Just found porn sites on hubbies computer

[lollypoplady]

Am feeling a bit like I've been cheated on, it's all a bit confusing can't work out exactly how I feel?! I'm 8 months pregnant with DC 3 and we haven't had sex since baby was concieved....

nothing wrong with a nice bit of titty and minge

Maybe I should start looking at it too accidently leave a magazine full of hot men on my bedside table along with a vibrator

good idea, lolly

hully

It's a plan, might even convert me long term, haha ! Actually I wonder what most porn surfing dh's would do in that situation?!

we don't even need men any more, do we ?

tell him that the inadequate tosspot

I don't find porn that offensive, I just wish he'd prefer to spend his time with me. And yes I know he's shitty about it but he's so lovely in other ways that I guess I'm just trying to put it in perspective? You've made me wonder though...

dawny...wonder a little bit more about your husband's utterly patronising attitude towards you

and then have a think about why you fall in line with it

wonder what Dawny?

how old are your porn preferring DH's, i wonder

Why I have accepted it.

I guess in the bigger picture it's just not that important a problem in my life.

He genuinely is a nice guy. He just likes a bit of porn now and then. I like spending his money on clothes and cars so I'm not perfect either.

< is without words >

TDaDa mines 29, why?

Did I just render anyfucker speechless?

yep,you did!!

can you see why tho?

yes, dawny, you did

Not really, which is rather worrying. Have I become a doormat?

if your husband prefers to spend time looking at porn than being with you....

Dawny, I kind of agree with you. My DH looks at porn and it doesn't bother me the least. It doesn't make him any less interested in me, and to be honest, sometimes he seems to learn quite nice tricks. I simply don't feel threaten by it at all.

I'd say she does feel threatened by it, but her husband has chosen to ignore this and disrespect her feelings entirely.

I don't mean all the time, I'm probably giving the wrong impression here. He looks at it occasionally, I know cos I've caught him, I think 'why didn't you come and find me rather than just look at it online', I have said as much to him, he says sorry but he's only male, and it carries on.

Now I explain it fully, I'm not sure that it does bother me that much. We have a pretty good sex life so I'm probably making a fuss over nothing. If he want to act like some sad old man occasionally (he's 35) then I'll let him get on with it.

He doesn't smoke, or drink, or take drugs, or piss off out all the time, or hit me or the kids, or keep all his money and leave us to starve, etc etc, so on the whole I reckon he's not a bad bloke. I'm probably more of a pain in the arse than he is.

"he's only male"

"boys will be boys"

and other stupid, shallow generalisations

do any of these men have daughters ?

do you ladies ?

I don't have daughters, but if I did, and they liked to read cliterati, to mention one of the sites some women like reading, it wouldn't bother me either.

JA...fictional erotic writing is not usually harmfu to women

porn is

haven't you noticed ?

harmful