husband wants to watch me touch myself

[nattnoobies]

ive been married for 3 years and hes never asked anything like this before. he likes to be on top facing a mirror (so he can see himself ) is this normal i feel embarressed to touch myself infront of him with him watching

sounds normal to me... I thought mutual mastubation was perfectly "regular" in a lot of relationships, but if you aren't comfortable doing it, talk about it and make sure he doesn't pressurise you into doing something you really don't want to do

I like it. Why don't you try it to see if you like it and if you don't like it, stop.

I don't know that it is regular practice actually. Sounds like it's from porn. I don't suppose it causes any harm but if you are uncomfortable with it then don't do it.

thanks for your advice

natt - it's quite a normal request, most guys like it It wont hurt to try will it and if you don't like it, you don't have to go it again... no biggie.

very normal request

why wouldn't he want to see you enjoying yourself

all you can do is give it a try and see if its for you or not

I'm a bit worried DH and I might be perverts.... :o lol

Perfectly normal. Enjoy!

LOTF if you and your DH are then me and mine must be too.

Perfectly normal imo.

Hahaha!! are you serious?

If you're embarrased to just be watched, try stimulating your clitoris while he's inside you. That way, he can't see much but he can feel it. And it's more of a shared act than a single act being watched iyswim.

You might even build up confidence to go solo another time.

Perverts here too. It's a great way to have lazy sex!!!

Love it - give it a go

by regular I meant "vanilla", not "often on the menu", just to make myself clearer

Well it's fairly mainstream behaviour, and often recommended by fairly mainstream sex therapists as a way of a woman showing a man what works best for her (as everyone's responses and sensitive spots are different). If you're really not happy with the idea it's worth working out why. For instance, is it because you were told that 'nice' women don't play with themselves? Or is it that in your case, you think your H wants you to 'perform' for his entertainment and you're not happy to do that?

Entirely normal. Me and DP do it most times we have sex. Me usually when he's inside me, him usually when I get bored of giving him head lol. Occasionally just purely so the other can watch. I like watching him if we are both doing it, but he will watch me without doing it himself as well.

Good post SGB

Normal. Give it a try and if you're not into it, don't do it. :)

It's normal. My DH loves it. It's more weird that he likes to watch himself in the mirror. Bit odd that.

Do whatever you fell comfortable with.

My DH does the mirror thing too, I'm not sure if he's watching me or him

Some guys like to watch the whole thing in a mirror not just themselves iyswim. I like that, it's v hot. Touching myself in front of a guy was more something I did when I was younger in relationships but not after 7 yrs of marriage I can't be bothered.