he sounds like a total prat.

tadpoles she's known him 4 months so I'm not surprised she's smarting!

Ive just read this back and I have to say, leave well alone now. I thought it was funny at first, getting in touch with his current gf's but you said one was either nine years ago or a nine year relationship?

I can give you an example. A friend of mine was involved with a similar womaniser, she got intouch with a girl who she had guessed was involved with him on facebook. She wanted to have a mutual moan about this guy. It turned out this girl had given 12 years of her best years to this bloke, in the meantime he had married and had kids and never told her. She miscarried with him, twice thinking she was the only one. It took her another five years to get over him. Consequently when my friend tried to slag this bloke off the girl was straight on the phone to him. He then raged at my friend for dragging his past up. It opened a whole can of nasty worms and my friend felt dreadful.

Leave well alone now. You've had your fun.

Four months aint all that. If you carry on you are going to end up looking silly.

Ummm Kittya I have left well alone now. I've posted his phone back to him today and said I don't want to see him again.

FWIW I didn't call the ex to slag him off. At that time I was hoping to maintain contact with him, and I guess I was after a reason to say that I should.

So all good - it's over now. But he did throw all moral rules out of the window when he borrowed my car to go on a shagfest - after he asked if we could not see anyone else!

This thread has made me feel a bit ouchy as it reminds me of ex boyfriend who cheated and has bought back some of the awful feelings...I found out cos the cheatee sent me a text from his phone boasting about it (nice girl).

That was horrible and really upset me.

Basically, he's a twat. Allow yourself to feel pissed off and angry (because he has behaved horribly), then forgive yourself and move on.

As for all his crap, he's ruined his own life (melodramatic nonsense). Showing the other side of the coin there isn't he.

Janos what a horrible girl - she no doubt was highly insecure and unhappy to feel the need to show off like that.

He - is simply a waste of space. Deserves no more time, but I, on the other hand....am going to use my twat radar far more honestly, weed them out early on, and keep my standards high

That is actually quite exciting.

Dont worry about it. A man once asked me for the cab fare to go to the airport it was to meet his other lover and take her on holiday!! we've all been there!! I hope there are some decent ones out there, if you find out where they hang out, let me know!!

You did well to post it back, if it was me I wouldve thrown it away.

Tempting as it is to get in touch with the other women you often find that they dont have a bad word to say about the git!